Your vos of people can be more what you want than what it actually is

You know what ego means; your idea of who you are, what I refers to in sentences you use. However, “vos” is Latin for “you”, and represents your idea of other people, and like ego, it can be false or truthful.

What you say to yourself that another person in your life is like or is to you, often tells more about you than it does about them. Not to get too panicky about it (as many people are also aware of the danger of creating a false vos for someone), you KNOW when you’re lying to yourself when you have to constantly correct that person into behaving in the manner as they would if your vos of them was true. It’s like they don’t stay within the borders that you have created for them, and you wonder why. The reason is, that they are NOT what you think they are, either as a person or to you.

Obviously, if someone is your daughter or son, mother or father, they’ll be that no matter what, but what you say to yourself about WHAT KIND of a family member that is, I mean… “I have such a devoted daughter.” Do you? Do you really? Is your daughter devoted to you, or do you just wish she was? Do you wish your mother was a bitch or that your father was a no-good louse because that would make something else in your life easier; like admitting to yourself that you don’t love your parents and it would feel better for you if you had a good reason not to.

Perhaps, in truth, you just want to divorce your spouse because they got fat. Rather than admit to yourself that you’re that shallow, you tell yourself that they are and have always been a horrible person. Instead of facing the fact that they just got fat and that’s all, you irritate them to make it so that they act poorly around you so you’d get a reason to leave them.

Maybe sometimes you tell yourself that a family member you love is irritating you in order to bring you down a notch because they have an inferiority complex and fear you’ll leave them… So they try and make you think less of yourself so you’ll stay with them.

All of these scenarios CAN happen, it’s just that ARE THEY happening now? With you? Is it real what you are observing, or are you avoiding some realization that would make you think less of yourself. It’s easier to hang onto your vos of another person than to alter your own ego.

When they REFUSE to accept an accusation or even a compliment

One of the best indicators of a false vos is when someone flat out refuses to accept an accusation or a compliment given to them. People RARELY deny what they truly are, as everyone has a habit of being what they admire rather than being what they don’t admire, so even though you’d accuse someone of being KIND, they might refuse to accept that, if they see kindness as a weakness or another kind of a flaw, a sign of stupidity or gullibility.

What about winners?

What about your vos of people who are winning a competition, the favor of people, some popularity contest, or in business? Aren’t you telling yourself that they are using some tactic that is either unachievable for you or something criminal or otherwise acceptable for your ego? Like “They’re a liar” or “they’re so phony”, or “they’ve stolen that money”. Many women see their more successful competitors as manipulative and dishonest to explain how that bitch got to the status she received. Women also systematically accuse men of all kinds of things that are typically in women’s arsenal, to explain their vos of men to their own ego.

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