Strong feelings = True Emotion Mirror / Precious Soulmate?

There is a reason to question that are ALL strong feelings toward a person a sign of a True Emotion Mirror or a Precious Soulmate. Sometimes, we hate the person we love more than anyone, and we kinda know that’s a True Emotion Mirror or a Precious Soulmate. Is it always that way?

The way I see it, there is a good indicator to say which is which. When it is a True Emotion Mirror (sexual/romantic) connection, or a Precious Soulmate (non-sexual, friend, family -connection), or an unrequited sexual romantic connection, the feeling is: “Deep down, I love you, but truly, I hate you because (I think) you don’t love me back.” The fact that you hate someone for not loving you is not, in itself a sign of a True Emotion Mirror connection, but what is a sign of a non-True Emotion Mirror connection (you’re safe to walk away) is the fact you hate them for something you can define and explain, that is NOT “I hate you because you don’t love me back”.

With a non-TrEmoR / Precious, the explanation is clear

You could write a novel about why you hate someone when the feelings are as strong as with a True Emotion Mirror or a Precious Soulmate, and not one of them is “I hate you because you don’t love me”. You can define it very clearly, more than likely.

In some cases, when you don’t KNOW a person but instinctively hate them anyway, it’s less defined: “I hate you, I don’t know why, but it’s not because you don’t love me”. If you get to know the person, the reason for your feelings will come clear later on.

You do not have to worry this person is your True Emotion Mirror and that you’ve linked to them forever. Another sign of a True Emotion Mirror / Precious Soulmate is that you’re more afraid of losing them to whatever horrible thing they did, than worried that you’re tied to them forever. You’re NEVER worried that your True Emotion Mirror / Precious Soulmate is tied to you forever, you’re worried they’re not. However, if you are worried that someone isn’t tied to you forever, that doesn’t, in itself, guarantee they’re a TrEmoR or a Precious Soulmate.

Why is this even a problem?

If you come reading this from the perspective of finding reasons to hang onto someone, you might wonder why someone needs to know a person ISN’T their True Emotion Mirror or a Precious Soulmate. They view the question from a perspective, where they fear they might be making a mistake leaving someone who they, by their gut, hate, but they fear it’s a spiritual/psychological challenge, something they need to grow to accept, that the feelings they have are about a True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate connection and that they’ll do themselves a disservice if they end that relationship on a “lower” emotion of hate and discord.

I believe, however, that this fear of acting on your so-called negative emotions is what creates unhealthy karmic bonds. You keep forgiving stuff you should have never forgiven, fearing that it’s the pathway to some kind of salvation. It isn’t. My perspective is that forgiveness is what allows evil to grow. I don’t condone capital punishment or anything, but if someone is just a plain asshole, the right thing to do is to act on your AUTHENTIC, current emotion and walk away. If it turns into true love later, you’ll find out. There’s no REASON you need to act AGAINST your emotions, as you should only use logic to SUPPORT your true action, to find CONFIDENCE in what you WANT TO DO, as LOGIC is what gets us into trouble in the first place.

Examples

Logic: “This might be your True Emotion Mirror, act against your instinct and stick around.” Also logic: “It is unlikely this is your True Emotion Mirror if you truly just want to cut ties. It is safe to do so.” Emotion: “Get the hell away from this person, don’t ever speak to them again.” Act on emotion, not logic. Use logic to UNDERSTAND your authentic action to give you peace of mind, not to override your authentic action.

Clear emotion contrasted with conflicting knowledge: “I WANT TO (because it feels pleasurable to) stick around for this person, but it looks really bad as we fight a lot and people say it’ll never stop. I don’t want to be stupid. I’ve also read that can have really horrible fights.” My advice: Risk being a little stupid, keep your eyes open but your guard down. Be ready to dodge, rather than to shield yourself. Shields usually don’t do very good job of creating healthy relationships when they get bad to start with.

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