How can it be a good thing for the Survivalist* to not get what they want?

Nowhere have I said that the Survivalist* cannot get what they want; I have said they should never get to have the Idealists* play the role of their lover or best friends. That’s all. For one thing, a Idealists* person is inherently wrong for the Survivalist* person, and vice versa, and therefore, BOTH OF THEM will never get WHAT they want from each other no matter how much they try. For the Survivalist* thinker to get WHAT they want, they have to learn to let go of a fantasy of making something that WILL NEVER BE what they want go, and focus on people who actually have the inherent capacity to be WHAT THEY WANT. If you want to marry Mars, stop dating Venus, simply because Venus seems more attainable to you at the present moment.

Now for all of the Idealists* that gasp, “MORE ATTAINABLE?!” the Survivalist* think the Idealists* are more attainable because the Idealists* are easier to get along with from the start. They, just like the Idealists*, must learn the rigors of approaching and bonding with their own type so they can get what they want instead of what seems easy at first. The Survivalist* seem like the easy answer to the Idealists*, and the Idealists* seem like the easier answer to the Survivalist*. Both will make each other unhappy and dissatisfied one way or another, but the Survivalist* have a hard time accepting realities, as in, “defeat” as they tend to view it.

Being a Idealists* myself, I find it natural to explain things to my own type. For us, the main goal is to learn to say no to the Survivalist* and to say to so that they don’t view it as downright flirtation. Now, once the Idealists* learn to reject and deflect and avoid relationships and bonds with the Survivalist* people, they will automatically do themselves a favor. It is A LOT HARDER to convince the Survivalist* people to think ahead and NOT try to pry every closed door open, just “knowing” it contains gold. Therefore, the Idealists* need to learn to bar that door jam shut for the Survivalist*, until the Survivalist* has no other alternative than to go for the relationships that will actually have a chance of making them happy.

the Survivalist* have a bad habit of pessimism, and although they could literally just walk up to another the Survivalist* thinker, tell them what they want, and start a perfectly satisfying relationship with them, they seem to think they’ll never get what they want because they’re “doomed” and instead, they insist on making things not only hard but IMPOSSIBLE for themselves, by chasing the Idealists* -thinking “well that locked door looks like exactly what I need” without ever even bothering to ask what’s in there! “The door is locked; it must be valuable!” (It is, but it is not locked for everybody, it’s locked from THIEVES ONLY, thus, a locked door means “IT’S NOT FOR YOU” rather than “it’s worth breaking into”!) They are so focussed on what they can’t have that they can’t see the oodles of opportunities that are there for their taking. NOBODY should have as easy a time finding a relationship as the Survivalist* thinkers, as long as they go for another the Survivalist* person. They can also literally mold any other the Survivalist* of person (who is not physically or intellectually disabled) into whatever the heck they want of them, but instead of going for the low-hanging fruit, they’re chasing after stuff they can’t have and won’t make them happy anyway, and making an already delicate task of finding the perfect partner as a Idealists* even harder for them. (Yes, I am fed up with them lot.)

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