Some sexual attraction dynamics

This post is going to be a little sexually graphic. However, it is what it needs to be.

Basic setting: Hot straight women want to be rewarded (with your cum) for being hot

I believe many men feel unattractive to women unnecessarily. There are men, I believe, who expect women to feel attracted to men THE SAME WAY as men are attracted to women. Male sexuality, by the standard mode, is active. Female sexuality, by standard mode, is passive. The fact that women rarely feel like jumping a guy’s bones is NOT a sign that she’s not attracted to him, it’s just that what happens in the female brain is different than what happens in the male brain.

So male attraction is something akin to “I want to do things to you/your body.” The way women feel attracted to men is more like: “I wish YOU will reward me for being sexy, (by giving me a cum tribute).” It means that this particular guy’s attraction to you means more than another one’s. “You would make me feel especially accomplished if you were to cum because of what I’m like.”

I don’t think men should wait around for a woman to make a move, because it doesn’t work that way. I feel, as a super-duper sexual heterosexual female, I feel like if I have to make the first move, I’m kind of giving up on the hope that you’d reward me, and I’m stealing the prize. It’s a trophy I didn’t earn, but just grabbed it and ran because I’m pathetic.

I’m also quite certain, that heterosexual women feel that a man taking too long to cum is actually telling her that she’s not very attractive and this is a pity fuck. I am more than willing to bet, too, that many women don’t really care all that much about orgasms, because the reward is in him cumming, and we just feel sort of smug and accomplished when he crashes between our thighs. 😀 If one orgasms, great, if not, hey, as long as he’s looking like he just died… Job well done. :p

Where the confusion comes from?

For centuries, people haven’t realized that there is such a thing as a lesbian or lesbispectrum bisexual female in the equation. And there are A LOT OF women like this. They’ve set the standard to sexual allure; unaffected, unattainable, indifferent. They’re indifferent, because they are interested in men as providers, only. They truly love women (and in some cases some special guy).

When the lesbispectrum female has set the standards for “hard to get” heterosexual women have adapted by HIDING their true feelings from men. Straight women got told men don’t like sluts or easy women, so they (we are) always fighting against our instinct to beg for sexual attention from men.

The physical need for sex

I am also going to state, that women who feel a PHYSICAL need for sex are different from women who have a cerebral need for sex, like those described above. What I mean by this, is that there are women who “feel horny” for sex, and they don’t care who puts that fire out. In other women, sexual desire arises only in the presence of an attractive man, who she then hopes will reward her general attractiveness by taking her; accepting her as his relief for the night.

Women with a physical need for sex simply need someone, anyone, to fuck her, because her physical needs arose… for sex, not for a specific individual. These women don’t care if they need to grab a cock to get there, and they can be very aggressive in their need to be fucked, whereas a woman like the above needs to feel alluring and irresistible to get that mental high for getting fucked by a man.

This can flip, too

There are also men who are beggars for female sexual approval. They are highly erotic, highly flirtatious, and very, very alluring. They’re the men who draw women to themselves like a moth to a flame, but they also may feel a little unfulfilled in their more than likely numerous sexual escapades. That is not to say “stop it”, but it’s to say: “Wait until it hits ya.” It… The answer. I believe the reason for their dissatisfaction is not so much the fact they flip, but by the lack of women who they’d truly feel rewarded by when they get that reward.

Some for you, some for me

Much of this flirtation with allure can also go both ways: You get some sugar (praise in the form of sexual attention) and I get some sugar. Then, the tension builds up and eventually releases itself.

It is noteworthy, tho, that this dynamic, this praise in the form of sexual attention for being hot makes only sense between people who are “hot” and consciously put effort into it in the sense we all understand that word. The praise can also be something else, like “I reward you for being the NICEST person I know…” etc. But the point being that attraction is created as a response to a need for a reward or a prize for being what we hope we are.

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