Why not taking ANYTHING personally creates enemies, not friends.

People have to give you feedback about your behavior every once in a while. Usually, they drop light hints about it at first, then they try bigger hints, followed by a calm, friendly conversation, but if all of that fails, starts the yelling. If a normal person is yelling at you, there’s a problem. There are people who only ever give their feedback in yelling, as they, themselves miss every clue that has come in before yelling, but normally, yelling is a sign that something isn’t going through properly. If you ignore the yelling and decide “they’re just letting off some steam” or something similar, you may find yourself at the sharp end of a stick, if you know what I mean?

You HAVE TO be able to take feedback from others and adjust your behavior to suit others around you. It’s a two-way street and cannot be avoided. I’m saying you must adjust your behavior to give others space to be who they are, BUT NOT SO that you’ll become their circus pony they get to treat and boss around any which way they want. You owe them the right to be who they are, and they owe you the right to be who you are. If you’re incompatible, you try NOT TO bring out that stuff in the other person’s company, but that DOES NOT mean you should STOP being it.

When a person takes everything for a joke or “not serious venting” or whatever else suits their idea of “nothing is wrong,” they’ll make themselves completely unreachable by a normal conversation. Communication becomes IMPOSSIBLE. It’s not only difficult but impossible. Like talking to a doll or a wall. And if that person still insists on having a relationship no matter what, the chances are that it all won’t end well.

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