What is the difference between a true friend (precious soulmate) and a true lover (true emotion mirror)

The difference between a true friend (a Precious Soulmate) and a true lover (True EMotion Mirror) is quite simple, in common terms: With one, you have no real sexual connection to speak of, and if it exists, you both mutually agree it’s better off the menu. With the other, you have mind-blowing sexual chemistry on top of everything else; your deep friendship and intellectual connection. What is identical to both connections is that you both mutually love each other’s company and that you are both 100% happy in that relationship, be it friendship or love, when BOTH OF YOU have gotten everything YOUR WAY. (As opposed to situations where when one of you has it perfect, the other one suffers, flip a switch and the other one suffers, which is a Trail Companion* friendship/love relationship.)

A True Emotion Mirror can easily be your best friend when you are in a relationship with ANOTHER True Emotion Mirror. They will gladly accept your choice, and respect it, and your relationship with that other person, as long as you’re happy. Their love for you is selfless, therefore, they’ll protect you and your chosen lover with everything they’ve got if necessary, even if deep down they wanted to be the one themselves. True Emotion Mirrors are friends to you as much as a Precious Soulmate is, but with the difference, you both have to suppress a sexual/romantic element to your relationship in order to be friends. There is a possibility a True Emotion Mirror cannot remain friends with you after you’ve chosen another, but they’ll always prioritize your happiness over their own if they need to. ALWAYS. If their own happiness takes precedence over your happiness, this is definitely not either a Precious Soulmate or a True Emotion Mirror.

Poly-bonded True Emotion Mirrors

Where the True Emotion Mirror vs. Precious Soulmate decision becomes complicated is when polygamous True Emotion Mirrors attempt to stuff the relationship into monogamous expectations. When it is obvious that one or both of you ALWAYS has other love interests in the picture, and they ALL seem perfectly… perfect. (I have to remind you that the sexual/romantic feelings here are mutual if it’s about True Emotion Mirrors, if they’re one-sided, then it’s about another connection entirely.) It may seem sensible and even vital to a True Emotion Mirror to take a step back from your friendship when you are spiritually poly-bonded with a contemporaneous (current/modern) monogamous ideal you’re forcing yourselves into.

I believe, however, that there is a possibility your True Emotion Mirror soup treats some individuals as “possible kings” or “possible queens”, and the others take a natural step back in this equation, and their submission to the king or the queen takes a sexual element, that is never acted on. In some sense: “It is natural for a person to want to be intimate with the King or the Queen, but out of respect for the ruling couple, we don’t act or express our sexual desires for them.” It would be IMMENSELY difficult for the King or the Queen to remain OK while their “Royal Spouse” is in a relationship with another, even if the other is Sir Lancelot himself, and their relationship started before the King met the Queen.

Effectively in a soup like this, it is VITAL the true King and the Queen are in a relationship, EVEN IF the relationship otherwise functions equally like the Knights of the Round Table. (This also applies to polygyny and polygynandry, but I don’t have a well-known reference off the top of my head.)

True friends when the soup is complete

Now, a “soup” is a polygamous term for a “couple”. It doesn’t define how many people there is in that relationship or the gender ratio in it, but it just denotes: “as many as it takes to be complete, a natural SEXUAL relationship with no number limits”. Just like a couple, a soup can have friends. The purpose of this post is basically to describe THIS situation, when your soup is complete (even if it’s 2 at the moment), the true friends around you DO NOT WANT TO BE a part of the sexual/romantic side of your relationship, but they LOVE hanging out with you. Their love for your soup is as true as it can be, but there is no sexual or romantic component to this at all. (The sexual component MAY be compression; the joy for the sexual relations on behalf of another person; happiness over another person’s sexual happiness with no jealousy, and in this case, no need to involve oneself in the sexual relationship, apart from maybe an experiment, the result of which is “yeah no”.)

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