Why you might actually want to not use excuses when people invite you over and you don’t want to go

There are people who love socializing so much, that they would NEVER use an excuse to get out of a social engagement. They also love all people and all company so much, that they don’t think ANYONE in their RIGHT MIND would EVER MAKE UP a reason to not go. Therefore, if you’re “sooooo busy” that you can’t come, they rather think you want to IMPRESS THEM by appearing busy and important so that they’d like you more. This way, you will appear narcissistic, when you want to simply not hurt their feelings too much.

This keeps the spiritual bond to these people alive. They still try and consider you a friend, even though they wish you would stop pretending to be better than them, or too good for their company, always too busy.

What is also GENUINELY narcissistic, is the feeling that you are SO wanted company, that they wouldn’t get over missing out on your glorious company lest you use an acceptable excuse to not go. Maybe thus phrase things as such: “I am sorry, and I’m sure you won’t mind it if I don’t come.” If they ask for a reason, try to find a way to say “I don’t want to” rather than say you have better things to do, you have other people to see, or such, because there are people who think if you have other people to see, it must mean they are MORE IMPORTANT (akin to work) and thus, you have to hang out with them even though you’d rather hang out with these people.

The problem with excuses is this: If there are people who think of themselves YOUR BEST FRIENDS even when you don’t think too highly of them at all, they will start SABOTAGING your busy life for you in spirit, through the law of attraction on your behalf, so you’d have more time. If they TRULY think you are being driven out of your mind being busy and FORCED to go to engagements you simply can’t get away from, they’ll make sure you won’t have such engagements in the future, so you can come to their little soirees.

This is also why the law of attraction works better with unlikeable people than well-liked individuals, as NOBODY CARES if they spend their entire life in the office making money rather than eating cake with Aunt Ethel. Likable people often also think that they are not being NICE ENOUGH and that SPIRIT is now PUNISHING them for their sins, and they need to become more likable still to earn their success, but no. More than likely you’re too liked and people don’t want you to get BUSIER STILL if you find success.

Ironically, many people work round hours just to have enough money to get away (move out of town) from their social circles and to make new friends, but their current circles think they’re doing them a favor by making sure they know they’re loved even though they don’t have any money! (Laadidaa.)

Especially if the invitations won’t stop coming, or you have a feeling your life is stuck somewhere, stop making excuses to people who don’t recognize an obvious excuse when they hear one.

These people are also narcissistic on their side, thinking their company is coveted and their “self-esteem” is based on the notion NOBODY would rather do something else or be with someone else if they had been invited to their get-togethers UNLESS they were truly being forced to be somewhere else. You might want to break this bubble for them.

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