Some signs of a pending breakup

I fear this post is a bit of a rinse and repeat, but spirit told me to.

There are strategies people use to kinda warn their partner that they are about to take off. This is not necessarily a “let’s talk” kind of a warning, but more like “don’t be terribly surprised when I tell you I’m leaving. Prepare yourself emotionally.” It’s a deliberte/semideliberate attempt to let the partner know that the end is near, so they wouldn’t be completely taken by a surprise.

The most popular way is to engage less and less. Talk with shorter sentences, respond sparsely, have tons of excuses for not being able to do things together, spending A LOT more time with the kids, and making somewhat of a hooplah of it, avoiding eye contact with the partner, go directly to sleep and avoid cuddling let alone sex. Any signs of affection become purely habitual or vanish entirely.

Another strategy is to start responding with a low tolerance for anything annoying. Snapping at the partner, but not really engaging to an open fight. An open fight is no longer a warning, it is either a bonding attempt as per the Normal Person*-style or a desperate attempt to break up when someone isn’t getting the message that the relationship is well and truly over.

There is nothing to suggest that there’s another woman or man in the picture when this happens, tho. This is caused by any number of things, the annoyed snapping is often even a result of a feeling of being duped into a commitment: “I married someone fun, but this is what I got.” (“If I wanted to have married my dad/mom, I would have kept looking.”)

The snappy responses can sometimes be a sign of fear and nervousness when a relationship is getting really serious and the snappy partner feels the need to be reassured that everything is going to be fine. Feel the air to know which is which.

Underlining it a bit more

If a person feels there needs to be more signs for their spouse to see, or to make them take the step into seeking for divorce, disobedience may happen. People may sometimes star to deliberately do the opposite as requested, or they simply refuse to do as told, or do what is requested of them with a complaint and moan. HOWEVER, there are people who complain about their duties all the way through a relationship, to underline how much they are willing to do for you; how much I love you; “look, I hate cooking, but still, every night I do this like clockwork, because I love you.” Still, if the behavior is sudden and new, my bet is on the sadder end.

Signs I wouldn’t worry about too much

Although staying at the office is sometimes a bad sign, again, especially if the behavior is new, but if the relationship is relatively new, I wouldn’t take it as a sign of a breakup coming. It’s just that some people work a lot, and some work more after they find someone worth putting in the hours for. As building a new business and a new relationship often are timed to youth, too, if you have met while a business has already been established, it is normal that once the relationship has semi-secure, the entrepreneurial spouse spends more time at work – sometimes catching up, considering they may have neglected their business while dating a new partner.

Similarly, introverted people relax into silence when they are comfortable with a partner, but then again, with their True Emotion Mirrors, even introverts can get very active, social, and talkative… But they do need their time to recharge and stay quiet, either together or separate, no matter how much they’re in love. But silence with an introvert is nothing to be concerned about, quite the opposite… If an introvert feels like they need to constantly talk to keep you company, they may never truly relax into a relationship with you.

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