Soulmate Detox for the Old Souls*

Everything wrong in your life is because of ill-advised soul bonds. This is because your friends and family don’t understand what you want and won’t even believe you’re telling them the truth when you tell them what you want is what you want. They may believe that you’re simply joking around because you don’t want to admit that all you want is mommy to cuddle you more or something to the effect, but what you want is truly what you want.

the Young Soul* NEVER try to separate from people they are bonded with; only the Old Souls* have this need. The Young Soul* try to convince you that your need to separate is “selfish” and “unevolved,” when you may just as well tell them that their need to tie you to themselves is selfish and unevolved; it is truly just a matter of perspective. The fact remains that the Old Souls* are the ones who need to detox from the Young Soul* who WILL get on without you after you’re gone, better, faster, and easier than what the Old Souls* do. I’ll explain.

the Old Souls* are people who feel GUILT a lot.

Guilt is feeling only the Old Souls* feel deeply and on a daily basis. To be fair, the Young Soul* feel guilty, too, but have difficulty processing their guilt. If you make them feel guilty, they will do everything in their power to feel less guilty, and that usually means a death grip on you and your life, preventing you from leaving. The reason is that the ONLY REASON they’d feel guilty is if they feel they’ve caused a separation in their existing tribe, and they feel the others will *kill them* if they find out it was them who did it.

So, again, the Young Soul*’s guilt isn’t selfless; it is about fear of condemnation and punishment, rather than actual fear of having done the wrong thing by another person.

the Young Soul*’ loyalty is somewhat of a myth.

However, once the Young Soul* notice they’re getting away with it, they’ll snap back without drama. They may even be proud to have exiled someone who mattered less to the group than themselves. And also, their attachments are a little bit like that of a dogs’ they winch and whine a lot at first, then forget you exist. (I love dogs, but their loyalty is sometimes a bit of a fairytale which is good because rehoming them is often just an absolute necessity.) the Young Soul* are like that. They make a commotion about you leaving, but they bounce back pretty quickly if you go.

I’m saying this to make it easier for a Old Souls* to leave the Young Soul* behind because the Old Souls* can be easily manipulated into bad relationships by this the Young Soul* winch and whine. The Young Soul* are not trying to control the Old Souls*, however. It’s more a parting ritual than anything to be swayed by. They’re just putting it on, that’s all, and you’re supposed to pretend to be equally distraught by the separation, but to a lot of the Old Souls*, such pretense is a lot to ask.

the Old Souls* rarely see complete separations to be necessary.

What adds to this problem is, the Old Souls* don’t see separations as cold-cut as the Young Soul* do. They may move countries and continents without seeing it as a separation that will devastate their friend’s and family’s entire lives. They feel “until we meet again” strongly, whereas the Young Soul*… If you leave… You BETRAY THEM. You decimate their trust in you; all that you were for them before is now DEAD. If you’d want to go back, you’d have to crawl your way back.

the Old Souls* are not as dramatic as that. They believe life takes you to places, and you follow the calling. They count friends being people who can receive you whenever your path takes you to them, and their greatest friendships are not those who never leave your side but who can return as if no time had passed since your last meeting. The Old Souls* do not act insulted or betrayed when their friend returns from their journeys, but the Young Soul* do. For a while.

But when the Old Souls* DO see a separation to be necessary, they will cut the ties. Then again, so do the Young Soul*. And both do it the same way: Complete cut of contact… They get to this point for different reasons.

The closure to a relationship is different for the Young Soul* and the Old Souls*.

the Old Souls* can separate from other the Old Souls* with relative ease. They agree their ideals don’t match, and they will go their separate ways. Separating from the Young Soul* is a lot harder for a Old Souls*, as the Young Soul* can make it either so easy that the Old Souls* wonders how little did they mean to the Young Soul* or so difficult the Old Souls* thinks the Young Soul* is 100% in love with them even when they’re not. The Young Soul* separation ritual.

Anyway, the Old Souls* take time to process the separation. They also feel the need to talk about their reasons with the person they’re parting from. In contrast, to the Young Soul*, this means an intent to get back together again. They feel that if you’re still talking to them about WHY you want to leave, it means you are still thinking of coming back. To a Old Souls*, this discussion is necessary to leave a relationship cleanly and maturely. Still, the Young Soul* make it very difficult or impossible for the Old Souls* to do so.

the Young Soul* need this mutual emotional cry over the ending of the relationship, but OFTEN the Old Souls* don’t feel that emotional about it, and they feel just fake taking part in such charades. It is rare for a Old Souls* to feel this authentically – it’s not that it never happens, but when they don’t feel it, they find it difficult to fake it.

the Old Souls* are not in love.

In truth, the Young Soul* and the Old Souls* are not a clear-cut differentiation. The Young Soul* are people who are happily bonded with the people near them. They WISH for this relationship to be ongoing and permanent. The Old Souls* don’t feel that way in their current group of people. They wish for the separation of the bond. Once the Old Souls* meet their True Emotion Mirrors, their bonding becomes VERY SIMILAR to that of the Young Soul* bond, BUT they REMEMBER being forcibly bonded with more than the Young Soul* do.

It’s like the Young Soul* were born lucky in a situation where their surrounding people are good for them (or better than them), and they want that to keep going, whereas the Old Souls* have to go looking for their equals. However, once bonded… Don’t be alarmed when you realize you’re turning into the Young Soul*. The turn is LIMITED, and you’re simply seeking a new BALANCE, rather than turning into a real the Young Soul* – you’re turning into a Gray Wolf, and that’s the goal.

the Old Souls* need to cut their excess relationships and get real.

the Old Souls* may have a bad habit of trying to be friends with everybody and be nice to everybody. They feel like they have to “accept” others and give them approval. The Old Souls* are often good-looking and intelligent because they are often the people others seek acceptance and approval from, and they start feeling guilty for wanting to reject 99% of people who ask this of them. Therefore, they begin to lower their bar a bit more than they should… In fact, they tend to lower their bar to a non-existent, which, in turn, puts them in a bad position spiritually speaking. Their luck will change, and they find themselves stuck a lot.

However, they will need to get real about their soul bonds and be honest with other people. They’ll have to reconcile their need to be nice with their need to be honest and real. They will also need to acknowledge the need to make friends for their ego, for appearance’s sake: “If I’m friends with this loser, I’ll look less self-centered and unreasonable in my expectations of other people.” (The only thing you need to do to make a Old Souls* better is to point out their falseness and ego drive.)

It would help if you started seeking connections with other the Old Souls*.

the Old Souls* need to start flocking to other the Old Souls*. In a modern world, this may mean just as simple choices like this: SHAMELESSLY follow good-looking, successful, and smart people on social media. The ones you tend to be a little ashamed of following. The one’s the Young Soul* will laugh at you for.

Teach yourself to talk to other demanding and quietly judgemental people, on Social Media, in real life. Expect yourself to be knocked back a few times, but don’t be surprised if you don’t.

Learn to GRAB people who you feel are your real friends. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes, remind yourself how coy and careful you are in your attempts to bond with others, and understand they do the same thing. Remind them you need more GREEN LIGHTS if they want you to proceed. Help them help you to find the ones who want to be friends with you. Let them know you are intimidated by them simply because they are smart and good-looking and probably have a lot to choose from, and you understand and respect that.

Be brave. Remain sensitive. Remember, they are careful for the same reasons you are careful. Forgive them for that.

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