Who is stronger, the Normal Person* or the Savants*? (Personal change and the thinker types)

As I describe the Savants* as the people who don’t wish to force change on anyone else, you might find it interesting to realize that it is a Savants* who will eventually force change. See, they like who they are, while the Normal Person* think others like who they (the Normal Person*) are. The Normal Person* are always thinking “what do people want others to be” while the Savants* think: “who am I?” To a Savants*, the way a person is is in-born, thus, sacred, while the Normal Person* wishes to change to match expectations (the tougher, the better). A Normal Person*’s sense of pride comes from the herd mentality and/or dominance. Either they are narcissistically a part of a group or the leader of a group or couple. While a Savants* may be a leader, their sense of pride comes from how well they are leading their group, not for being the chosen leader. A Normal Person* will exclaim: “WELL I AM THE LEADER, therefore, my mistakes are not for you to judge!”

the Savants* are the ones who CAN’T change for another person. They make TEMPORARY and COSMETIC adjustments, they try to make the current situation as pleasant and tolerable as possible by being as flexible as possible about things NOW, but they will NOT change permanently if it doesn’t benefit them directly. The way they think is a subconscious understanding of their eternal soul: Look. I am millions of years old. You are but a temporary obstacle in my way. I won’t make permanent changes in myself over a temporary obstacle.

Brick walls

In other words, still: the Savants* are like brick walls, they won’t attack you, but if you attack them, you’ll wind up changing, not them. If you would take a metaphorical sledgehammer on them, they’ll find a way to turn themselves temporarily into a liquid to amount your efforts into nothing. Once you run out of puff, they’ll be back to who they always were before you started. They are not slow to learn how to please you, they have 0 intent of pleasing you.

What is also different is that a Savants*, once they change their mind over something, can change themselves at a whim. If they think “this is better” they’ll be better. Unlike the Normal Person*, they don’t need anyone’s support to change or to be who they are. They are what they are, and they change into what they choose to change into, and you can do NOTHING about it. The only effort you should use to try and change a Savants* is to tell them: “I think this would be a better way. Do you think so, too?” If the answer is “no” you’re better off moving on than wasting your time and effort trying to make them into something you like better.

Under pressure, a Savants* finds a new way to stay the same

What is also true, is that IF you put them under a lot of pressure to change, they might change, yes… But NOT the way you intended. They will find a way to be LESS influenceable by you, rather than change. They’ll find another way through, they’ll only change their METHODS and APPROACHES and STRATEGIES, not who they are, and this again is something that the Normal Person* feel differently about. They feel THEY ARE their methods, approaches, and strategies, they identify with “action” whereas the Savants* identify with “being”. I AM this and I DO that. The Normal Person* feels “I am what I do”.

But even then, if the Normal Person* changes their “doing”, they do so to BELONG and to BE SOMETHING others want them to be. An the Savants* will change to be MORE DIFFICULT to handle. They do not like people who attempt to change them forcibly, so they’ll find a way to change under their own terms. “I will change my strategies and attitudes so I can avoid you, and to free myself from you. I will change the way I interact with a troublesome person, so I can remain free to be who I am.”

the Normal Person* always try to create peace by changing the people they “love”, the Savants* try to create peace by LEAVING the people who antagonize them… The Normal Person*. The Normal Person*’s love, to a Savants*, feels like they’re antagonizing them. A Normal Person* will never be able to make a Savants* “feel loved” by forcing rules or change on them.

the Savants* love: I’ll be whatever you want me to be

A Normal Person* loves another person from the perspective that a Savants* hates you from: “I hate you the way you are so much I have no remorse changing you into something I can tolerate.” An the Savants* loves you by trying to figure out what their loved one wants them to be and then change into what they want. Their love is never about CHANGING YOU for ME, but that is exactly how the Normal Person* love.

Therefore, the Savants* tend to send an “I love you” message to the Normal Person* they loathe by attempting to forcefully change them. To a Savants*, it makes NO SENSE trying to CHANGE someone they love because it’s like looking at the perfect painting and then drawing a cartoon over top of it. Defacing what you love and admire! To them, it makes no sense. Like finding the most perfect scenery and changing it into a horrible concrete jungle. No. An the Savants* loves by trying to preserve who you are and to be WORTHY of you, and hates by trying to change who you are as they find you intolerable the way you are.

the Normal Person* love is finding someone who hates them as much as they hate themselves – it seems

the Normal Person* love is more like: Oh I am imperfect, you are imperfect, I love how tragic we are… Maybe we can change into something nicer together. An the Savants* may be imperfect in some sense, certainly, they don’t follow society’s expectations as to who they should be, but they are the way they are for a very specific reason that is clear to them and other the Savants*, but not necessarily to the Normal Person*, who will only ever do the least, they’re forced to do for others.

Therefore, they see force to be better as love: “I see you are more capable than what you’re putting effort into. Let me force you to be half decent because I know you can be.” From a Savants* perspective, the Normal Person* love is like finding someone who hates them as much as they hate themselves. They seem not to truly know what LOVE is, even, as far as the Savants* definition of the word goes.

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