Feeling Possessive – the Savants* and their True Emotion Mirrors
The True Emotion Mirrors are notoriously NON-POSSESSIVE compared to the Normal Person* thinking mentality. This causes worry in the Savants* who feel terribly attached to their True Emotion Mirror, and feel like they can’t let that person go and that they feel like they want to handcuff that person onto a pipe somewhere and keep them to themselves forever. “Not possessive?” they read and freak out. “What do you mean? After ALL OF THESE SIGNS, THIS is where I fail?!”
So no. I don’t mean that. We DO feel possessive of our True Emotion Mirrors, but in a VERY DIFFERENT sense than what the Normal Person* are possessive. And I BEG OF YOU not to freak out until you’ve read this entire post because we are going to be splitting hairs here.
Okay. The Normal Person*.
They are god damned possessive of anyone they’ve ever laid their eyes on, and I mean ANYONE. They fall in love because someone has been kind to them for five minutes. And here’s where a Savants* freaks out again: “But I fell for my True Emotion Mirror at the first glance, what’s the difference? Now I can’t let go!”
The difference is, that the Normal Person* systematically confuse friendliness to friendship, and kindness to flirting. If there’s been ANY KIND of a relationship before, they have hard time accepting the notion of a breakup. It can be INCREDIBLY difficult for a Savants* to break up with the Normal Person*, who has decided that this relationship is their final one. Their partner seems not to have any say in the matter.
And this is very difficult because the True Emotion Mirrors ARE MEANT TO stick together too, no matter what, No Matter What, and they are MEANT TO reach the point at which they feel safe to hang on and test each other’s love and challenge all of their bullshit about “breaking up” (ha!) but the Normal Person* REACH THIS POINT super fast compared to the Savants*. They reach it before their partner has given them any indication that they might want that relationship.
And here we enter muddy waters AGAIN.
How did your True Emotion Mirror signal they want a relationship with you? Telepathically is very much a typical answer.
The Normal Person* are not so much concerned over whether the other person wants them, what they are concerned about is whether that person has any real reason to say no to them.
The Savants* is always worried that they might not be mutually loved by the other person, and they need A LOT OF PROOF to believe they are loved. The Normal Person* need almost no convincing that they are loved, wanted, and the apple of the other person’s eye. They may not be much of a prize themselves, but they believe Justin Bieber loves them to the end of time because Justin was nice to them once, and Justin is the only boy who has ever been nice to them. No logic can go in and tell them that honey, Justin is paid to be nice to girls like you. “Yes, but Justin was nice to me.”
I’m trying to paint a picture of a very naive person here. The Normal Person* are very very, very oblivious when it comes to what I like to call adult relationships. They do not understand why anyone would turn down love as they think it’s such a rare thing to find. And it is, but if you can imagine a few people who you would turn down if they wanted to (seriously) marry you, you are not the Normal Person*. Can you? It doesn’t matter who. Do they stink? Weigh 150kg? Why would you reject someone who offers you love? If they’re a 150kg stinking balding drooling moron and they love you, the Normal Person* would think very seriously about starting a relationship with them. Are you starting to follow me?
Now, the trouble arises that the Normal Person* is also completely unrealistic about their worth to people. This is what causes all the confusion. As they are WILLING TO DO ANYTHING for love, they feel that should be enough. “I can be what you expect me to be”. They think WILLINGNESS alone will be enough. It’s like a person with an IQ of 60 will promise to be a doctor by next year, simply because you wish to date someone smart.
So I am, essentially, talking about the level of stupidity and naivity that you have hard time grasping. Now, let’s move on.
I shouldn’t waste time on writing to the Normal Person*, but those bastards are everywhere.
They will find this website. They will find someone who talks to them about this website. They will believe they are a Savants* because the Savants* are better, and by their thinking, calling yourself by “a better label” makes you one, they’ll do it. I am talking about the level of moronity that I have hard time emphasising, they seem like an impossibility as a concept of a human being, but somehow, whenever there is a promise of a permanent relationship (Twin Flame ) or some kind of a free love buffet (spirituality) they’ll be there, screaming for attention and a permission to cuff a random stranger into their own basement because they think they’re the most handsome/most beautiful person they’ve ever met – or they were nice to them once.
So what I am trying to do here is to discourage lunatics from thinking they’ve got a permission to expect ANYONE THEY WANT to love them, even though that’s what they’ll do anyway. WE are all wasting our breath on these people, and the more we have to explain the obvious to them, the more worried the Savants* get that they’re missing something important.
So let’s move on about the possessiveness
Are you capable of comprehending the idea that the person who you think is your True Emotion Mirror MIGHT NOT want you? As a theoretical idea. Not that they DON’T, but simply that there are situations in which a person might be completely head over heels in love with one person who doesn’t really return those feelings. If this is a real, understandable and acceptable part of a grown-up reality to you, you’ve got nothing to worry about. You’re sane. You’re able to evaluate this in a realistic enough light.
Let me put that in another way to further put your mind at ease, I hope.
I am constantly battling moronic women who cannot accept the idea that they’ll be denied love. The logic is something along the lines of: “But I am of the right age. I have a job. I am a woman. He’s a man. He was nice to me once. Now, I think he’s my True Emotion Mirror.” They’ve got one sign that points in that direction, something along the lines of “numerological charts match”: “My life path number is 7, and his life lesson number is also 7, don’t you think this means something?”
I fucking kid you not.
You think I’m exaggerating, but I am not. This is the shit I deal with. This is the exact level of shit I deal with.
They do not go over the list of “Twin Flame signs” and lose hope at the first thing that is not a match like the Savants* in love with a True Emotion Mirror tend to (they overreact) they go over that list, find one or two possible signs pointing in that direction and declare indisputable victory and marriage created in heaven before God, because Johnny Fucking Depp has the same birth month as they do. No matter there’s only 12 months in a year! The level of stupidity is MIND BOGGLING, so don’t worry.
Rapist comparison
A Normal Person* thinking man may justify a rape by this logic: “I know I want sex. I really, really, really want sex. I am convinced that the woman that I want to fuck also wants to fuck me. That’s why it’s okay to rape a woman.”
Now, the Normal Person* thinking female thinks along these lines: “You know I want love. I know I want love. I know I really, really really want to be loved. Now, I love this guy. I want this man to marry me and take care of me. Why would he say no when I have a job, I’m a woman, and he’s single?”
The Normal Person* doesn’t understand why ANYONE would say no to love or sex. They do not comprehend it, because THEY WOULD NEVER say no to love (women) or sex (men).
Are you starting to feel any better?
These are the people whose hands spiritual texts wind up in. Essentially, the message winds up being “don’t be a dick” which they cheerfully ignore. “Being a dick is fun, therefore, I’ll continue being a dick. I am simply a dick with a Bible, and that makes me better than people who don’t have a Bible.”
So don’t fucking fret, OK? There are morons in this world, try to keep the balance between what is sensible and what is not, and know that these people drive us teachers mental.
Possessiveness
So yeah, you want to take the love of your life home and cuff him or her into your bed forever. The animal instinct takes over, and it’s supposed to. And I am not saying to do it, I’m just saying that the wish to do so arises with the True Emotion Mirror. You will also want to chase away everyone who doesn’t belong in your soup, should you are a soup person and everyone else if you’re boring old couple type.
The feeling of “a right”
Now… This also is going to be difficult. I, myself, have a clear intent to teach my True Emotion Mirrors that THEY HAVE A RIGHT to me, so they’ll know that no matter what happens in our future lifetimes, THEY have the right to me.
There are some the Normal Person* thinking women who are trying to CLAIM that right against my will. I am trying to GIVE that right to a whole different group of people.
With that example, how much would your True Emotion Mirror have to fight back for you to give up? (Assuming you haven’t really trained each other to it yet.) How far would she or he have to go to deliver the message to you? For the Normal Person*, this line is FAR FAR FAR closer to “they would have to kill me and my family and resort to black magic that works” (although making them a laughing stock would work better) than “they’d have to tell me/give me a subtle (imaginary) hint they don’t want me and I’d believe them.”
How much work do they have to do to convince you that you have the right to have them? The Normal Person* answer is something along the lines of “we’ve been kinda friends for 3 years now” while the Savants* answer is along the lines “oh, I don’t know if I’ll ever believe it. I’m just a little-known millionaire with a phd who has an inflated ego and although I’ve won Mr./Mrs. Universe title 3 years running, I don’t think I’ve got much at all to say I am worthy of her/him…”
So please please please be realistic. Just because you believe in your chances doesn’t mean you’re crazy although some other people are.
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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