Power move: Decide to enjoy the situation.

OK. In life, situations happen that you’ll hate. Don’t want it. Want to avoid… But can’t. The more you fight it, the more they seem to insist you have to do it. (Just a general “they.”) Instead of getting aggressive, annoyed, argumentative, or fighting it, decide to give them what they want and DECIDE TO enjoy the situation the best you can. Now, this doesn’t mean you’ll actually enjoy what you were supposed to enjoy, but you will find SOMETHING to laugh about. I’m not asking you to turn into a saint, as you’ll see from my examples; I’m asking you to turn untouchable. (I don’t want ANYONE to be forced into ANYTHING in this world unless some BDSM stuff gets you off – that is the kicks I get for writing stuff like this.)

For example, I have a bisexual former best friend who has gotten into her head that she and I are Twin Flames (soul bond true lovers). Now, I’m as straight as a skyrocket, and I have never felt one ounce of sexual attraction toward even the most (inside and outside) gorgeous women I know. No matter how much I love or admire a woman, sexuality doesn’t come into it. (It is not QUITE as simple, I mention for future reference, but for the purpose of this post, it’s all you need to know. NOT attracted to even the most beautiful women, and this female isn’t… Even… In the ballpark of the kind of women I WOULD go for if there was an ounce of gay in me. (I mean Ruth Negga. She’d be my type.) (You know that particular ugly duckling fantasy that a physically attractive person is secretly in love with them, and it’s the true love they are too embarrassed to admit feeling… That’s what my former friend thinks is going on, in addition to me being as secretly gay as she is. *Yawn*)

In spirit, telepathically, she’s been insisting upon insisting that we’re Twin Flames, as I said earlier. Won’t let go of it because I keep blocking her away in what could be called disgust. She thinks this is because I feel disgusted at MYSELF for… Get this; being gay and in love with a fugly girl to boot. Sometimes people interpret other people’s feelings in whatever way suits them, right? Now, eventually, I got tired of it and said, you know what, let’s do it. Let’s get in a relationship together; let’s just make a big fucking lesbian gay bash out of it, shall we? I decided to ENJOY IT.

This would happen in spirit, in a telepathic “space” only, because obviously, this demonstrated why we totally should not do this in real life:

What I wound up enjoying was the whole ridiculousness of it, and how I would TRY to be a good girlfriend but winded up being a totally abusive, totally disrespectful snarky bitch, and her looking sheepishly at me, trying to figure out how her romantic dreams got that horrible. Every once and a while, I’d recenter myself to kind of “OK, I’m going to take this seriously now,” but wind up being even more horrible than before. I would tick all the boxes of an abuser, and I loved it. If you want to be with me, here’s how it’s going to go: I am going to be enjoying this.

Now, the thing is here that you don’t actually have to go as far as to ACTUALLY do many things you’ve been pressured to do. You just have to visualize it in your head as if you intended to do it for real and enjoy it to the best of your ability. Your demeanor will change instantly. You’d perhaps burst out laughing at a suggestion so out of this world crazy that you couldn’t possibly take it seriously. Instead of arguing how stupid something is with annoyance, just ENJOY the process of the argument. Your anxiety levels drop because you’re not trying to rationalize a polite way to say no or getting a yes; you don’t need to worry about doing the right thing; you just ALLOW yourself to ENJOY it, and what comes out is your GENUINE reaction to whatever is being put on you as an expectation, wish, or whatever.

Let’s say you don’t like going to school because what fucking smart person does..? You’re going to have to go, right? But NOTHING says you have to behave. They can certainly try. They can TRY and make you behave. But f*** if you’d rather enjoy running circles around the teachers causing mayhem and drama, AND delivering straight A’s just to piss them off further, why not do it? Disrupting the class of your schoolmates who try hard to be good students, then doing your homework at home brilliantly, and getting nothing but straight A’s… Until somebody asks you to homeschool yourself… Or whatever. Maybe you’ll enjoy having friends at school, helping them do school work, I don’t know? When you go to school that first morning, decide to enjoy everything about it, and then, you’ll pick your favorite things.

Of course, both examples sound a bit awful, but whatever you enjoy is more authentic than anything else you can do, and this world will be a better place for it.

I have another horrible example. Imagine you’re getting raped. Decide to enjoy it. Which part do you enjoy? Them letting you go, and you springing to action to bash the living daylights of your attacker, maybe? Maybe the act itself? What if you would, if you give yourself permission to, enjoyed the act itself – if you can, you are literally unrapable. While I do enjoy the thought of a heterosexual r***, and I haven’t felt afraid of it after allowing myself to feel what I truly feel about it – but I cannot apply the same template to women… Not quite the same I mean. What I do enjoy, however… I will leave it to the first bitch who tries to find out. 😉

How about enjoying the poverty you’re under? (In a way, it can be entertaining.) How about the riches, then? If you remove the guilt and fear of judgment, what would happen? Playboys and rich bitches! Go for it! Love it! It’s a shame there are people who COULD enjoy their wealth who don’t, I’m just saying. Live a life. You can enjoy building a business like it was a game, driving a car through a city in heavy traffic…

Just decide to.

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