New Relationship Falsehoods Normal Person* and Savants* Style

When forming a new romantic or sexual relationship, both the Normal Person* and the Savants* may not be quite upfront about what they want in the end. The Savants* will be coy about things, they’ll add information as time goes on, but whatever they lay out there is intended to be there. If they say, for instance, that they don’t want children or that they won’t ever get into monogamy again, they’ll mean it. They may not tell everything they want, however, and if they figure out that the Normal Person* isn’t into the stuff they are hoping for, they’ll end the relationship.

The Normal Person* is different, however. If the Savants* is upfront about their relationship boundaries, such as the examples of wanting to remain childfree or polygamous, the Normal Person* will agree to it without a second thought. All of that is fine. Their idea is that once the Savants* falls in love with their presence, they’ll change their mind about the rest, and then the Normal Person* will be able to lay down their own limits and expectations as the relationship is more stable and widely known.

The Normal Person* will go rather far to prove their willingness to play to the Savants*, they’ll have no issues with orgies, trying BDSM, or sleeping with bisexual twins, but as time goes on, they’ll start insisting all of those things are not suitable for a committed relationship such as the like they want with their the Savants*. As the Savants*, the Savants* men, in particular, have well learned by now that wild sex is not going to be a part of a long-term relationship, they are often too quick to give up their stance and go along with the Normal Person*’s demands. The Savants* must learn to notice the signs of the Normal Person*-dom, as the Normal Person* will certainly not be of any help in terms of collaborating on the matter.

The Savants* won’t try things they’re not into.

The Savants* are quite clear-minded about what they like and don’t like, and what they are likely to get into or not. They are not particularly adventurous, therefore, they don’t realize that the Normal Person*’s willingness to go quite far into what they don’t want is not really being similar to the Savants*, but being very the Normal Person* about it. They feel that the Savants* must get certain things out of their system, and believe that eventually, this foolishness will be over.

How do you know the Savants*-serious?

The best way to recognize a Savants* is that they’ve got a clear idea of what they want, and they are not afraid to tell you (if you’re not judgmental about it). You have to DRAG this stuff out of the Normal Person*. The Normal Person* won’t reveal their cards as there’s nothing to reveal: they want the standard issue relationship, and they’re willing to go temporarily kinky to get it. They won’t have ideas of their own, or they are very ad-hoc and wild, kind of non-aligned with each other. They may “act spontaneously” in a way that is random and ad-hoc compared to genuine the Savants*. They also tend to exaggerate their open-mindedness a bit, and it’s difficult to find their boundaries at first. They’re quite “whatever” about everything, whereas the Savants* will know their boundaries, no matter how few they would be; even in BDSM relationships, they’ll know what they are not interested in, and they’ll RARELY use phrases like “I’m willing to TRY anything.” They’ll either do it or not, they don’t “try” something they’re not into.

The Savants* will never FORCE their will on you.

The Savants* is not bossy, EVEN IF they’re into BDSM. They will only ever turn dominant after they’ve been given permission to be dominant. THAT SAID, their opinionatedness is often confused with dominating personality by the Normal Person*. The Savants* knows what they want; therefore, they’ll walk away if you’re not into the same thing. Therefore, to keep the already doomed relationship going, the Normal Person* is willing to try anything. They feel forced to it: “He/she is threatening to break up with me if I don’t do this.” That, however, is not a threat; it’s simply a statement: There is no point in continuing a relationship where the two partners don’t want and enjoy the same thing.
The Savants* is not desperate for relationships; they will walk away from a relationship that isn’t what they want, or at least keep it cool and distant while keeping an eye out for something they truly want. A lukewarm the Savants* hasn’t committed to anything, but they may not know whether this relationship has potential. Still, once they’ve found what they are looking for, they are fire hot about it.

The Savants* will return a wish with a wish or an “I’m not into that.”

The Savants* will express their wishes and wants much clearer than the Normal Person*. Remember, the Normal Person* want the Basic Form of a relationship, ALWAYS. They have 0 imagination about it, trust me. The Normal Person* will lead you on quite a bit about things, but if you tell a Savants* something they’re not into, they, at worst, won’t say anything about it, or say it outright. What they WILL NOT DO is promise to try it out “just this once” or say they’re totally into it while never actually doing it.
If a Savants* is into you, they will return a wish with a wish, blow by blow, or add to what you are describing you want or need or dream about. They may suggest something different, similar, if they are not 100% into what you are, hoping that maybe if they throw in their idea, you’ll find it to be more exciting than your original idea, something that maybe you just haven’t come to think of yet.  They’ll THRIVE to add ORIGINAL ideas into the game rather than go along with your fantasies (that they secretly think are attention-seeking or simply childish).

To be fair, the Savants* will find it easier to express themselves in writing, through a blog, or through their online profiles (always check out the Savants*’ profiles!) while the Normal Person*’s profiles are either empty, very basic, career-focussed, or showcasing how great they are at relationships: featuring a gallery of their best friends and beloved family members.

The Savants* will never judge you, but they will tell you, “not for me, thanks.”

The Savants* will be able to tell you if they’re not into your craziest fantasies. They’ll love you telling them, tho. They love hearing other people’s hopes and dreams, and they’ll easily tell you “happy hunting” if your dreams are not a match. They may also stay as friends with you even if your dreams are not at all in alignment. They’ll be interested in hearing how you’re going, even if their interest is cool and casual in nature. A Normal Person* won’t really do this, they’ll think you want a relationship and commitment if you keep asking them how they’re doing.
The Savants* may also not share their ultimate fantasies if they’ve already gathered that your wishes are not at all in alignment. It is important to know. The Savants* will gradually vanish out of the equation but may keep in contact for a long time, too, without things ever going forward.

The Normal Person* will pretend to be into whatever they need to pretend to be into.

It is helpful to know that the Normal Person* plays time in trying to get you to commit to them. They like the familiarity, and they think if you get used to them being your partner, you’ll fall in love with them. This won’t really happen, but you may still start thinking this is all there is for you to settle for. The Savants* would do wisely to not get too deeply involved with the Normal Person*, and frankly, the Normal Person* would be even smarter not to get involved with the Savants* – the sexually and romantically unsatisfied the Savants* WILL ALWAYS eventually seek for a divorce unless pure Christian virtue or the kid’s best keeps them in the relationship.
What is also noteworthy is that the Normal Person* is far more likely to cheat than the Savants*. The Savants* will break up or divorce easier than the Normal Person*, but the Normal Person* are cheaters, who don’t even understand what the point of an open relationship is, but they’ll fully understand why cheating is fun and exciting. Therefore, if there’s a kinky side to the Normal Person*, that would be it; they love to cheat, and they even love being cheated on – it’s dramatic and exciting to them, whereas the Savants* has NO SYMPATHY for cheaters, and WILL without a second thought divorce or break up with a cheater, but may, without any moral qualm at all, live an entire life in an openly poly relationship.

When young, the Normal Person* will conform to individualism.

Just to throw another the Normal Person*-marker in there, they will convert to individualism, which drives the Savants* mental. For instance, the Normal Person* will listen to whatever band is the sign of what you need to be, and if the Savants*’s strong opinions do anything, they’ll make the Normal Person* listen to whatever the individualist the Savants* listens to.
Therefore, if you’re over 25, you should ask your potential the Normal Person* date what they listened to when they were a teenager. What they’ll tell you is the Top 10 chart and will enthusiastically point out how they “knew all the bands” or were into what you were “supposed to” be into at the time. They were “in the know.” Even if the Savants* listens to the mainstream, they’ll make that choice DESPITE it being mainstream and will easily sound embarrassed about how mainstream their taste in music and entertainment in general was.

In today’s world, the Normal Person* teen will easily conform to a non-binary gender identity just to fit in.

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