Pitfalls to avoid if you are a Savants*
There are some common pitfalls the polite the Savants* fall into before they become aware of what they’re prone of doing. In many ways, the Savants* can become the victim of their own values, philosophy, and wisdom, and shoot themselves in the leg with it. Let’s just take a step back and notice certain areas where we must learn to keep our eyes open… And yes, I’m speaking from a personal lesson learned the hard way. :p
Questioning yourself because it’s the wise thing to do
No wise man was born wise. If they were, they’re Dalai Lama, and I could teach him a thing or two, given the chance. :p (The die is cast. 😉 ) Wisdom comes from making mistakes, learning lessons, questioning one’s own knowledge and ideology, and more than anything questioning the common beliefs and habits.
As a Savants*, you know this. You are more than prone to take advice from people less enlightened than you because they seem certain about what they are teaching. They’re not. They’re testing your certainty about your philosophy, by pushing their ideas at you by force. If you cave, they figure you weren’t certain enough. This may be so, but you should learn to argue your point until you’re certain that you’re right, and not allow the wish for peace between you and your opponent to get in the way of the truth and learning.
Blind leading the seeing
I may be somewhat of a pot calling a kettle black, here, but referring to the previous point, I’m yet to meet a person who can convince me I don’t know what I’m talking about, although I know how to question my previous convictions. However.
the Normal Person* are pretenders by their very nature. They largely believe that if someone is talking about something that sounds cool, but that they, themselves do not have experience in, they are more than prone to think that this person is pretending, too. As in: I have a True Emotion Mirror. To many people, the stories of psychic connection, telepathy, not to mention the identity of my many True Emotion Mirrors sounds cool to those who believe me. This, to the Normal Person*, is enough of a reason to believe that I read something about Twin Flames, and I wanted to create my own false version of it to sell a website or whatnot, and that the whole thing is bogus. Now, the Normal Person* doesn’t know ANYTHING about True Emotion Mirrors but that doesn’t stop them from pretending to know, and learning to know in order to apply for a job at a company that sells True Emotion Mirror -information.
A Normal Person* doesn’t understand why having personal experience in something matters, as long as their teacher has taught them to give a convincing performance of a True Emotion Mirror teacher. They will also always try and adapt the information to suit their own needs: namely to convince the Savants* to stop seeing personal happiness and devoting their lives to the servitude of the Normal Person*, which, in reality, is the Normal Person* quick route to personal happiness: “Serve me, that should be your highest calling.” the Savants* should be very aware of this the Normal Person* trait, they do want to obligate others into their own servitude, and rather hypocritically accuse the Savants* of selfishness when they fail to not devote their own life and goals to benefit “the weak” as in the “overlord” the Normal Person*.
Taking the non-intuitive advice sounds like a smart thing to do
the Savants* tend to think that if a well-meaning person is advising them to do X when the Savants* wants to do Y, and Y feels like the tempting option in every way, they tend to believe that the boring, laborious, tedious, and not very tempting option X must be the right answer, otherwise, why would someone advise you to take it? At the end of the trials and tribulations lies true happiness, right? A life spent in Hell will wind up in Heaven, no?
You should carefully study advice toward X. Why does this person think it brings happiness? Are THEY happy that way? Do you think you will be? Are you the same kind of people looking for the same things? For instance, do you TRULY feel the love of an innocent child who knows no better than to love their parent would feel more fulfilling than the love of an intellectually equal adult? Not saying it can’t, but do you honestly believe that? Do you think it makes you a bad person if you admit that truly, you don’t believe that…
Shaming you into being controlled
To be honest, it took me a long while to realize what “being controlled” really meant. I felt like I made my own choices, but that is a bit of an illusion. Shame is a powerful controlling mechanism.
“Oh, you’re so pathetic admiring celebrities and smart people. What’s wrong with an average bloke? Intelligence and looks have no bearing in a person’s ability to love…!” Goal? Shame me into trying relationships with men I had no true interest in. The result? Lots of unsatisfying sex and awkward love confessions that were purely one-sided.
See?
Try this: “If she slept with you the first night, she probably has slept with a ton of other guys, too.” Name the goals. Then, ask yourself, did it have to be pointed out as if it was a bad thing?
You will also be shamed into the “right” opinion. “You’re a bad person if you don’t believe white police is racist.”
You’re good with your ego, now, mind your vos
Ego is your idea of self, vos is your idea of another person. The Savants* tend to demand a lot of themselves, but not that much of others. They tend to, in order to not feel that lonely, and in order to keep loving and respecting others, color other people in favorable light a lot. Stop doing that. Your friends and family are somewhat of an extension to your ego, if you lie to yourself about them, they are able to attach themselves to you, whether you like it or not. (Some of these relationships may be such you feel is important, in order to keep to your own values, you feel you need to preserve them, even if it takes self-deception to do so.)
Stop lying to yourself, and next, face the fear of befriending people you TRULY honor, respect, and love.
Being too polite to be understood or too rude to be taken seriously
the Savants* have a bad habit of first mincing their words to a point where they cannot be understood by anyone but another the Savants*, but once the message doesn’t sink in, they fling fast to rudeness and stay there until the relationship breaks. (Which is usually their attempt in mincing their words to begin with: I don’t think you’re an awful human being but I’m not in love with you…”
The reason why the Savants* do this is that we feel guilt for not loving everyone who loves us. We think that’s the expectation, a fair trade of love, right? However, the Normal Person* are much more realistic about love and don’t truly even believe it exists. Therefore, they are not offended when someone doesn’t love them, but they may be surprised about their level of service not being good enough. “Haven’t I been a good wife to you?” similarly to a hotelier or a butler or whatever. To them, wife and husband are jobs you qualify for, nothing more romantic than that. A way to impress friends.
Anyway, the Savants* don’t express themselves clearly when it comes to relationship expectations, needs, and disappointment. To us, romance is more important than anything else in the world, and we assume everyone shares the sentiment and would be crushed if they found out they don’t qualify as a romantic partner. However, we anger when we are being “forced to being rude”, so once our patience wears off and then, we get so rude, so obnoxiously clearly speaking, that the Normal Person* no longer take us seriously, but they believe we are “going through a crisis” of some description.
The solution to this is to work the sense of guilt out and understand the Normal Person* function mainly out of fear (for survival) and us the Savants* work from guilt and wish to thrive and realize our dreams. The Normal Person* always fear the dreams being deadly, while the Savants* don’t understand the logic of burying oneself to half-dead state just to wait for it to arrive as it eventually finds us all anyway. Once you understand that the Normal Person* don’t put half the value on being loved as you think they do, you can tell them without the guilt, that you’re moving on and finding new friends, without needing to explain yourself so much it sounds like an attempt to a new beginning.
You should also remember not to feel guilty about not taking care of everyone else’s life, including transgender people and people born with 3 nipples.
The Normal Person* definition of a liar can confuse a lot of things
The concept of truth and lies are a bit difficult in terms of the Normal Person*/the Savants* language. While to a Savants*, “the truth” means “actual, factual, consistent with reality”, to the Normal Person* it means approximately “the agreed-upon answer, belief, attitude”. “God is the truth”, meaning whatever the Bible says about God is true, regardless of facts, and anyone trying to contradict that is a liar, regardless of how much they can point out the factual.
Liar, in the Normal Person* terms, means quite closely translated “a boat rocker”. Someone who is making it very difficult for others to uphold the public front, the beautiful lies. Someone who is letting facts get in the way of a good story.
A Normal Person* tries to uphold unity and harmony among people by pretending everything is hunky-dory. The Savants* tries to bring the truth to light so that nobody would feel the need to pretend and everything would be hunky-dory. A Normal Person* could be persuaded into the agreement that if everyone goes by the truth at all times, and the one lying must change their position, then, peace and harmony can be achieved, and it doesn’t have to change by the times and cultural backgrounds.
the Normal Person* are incredibly sensitive to emotion, but they don’t necessarily interpret it correctly
This is something you need to know about the Normal Person*. They are very sensitive to emotion and feelings, but they lack in the ability to interpret it correctly. They also interpret behavior far far more than the Savants* do, who are much more focussed on other’s exact emotions. For instance, you may feel guilty about not loving someone, which is, to be fair, a nonsensical thing to feel guilty for. The Normal Person* don’t understand that kind of guilt, so they interpret that as “heartache” and they assume the source of it is a poor self-esteem or fear of not being loved back.
The key to decoding it is that the Normal Person* always assume that EVERYONE wants to be a part of a social group. ANY social group. They are always looking for a rational reason as to why someone isn’t acting happy, social, and engaging with others. “I’d rather hang out with those people” doesn’t seem like a plausible reason for them, especially if you’re “shy” with your own family. “If you can’t be cool with us, how do you think you’d be OK hanging out with those strangers all by yourself?!”
It is also helpful to interpret the Normal Person*e’s interpretation problems from their perspective, they assume their fears and needs are also your fears and needs.
Try and identify your own feelings, and then try to locate a possible misinterpretation of that feeling or attached behavior.
Guilt resembles heartache
Relief, ironically, as an emotion, resembles disappointment. Imagine a hare running from a fox. If the hare gets to safety, it would feel relief, and simultaneously, the fox feels disappointment. Both sigh, both drop the anxiety of the battle, and the emotion is very similar as a result.
Anger often disguises sadness or sorrow, so the Normal Person* try to interpret anger from that perspective
Sitting quietly with no interest in joining in is interpreted as shyness or fear of not being loved
Having a strong personality is often interpreted as being attention-hungry, which in turn is interpreted as a low self-esteem and the need to be super entertaining in order to be accepted and loved.
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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