Here’s some notes to get over your insecurities

1. You can be super annoying to a whole heap of people and it is perfectly fine. The important people will love you (and I’m not talking about mom and dad.)
2. There will be enough people in this world that will GENUINELY love you. Nobody else matters in comparison to those people.
3. Don’t think EVERYONE has to like/love you. They never will. Most people will perhaps approve of you, (a reasonable goal), but majority of people don’t really GENUINELY like you and that’s fine.
4. Don’t lie to yourself. If you’re going to lie to someone, do, but don’t lie to yourself. You know when you’re lying, and that won’t make you trust yourself.
5. People are FAR LESS interested in you than you think. This means that they are not very likely to be gossiping behind your back.
6. Allow yourself to see danger (like being gossiped/lied about) and give yourself permission to react to it.
7. You don’t have to have “a correct emotional response” to anything. Your emotions are yours, and nobody gets to tell you what to feel and when.
8. If you want to be like everybody else, you have to be an individual. (No matter how similar we’d all try to be, we’d never be identical, so why even try?)
9. If you don’t know something, allow yourself to find out. It is OK to figure things out behind other people’s backs. It’s OK to google it if you don’t know. It is OK to watch YouTube videos to figure things out. It’s not cheating or dishonest, it’s saving other people’s time when they don’t have to personally coach you simply because you’re too lazy to Google it.
10. People are far more concerned about THEIR own possible embarrassments than yours. If you f*** up, everyone else will be relieved it was you, not them, so you’re doing them a favor, no? 😉
11. I’ve never met a perfect person. You don’t have to be one, either.
12. Most people’s problems revolve around their stupid parents or not getting enough romantic love or sex. You can strike a conversation about either topic with almost anyone and be instantly understood. Talking about money problems is not nearly as easy. There are people who don’t care about money, but everybody cares about romantic love.
13. You would be very fucking weird if you were not weird in any way. You’d be creepy as fuck if you were perfectly normal.
14. People find less achieved friends more likable than those who are high achievers. Only high achievers like high achievers, and even then, selectively. If you want to be well-liked, be about average. Winners always have to deal with a lot of BS from a lot of people. Success doesn’t make you likable unless you represent people less capable than you so that they can latch onto your achievement for a moment. (Sports.)
15. It is OK to not be loved, liked, or admired by anybody.
16. We’re all somebody from somewhere, as Steven Tyler put it in his song. You can’t help where you were born, and NOBODY with a half a brain will judge you based on where you happened to be born. You had no control over it, and it does not define you any more than other people’s birth locations define them… In good or bad.

Read until you get it.

Now. Next. Write a detailed description of the kind of people you like and the kind of people who you don’t like. I

It is your duty to become the kind of person you like. You have every right to be the kind of a person you’d admire. It is not cheating or pretending you’re something you’re not, as long as you do the work TO BECOME what you wish you were. Nobody is DOOMED to be who they are if they don’t like what they are. You are not your past, you are your future goals. You are your ideals. You are your WISHES, not your “don’t wants”. Just don’t pretend you’re already there, otherwise, you’ll never walk the walk and you’ll remain a failure.

DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF.

EVER.

Lie to everybody else as much as you think you have to in order to survive, but DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF. Only an idiot would lie to themselves. Don’t be an idiot. I cannot stress this enough. If you want to have self-confidence, you CANNOT keep lying to yourself like an unreliable friend.

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