What I see when I look at women (a study to heterosexuality in women +)

They say most women are bisexual, and this is, I believe, true. (It is also to be said that most men are bisexual, too, but that’s generally speaking not advertised as a “sexy fact”.) I am, personally, one of the freaks who are heterosexual. Namely, heterosexual, heteroromantic, but biplatonic, meaning I only assign sexual and romantic feelings to men, but I can love women in the platonic sense… Up to a degree. Never as a DEEP connection, because there’s always a man who means more to me than any woman ever could, given my sexual/romantic orientation. Let me explain.

Bisexuals are, I believe, always also polygamous by their natural leaning. If they love women in a “you’re my most important”, that means that pair of women must eventually come to terms with the fact they should be married to the same people – either men or women or both.

Heterosexuals are ALSO, almost always polygamous by their true leaning, but they ONLY feel that deep connections to the members of the opposite gender. In heterosexual men, it means he should marry several women, and in heterosexual women (polygynous), respectively, that she should marry several men. (Polyandrous). The third form of polygamy is polygynandry that is entered into by both men and women. (The form which sounds the most romantic and sexually exciting is YOUR thing. It’s not like I am going to say: “you know your hair is blonde, therefore you MUST be polygynous and, even if you don’t want to, you must live accordingly.” No. Whatever cooks your crumpet.)

Using myself as a case study

I am, as I said, a heterosexual, and heteroromantic, biplatonic polyandrist. I am also a psychic empath and a self-confessed people watcher. I love seeing happy people… In fact, all emotions in people, as people are fascinating things that do everything that ever gets done in this world, beyond… being in it. People, no matter how weird or twisted, to me, are… Gold.

But. How does a heterosexual woman see other women? I can speak only for myself at any level of certainty, but I think much of this applies across the board.

I don’t HATE WOMEN

First and foremost, I don’t hate women. Not truly. I do have my issues with a fair bunch of them considering some women have a hard time accepting I don’t find them sexually attractive, or consider them the focal point of my life despite our long history, but that’s them. I am simply less interested in women than other women are. To me, their compliments mean nothing much, unless she is an intellectual who praises my work, but any regards to “my beauty” or “figure” feel completely ODD to me.

Before I figured out what is the cause of my bemusement in the situations when a woman tells me she finds me pretty, I just thought “what a weird thing to say. How is that relevant? Did I ask? I don’t think I seem to be insecure about my looks. I didn’t denote, to you, that I need a self-confidence boost, so.. What? Why would you make a mention of that?” I didn’t find it offensive, per se, just unnecessary waste of energy to make a mention of it. Two women finding each other pretty, what’s the practical function of that?

I don’t want to be “included” among women

I am curious about all people as an observer, but beyond observing, my curiosity vanes. I don’t need information about other women in order to make a friend with one. With men, I am more curious, although it seems to be a social norm that men ask questions and men inform women about their interests and likes. Sometimes, I have to shut myself up to not be too curious, and when I’m really interested, I feel like asking the dumbest questions just to understand him better. As you do. But knowing how annoying it is to have to explain why you’ve got a “black bow and a white bow” I try to simply pay attention and gather the information for myself. (The black bow fiber is coarser than the white, which gives the cello a deeper tone when played.)

But the point being, I hold no such curiosity toward women. It is irrelevant. I don’t feel like my femininity is dependent on the approval of other women, nor do I need to check my appearance in the mirror to ensure “the girls” will approve. I dress for men and am not the slightest bit ashamed of it. (By the way, truthfully bisexual/lesbian women who used to dress for men reluctantly, did it because having a husband would impress the girls.)

The approval of women is, to me, nice, maybe, but by no means necessary.

Beautiful women are not a threat to a heterosexual woman, ironically

When I see a beautiful woman, I do see her beauty. I appreciate it. I LIKE beautiful women around me, as to me, they are NOT A COMPETITION, ironically. The funny thing is, that bisexual women who all are supposed to marry the same guy, have gotten, throughout their reincarnations history, used to having to accept the heart-breaking fact that only one girl can marry the one they’re all truly in love with. The curse of monogamy when we’re mostly all polygamous of a form or another. Therefore, bisexual women FEEL the competition REAL STRONG.

To me, there are TONS of attractive hot men around. If one doesn’t want me, there’ll be another. Theoretically, at least… And the men who I truly connect with being polyandrous, they are just as used to being burned by love as bisexual women are, and don’t trust women, generally speaking, and they do transfer that fear to me, too, ESPECIALLY as being polyandrist, my sexual energy is a match to theirs, meaning they’ll feel in danger around me. More danger than normal, at least.

When women tend to obsess over one specific man for years, heterosexual women can move on easier – unless there’s a True Emotion Mirror and spiritual interference involved.

Some beautiful women can be sexual objects, to me too, in a way

I believe, that nobody is completely immune to sexual feelings toward another person. However, HOW these feelings manifest and WHAT ELSE do you feel toward a person is the key.

I already mentioned three types of love. Sexual, romantic, and platonic love. You can feel ALL THREE at the SAME TIME, simultaneously toward a person your sexual alignment matches. In other words, while in the act, you can feel romantic, sexual, and platonic love toward the SAME INDIVIDUAL AT THE SAME TIME. If you are a heterosexual with a same-sex partner, you’ll have to shut off 2 out of 3 and focus completely on the sexual feelings toward that person. You have to FOCUS and FOCUS and FOCUS solely on sexual stimulus and perhaps strong fantasies in order to be turned on enough to keep going. The same goes for homosexuals with a same-sex partner.

To me, although I would never feel compelled to actually SLEEP with a woman, or to even TOUCH her, they are a joy when their sexuality is available for men only. I don’t feel comfortable around two women in a sexual act. I don’t find it morally wrong or in any way condemnable, it’s just that they don’t belong into my intimate circles of friends, not even in my intimate extended circle of people. If I see a woman in a sexual act or even leading up to it, I NEED IT to be with a man or several men in order for it to make me feel giddy… But NEVER with MY men.

I want women around me, if they are even aware of ME in the room, to never want to turn ME on, but perhaps transfer our sexual energy to their own men, but never hers to me, nor would I transfer my sexual energy to her. That would be creepy. 😉

Beauty is not a sexual thing IN ITSELF

Many people seem to believe that if you find someone beautiful, you’ll also find them sexually attractive. However, I know a lot of gorgeous dogs, cats, flowers, and buildings with no desire to get sexual with them. To me, women are much the same way, beautiful statues created to make the world a nicer place. Works of art –  the same way as beautiful men are, but with men, I can take my appreciation to the sexual nuance.

You can also easily understand a gay man who is gushing at the new outfit of his female friend, even though he’d enthusiastically declare her beauty, we know that a gay man doesn’t attach sexual feelings to it. I’m the same way with women. I COULD gush at a beautiful woman, but it wouldn’t be, in any way, sexual.

Still, I love boobs

Boobs are great, tho. However, I don’t want a woman to be trying to turn me on with her pair, but if she is there as a sexual object for men, I feel this compression toward THEIR group. I LOVE to watch men who are sexually turned on, and I love to see women who are excited about men’s excitement.

When the boobs come out, you know you’re among friends, as long as the boobs are there to entertain men. It’s like they’re in the peripheral vision, a part of the scene, rather than MY reality, FOR ME, no, but FOR THEM… Just not directly for MY MEN.

Having said that, never say never

I don’t think I’d ever be interested in actually be sexual with a woman under any circumstances. What I DO THINK is within the realm of possibility, is that I may find a woman who I would share my men with and have this platonic metamour relationship with, but only if she’s as heterosexual as I am. However, every time I entertain this idea, I see my group splitting in two, because the polyandrist in all of my men doesn’t want to be bothered with the division of attention between two women. A polyandrist man simply doesn’t have eyes for two women at the same time, and if they also fall in love with another woman, they will eventually choose one or the other. Still… In my visions, my group of men is impossibly large, so… Who knows.

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