Types of sexual attraction

The target of each type of attraction can be anything from a fetish object to a type of personality. The target varies, the type of feeling is either of the two (+1).

Moth-to-a-flame -attraction

This type of attraction is the kind that you can’t resist regardless of how dangerous or taboo it is. Most typically, this is a sexual attraction to a beautiful woman with no regard to the consequences, but it is not necessarily limited to it. It could also be an attraction toward dangerous men and situations, or a good number of things, but not everyone feels this toward anything or anyone.

I can personally describe this to the only lesbian-attraction that I feel, with a strong off-the Normal Person*. When I see a beautiful woman in a sexual situation, I am drawn to see her. However, what I am attracted by is the situation she is in, or the moth-to-a-flame attractiveness men would feel toward her. My own sexuality is directly linked to the sexual pleasure of men (compersion), hence I am attracted to beautiful women in the sense of strong curiosity of “what’s going on in there?” -type of feeling.

With me, the spell is broken the instance there’s any intent in her part to make me a part of her sexual fantasies – as in, if her lesbianism is awoken by my curiosity, I snap out of it instantly to protect my personal space.

In any case, this type of attraction is short-lived and easily “out of the system”, unless that person or object is constantly around you. This is also the most dangerous type of attraction as it’s sudden, strong, and easy to act on an impulse or while intoxicated. It seems to blind a person momentarily and affect their good judgment the most.

Sexual attraction toward a specific feeling

You can also be sexually attracted to another person’s energy-field, their personality, their feelings. This is a feeling you get when you want to merge with that person’s energy field, or soul, if you will. You want to sync your own feelings with theirs, share their experience of who they are and give them your energy to fuel their sexual pleasure.

Similarly, you can be attracted to the energy of a person’s intelligence, the feeling of it, rather than the actual function of intelligence.

To me, this feels like the need to get as close as possible to a man’s chest, if that man has a powerful energy. I am drawn to a man whose energy is strong and proud with humility, heroic energy. A heart of a superhero.

Also, the sexual intelligence, the energy of the sexual mind of a man is a turn on for me.

I would never call this physical attraction, although most men I feel this way are handsome men, due to the personal pride -factor.

This type of attraction can also draw people into dangerous situations because they are drawn to that energy. HOWEVER, this is the TRUE attraction, the best kind there is and can lead to the most fulfilling sexual relationships possible for humans to experience. People with dark desires should do some soul searching to find a satisfying variant of this type of attraction that doesn’t lead to death in the hands of the lover, (but bring you close to it, safely!) This type of attraction is about finding the sweet spot between pleasure and pain – and can also include emotional pain (cheating, etc) as well as physical pain.

Fantasy-driven pseudo attraction

I don’t truly believe in such a thing as physical attraction, but this is as close to it as possible.

This is the type of attraction you feel for someone typically good-looking or someone who you feel like you “should” feel attracted to even though you don’t. It’s the feeling that you shouldn’t, by any logical means, consider this person… shall we say “not-fuckable”, but you simply find it difficult to be turned on by them.

Therefore, you resort to types of fantasies to spur this feeling on. When used by closet homosexuals, these fantasies are often linked to the feelings of how their same-gender friends would react if they knew you’re fucking this person, male or female. “My dudes think I’m a stud” or “my girls think I’m a vixen”. Alternate feels for married people: “other men will think my wife is beautiful” or “other women will be jealous for my husband.” For heterosexuals, alternative sexual fantasies come to the aid, you’ll play your favorite erotic scene in your head to aid the sexual intercourse with this (ordinary/boring) person.

This is not a true type of attraction, but rather replacement arousal. It is also the only type of attraction that is never dangerous, but it also never truly fulfilling, either.

(Most parent-child problems arise from a parent’s fear of true desire, and their need to protect the child and limit them to fantasy-driven sexual relationships only.)

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