Main Trap Relationship

This post is one of the most important posts for the Savants* thinker type to truly understand. This is the way we get trapped into relationships we don’t want, not really knowing how it happened. It is INSANELY difficult to explain to the Normal Person* why or how or what we mean by wanting to get out of a relationship that we’re in, because to them everything is hunky-dory as long as there’s “passion” in the relationship, which, to the Normal Person*, means a lot of refreshing fighting going on.

The Normal Person* bonding is the same as the Savants* rejection

When you try to explain this to the Normal Person*, they assume you’re joking and simply picking a fight, so don’t bother.

A Normal Person* feels that people who are “brave enough” to fight them are interesting and respectable. They feel that people who avoid fights are cowards and not able to take a fight. Now… The thing is. The Savants* are mostly afraid of their own ability to completely lose it if they allow themselves to fight someone. They are TERRIFIED of their own short fuse. Therefore, the LAST thing they want to do is to pick up a fight with those who they love, and they are more than quick to walk out of an argument when it starts to pick up too much heat – that is if they CAN and still care to for one reason or another. (Enough of a reason is to avoid jail time and a criminal record and a murder trial.)

the Normal Person* like to pick a fight with people who they consider potential friends. They consider it fun. They irritate you until you’re “enticed to play a game”, but if a Savants* can be pushed to this point, it’s not fun and games anymore, they are actually going for it by now. The troubles arise when the Normal Person* woman is picking a fight with a Savants* man, which means that he cannot lay a finger on her without facing jail time, and all the power is in her corner. This is both frustrating and empowering to the Normal Person* woman, who refuses to see sense in the jail term -issue, but thinks that he is either a wus or too strongly in love with her to actually throw a punch. A Normal Person* woman can, thus, feel unloved if a man doesn’t engage into a fight with her, either emotional of physical in nature.

An the Savants* CANNOT EVER fight anyone who they don’t want to bond with

Now… An the Savants* CAN fall in love with the Normal Person*. It happens. My True Emotion Mirror, albeit just one, is more the Normal Person* than a Savants*, albeit an unusually smart one. He and I cannot communicate well, because he expects me to pick a fight but I keep telling him I love him. XD I cannot bring myself to act as horribly as required for him to understand I love him.

That said, a Savants* CAN value the freedom of fighting someone, and the humor of it, but they do often get tangled up in fights that have nothing to do with love and bonding, simply because someone irritated them to the point that they couldn’t say no to a fight anymore – but failing to endear them into a relationship as a result.

Therefore. The rule is as follows: An the Savants* MUST BE AWARE that people who pick a fight with them for nothing want to make friends. Therefore, the only way to get out of that fight is to make sure the other person understands the rules of the fight: “Are you trying to make friends with me or are you tempting death? Because I am NOT interested in making friends with you.” In civilized societies, a Savants* makes a smart move to call the police to break up a fight rather than engage in a physical fight – the danger of making a friend through this is far too great for most the Savants* liking.

A verbal fight is absolutely NOT ON for a Savants* who doesn’t want to make friends. Whether verbal or physical, the only way a Savants* can win here is to WIN. They need to DESTROY the Normal Person*, in order to make them lose the sense of fun and games out of the fight.

In terms of romance

A Normal Person* makes a move on you in two ways:

1. They hang out nearby you so you get used to their presence. You must avoid them if you don’t want to make friends with them. They’re the annoying person who sits too close, who dances with you on the dancefloor but doesn’t say a word, or starts laughing at your jokes from the table next to you until you invite them to join or move away. If you’re not interested in them in a lifetime commitment -sort of way, move the hell away from them. If you can’t don’t talk to them, look at them, or engage them, even if they’re throwing pieces of an eraser at you.
2. They try to get your attention by annoying you and picking a fight. Once you “pick up”, they’re delighted. you’ve noticed they exist! Hooray! The more annoyed you act, the more accomplished they feel: Passion!
3. Notice that even though it feels like there’s nowhere to run NOW, wait until they’ve decided that they have you in the bag, then there’s TRULY nowhere to go. Ugly divorces come from this setting.

If you WANT the relationship, all you need to do is to start teasing them back, and that would be it. Never confess to the Normal Person* you love them until you’ve made them lose their temper at you… Learned from experience. :p

A Normal Person* can also pester you for a relationship

Another the Normal Person* method to get you into a relationship is to guilt-trip you into it. They’ll use every sob story, religious and spiritual clause they can to obligate you into it with them. Don’t fall for it. The Savants* life is full of the Normal Person* -induced guilt that we don’t really understand how it got there. This is why. They don’t truly know how to connect to another person on an emotional and intellectual level, so they do this… Like they were 13.

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