Why do I feel like I OWN him/her?! (I don’t like people who think they OWN other people!)

You’ve met your True Emotion Mirror, then? There are indeed people who feel unjustified ownership toward other people and call it love, but the True Emotion Mirror relationship basically breaks all the normal rules; you WANT THEM to own you, too, don’t you? You want this “abuse” to be mutual, don’t you? You want them to chain you up and tell you never to leave and that you belong to them, too, don’t you?

And, if they told you to go away, you would. This ownership is… you KNOW they want you to own them. You feel this ownership only for as long as they give themselves to you, right? You own them only because they gave themselves to you (and a few other people if you’re poly). If this was toxic, you wouldn’t care whether they gave themselves to you, whether they want you there or hate you – as long as you get what you want. And this is not the case with a True Emotion Mirror.

If you don’t care how they feel, then… Well, basically, nobody can tell you what to do because… You’re a psycho or something.

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