Soul ages in terms of false ego
I used to be obsessed with soul age levels when I first started in spirituality. They explain so many differences in people, but they are also one MASSIVE area to study in themselves. Therefore, the following is ROUGH and it’s still under works, as I put the entirety of soul age levels in the too hard basket for now. Therefore, whatever is here, is a work in progress and somewhat of a rough draft. However, it’ll give you an idea.
The soul ages do reflect the development of a person from infancy to maturity and old age. However, a soul never withers and dies, only the body does. So the lessons that a person learns will be transferred into the new body, and some souls are born with MORE instinctive understanding about life than others.
One big part that is missing from here is how different soul ages view sexuality. Let’s just say it gets better with age and youth is wasted on the young, but… As our soul ages, we will also be reborn as older souls into baby bodies, so… The future looks bright. True sexuality awakens only in the romantic soul age level.
For a soul age noob: a person’s soul ages independently from the body, but you can recognize markers typical to a physical development level to those who develop in conjunction with the physical age: old souls. Old souls develop to maturity more or less in sync with the body, but young souls only as far as their soul age have developed so far and whatever life lessons makes them grow further.
Anyway, this is in terms of false ego:
Young souls (Immature souls)
A baby soul
A baby believes that they are worthy of love No Mattar What. They can poop their pants, cry all night, and throw a tantrum over a green pea if they like and still be loved, cared for, consoled, and nurtured. They equate love as the love of a patient parent who will never lash out at them. The false ego isn’t really built, it exists: “People should love me no matter what.” (Amber Heard (baby) and Johnny Depp (the parent).)
A Baby Child
Sometimes young children master manipulation so well, that they believe themselves to be gods. They deserve love, everyone’s primary calling should be to love them, and they manipulate the ways their subordinates show them love. Will snap out of it when an Elder dumps them.
A child soul
A child soul has understood that love and acceptance depend on how you behave. You get love when you are behaving well. An adult in this emotional development phase is trying to do everything by the book, follow some kind of a guide book in order to be a good person and thus loveable. “I’ll follow the rules, then, I deserve a reward.”
When a child is learning to follow the rules, they can easily slip back to the baby phase out of frustration for the rules being too difficult to follow. (Amber Heard, again.)
Normally, a child soul can get very sanctimonious about receiving love. “LOOK, I’m a good person. You HAVE TO give me my reward; love.” The lie is to oneself: “I am lovable, they are faulty.”
A child’s soul believes everything is done by the book. They marry by the book, they fuck by the book, they raise their children by the book. And, if you’re an Elder, not living by the book, this is when the child soul starts bashing your head with their book: this is the blind leading the seeing (by force) -situation.
(Speaking of fucking by the book, the child soul may have a bit of bravado about sex. They’re not very good at it, but they’ll try to prove themselves sexually, by making the act itself kinda weird and over the top in “action”. NOT to be confused with the elders who have a very complex natural sexuality. Elders need sex for themselves, both men and women, but child souls try to impress others by sexual behavior… And often interpret other’s sexuality to be a way to impress them, too.)
A child soul, in adult age will learn certain basic skills well, (cooking, cleaning, child-minding, an intellectually non-demanding paying job, etc.) and stick to them, while they still revert to the baby stage at times for unconditional love and support.
A Pre-teen soul
A pre-teen realizes that wait a second, it’s much more efficient to be FUN rater than simply obedient in order to gain love. It’s important to be good-humored and witty, maybe pretty or handsome and nice to be around, THEN, you deserve love. A pre-teen learns the love-triggers, beauty being the first one most understand. They already know the key to love.
The pre-teen is too hopeful for false ego. They think whatever is wrong, will fix itself in time. No need to fret.
A teen soul
A teenager becomes acutely aware of the suffering of others and the selfishness of people in general. For a while, they have no time for their own problems as they simply moan the state of the world and all creatures in it. They lash out at inconsiderate behavior, their parents and siblings inconsiderateness, irresponsibility, and selfishness. To them, the most important thing is to heal everyone… But they don’t have the maturity to do it, yet. They don’t understand WHY people do this, and therefore, they can’t truly persuade anyone to stop, either.
At this phase, the ego is directed at ones own virtue “I am saving the planet, I am better than others.” And truthfully, it’s difficult to argue against that logic, either. They try to heal others, sometimes intrusively and clumsily, and sometimes, perhaps, doing more damage than good.
A teen soul can wear themselves out with the worries of the world, without being able to help much at all.
Mature levels (old souls)
A Romantic Soul Level
A young adult realizes that okay, although that’s all fine and dandy to try and be loveable and a good person and try to heal everyone and be everything to everyone, but sometimes we love people for non-sensical reasons and truly, being a certain way gets you FAR, but it’s not ALWAYS the ticket to happiness. At the same time, they realize that love isn’t something you deserve, TRUE LOVE is something that happens… Because it does.
A person at this age finds it easy to find love directed at them, but they find it a ton more difficult to find people they get excited about and fall for themselves. They have realized that true love is very much a chemistry thing, depends on the individual’s personality, not how well they do stuff by the book.
As this happens, they start lying to themselves less and less – or, rather, stop lying to themselves more and more. They start uncovering their authentic self, the part of themselves that they know is the trigger for true love – not their external deeds and know-how, but do-how. HOW you do the same things everyone does, the attitude of it, rather than WHAT you do.
WHEN they fall in love, truly, the worlds’ problems become easier to handle, greed goes away, things that were important before are not so important anymore. That true love creates a sanctuary for them to work from. They LEARN what is truly important in life, and realize that the suffering and pain in this world is due to the lack of romantic love. They become incurable romantics. Love-obsessed. And this won’t leave them in their future lifetimes.
Many children are BORN at this age, and they skip the previous phases almost entirely or speed through them as if they were born at 25. Lock-In-Place -life lesson. A CLEAR level up.
However, if true love doesn’t find them in their current lifetime, by… 28, 35? this is where many people start to feel that it’s better to resolve to ignorance, bury the head in the sand and not look at the suffering of others, and not concern oneself with such things as “true love”, and simply STABILIZE their lives to something AGREEABLE, rather than perfect. They settle. However. This is OFTEN simply a temporary state of mild depression.
Romantically Frustrated Adult Soul
A Romantically Frustrated Adult souls start to put all of this together in a manner from back to front. If they’ve done the stabilizing thing, they may now hit a massive midlife crisis. They realize self-care is important, they have to make sure that THEY are not a problem to the rest of the world, while they spend less time worrying about it and truly, the only person they can control is themselves. Fix me first, then try to fix others. This is the “leave me alone” phase. “You don’t have to like me, but you’ll have to leave me to my life.” The underlying motivation is to restore the effects of the Romantic Phase.
An adult soul is SUPER VIGILANTE on their own false ego and traces of it. Sometimes frustrated, because they cannot always erase all false claims, but their PRIMARY TASK, almost, is to erase the lies they tell themselves in order to be loved and approved of. The Adult soul primarily seeks APPROVAL (“accept I am good enough, thank you!”) rather than love, but they DEEPLY, TRULY wish to find true love again.
Truly Loved Adult Soul
(No false ego to speak of, but I’ll add this here anyway for continuance.)
A mature soul finds the wisdom and flow of life. They parent with ease and live their own lives with the same level of ease, too. They learn to focus on what is important; family, friends, love. They try not to be the problem in the world and help within their own limits. They stop demanding too much of themselves, but also not to let themselves off the hook whenever something becomes too difficult to handle.
And this phase is what people deepen and deepen once they get older and older in soulage.
An Elder
An Elder is still the same Romantic as they were before. They know the most the important thing in a person’s adult life is romantic love, and they work toward achieving that, again. They may be at times cynical about it, tho. However, the older the Elder, the more they have on their plate simultanously.
An Elder might need a bit of ego, but now, the direction of the lie changes. They lie about themselves to others, but only to the extent where it is helpful to them and harmless to others. “If you lie, at least don’t lie to yourself.”
An Elder adds stuff to their list of capacities. They learn to keep ALL THEIR PREVIOUS AGES with them at all times, they learn to play again, be responsible of others and master love. They become ABLE to love people OUTSIDE their own family and circle of friends, and not by trying to make others into their own image but by who they are. They learn to support other’s individuality and uniqueness, and they get better, and better at this over time. They increase the natural load they take on (again) as time goes on.
If an old soul decides to GROW FASTER for any reason (and there are reasons), as we take on bigger tasks, the ego comes to play again. Ego, here, is readjusting the fence around a person. “LOOK, I know I’m not there yet, but I’m trying.” This, even when the person knows they don’t know what they are doing, are stuck, and feeling a bit helpless and inefficient, and KNOW IT. They also know what they are trying to do is important and that they have it in them, but they simply need time to do it. And this often requires a bit of smoke and mirrors; a false ego to get you approval while you’re doing something others don’t understand. The old soul simply wants approval, respect, and trust from others, no longer love and nurture. They’ll settle for approval as long as it gives them the space they need to evolve further.
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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