Why is it so awkward to date people if you’re sexy (and you know it)

I’m going to throw in some bullet points to paint a quick picture:

If you’re (interested in) dating someone equally sexy as you are (a Full 10.)

• You are both used to being chased by the opposite (preferred) gender. You may not even understand their signals when the balance is equal. You associate “women” or “men” with people who are less attractive than you, and when someone equally attractive interacts with you, you may not easily understand what they mean – they act like you; cautiously.
• You know people fall in love with you easily, you also know you’re not as easily impressed. Therefore, if you’re not 100% sold yet, you wait for them to take the lead… And if they are not 100% sold, they’re doing the same thing.
• If you are FULLY in love with the other person already (love at first sight), but you don’t know how they feel about you or try to keep your head cool, they’re likely to be doing the same thing – and you wind up keeping your heads cool – no approaching. You let the other person to take the lead again so you’re not too pushy.
• You both value physical beauty and other intellectual values, therefore you have genuine respect for each other (as full 10s). This makes both of you consider each other ‘a catch’ while fully aware by observing other’s reactions to you, that the fact YOU are in love doesn’t, at all, mean they are. (You know people can fall head over heels in love with you, while you feel very little or nothing for them, and you’re waiting for confirmation about THEIR feelings.)
• If YOU are certain that the other person, being as hot as they are, know they can have you by the snap of their fingers if they want to, you may ASSUME too much about THEIR self-confidence levels, while they are still waiting for encouragement from you.
• You know it’s easy to get too attached to someone like you, and if you think they’re about 95% right but you want full 100%, you may tread very carefully (and you should) knowing they have every right to think YOU think they’re a 100% to you.

If you’re dating someone less attractive than yourself

• They don’t give your good looks and other values nearly as much value as you do (otherwise they’d thrive to be the same as you) but you think EVERYONE does. They don’t. This creates a situation where you are in it under “different reality”.
• The 8 doesn’t understand why you’d think you’re too good for them, when they are perfectly capable of all the sexual acts and loving deeds as any Full 10 does.
• Because you think it’s obvious you wouldn’t be terribly interested in that person, you approach the relationship as a casual affair while they may be fully invested in it.
• You know you’re easy to fall for, therefore, you approach not 100% right relationships with caution (and you should).

Sexy people’s guide to freedom

You should NEVER, being a Full 10, try to talk yourself into “giving people a chance” when you are not GENUINELY intrigued by the possibilities with that person. IF you go into a relationship with someone you’re less than impressed by at this stage, MAKE SURE they will agree it is CASUAL and make sure they understand the idea of casual the same way. (For company/entertainment/time-wasting purposes because you are lacking true love interests at the very moment, rather than “taking it slow before real commitment”.) You may find it easier to find interest in casual dating among other very attractive people rather than average folk. Average doesn’t usually understand why people would want to date without the aim of a real commitment anyway. You’d be wise to know that even if you PRESS the ‘casual’ they may not truly take you seriously even when they agree to keep it casual – or they understand it very differently.

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