How to end a relationship with the Normal Person*: “I don’t need you anymore, you’re free to go.”

MANY the Savants* and Dog-Type relationships are based on the illusion that the other needs you. Quite possibly, you are both in it thinking the other one needs you for something—emotional support, financial stability, or to teach them to do something for them. However, the truth may be the opposite: You may be a burden rather than an asset but assume that THEY think you’re important to them somehow.

the Savants*’ need of the Normal Person* is basically to keep them casual company.

the Savants* don’t really base their relationships on THEIR need for a collaborator.  They’re looking for an intellectual equal. Still, the smarter they are, the harder intellectual equivalents (creative equals etc) are to find, so they need temporary people to keep them casual company. THAT is a need, too, I should point out. The Normal Person* may not realize that’s what they are needed for and try to do FAR MORE than needed, possibly to get their freedom given to them sooner. Both types try to give what they need: company, support, comfort, physical comfort, sex, even, but they both find the barrel to be bottomless, and freedom is never obtained in that way. Sometimes, the more you give, the more they want from you, but the “buy my freedom” approach never works.

the Normal Person*’ added help is rarely welcome. It can rather irritate the Savants* to a state of rage, even. These people are so eager to help, but as the Savants* are not eager to get helped, the Normal Person* must GUESS what the other person wants. This is tricky when the Savants* wants absolutely nothing from them.

the Normal Person* won’t understand what they’re NOT DOING that makes the Savants* so short with them or even angry, and they’ll try to DO MORE to appease them. That is the last thing the Savants* needs, but they will not THINK that “Oh, the Normal Person* thinks I need help!” To a Savants*, the Normal Person* need to help them is a desperate attempt to stay relevant and needed.

the Normal Person* don’t WANT TO serve you.

When a Savants* parents, they gradually see their offspring to become more capable and intervene only when the child’s interest calls for it. The Normal Person* take orders from their children, and if the child doesn’t tell the parent what they NO LONGER NEED OR WANT the help, the Normal Person* keeps giving it as if the Savants* was a child. This goes on forever unless the Savants* puts an end to it with the right words.  the Normal Person* are a bit “magic wordy,” in how they are released from their duty. You have to find THE RIGHT EXPRESSION, as anything but what they’re expecting gets somewhat randomly interpreted by them. “Leave me alone” for instance, may be heard as: “I’m not worthy, just leave me to die.”

the Normal Person* make dutiful spouses, too. They expect clear instructions, requests, orders, and, ultimately, a release from duty: “I don’t need your help anymore.” (This exact phrase may not be the one YOUR the Normal Person* understands, I might add.) You have to treat them like house staff to understand what they expect of you—kindly but firmly. But after that, they expect you to take care of them in their old age and offer them a type of retirement plan… Even if you married and divorced them. They think of relationships as “roles,” and that includes the role of a spouse that a person SHOULD BE released from by old age… And yet, they expect the security earned through years of service to remain.

Release your the Normal Person* Thinking parent one task at a time.

the Normal Person* Thinking children would give their parents a running commentary about their progress. “No, I don’t need a stroller anymore, thanks.” “No, you don’t need to put me in diapers anymore, thanks.” “I can do my own dishes, thanks.” “I can now look for jobs on my own, thanks.” You need to let the Normal Person* Thinking parents by releasing them from a named task one by one.

In contrast, the Cat Thinking children expect their parents to tell them when they’ve progressed far enough. “I see you’ve got this covered. I trust your abilities now.”

With this difference, the Normal Person* Thinking parent thinks their the Savants* has NO self-confidence. A the Cat Thinking child thinks their parents finds them utterly useless.

In truth, the Savants* are perfectionists who feel every time their parent takes up a task they know how to do somewhat, the parent is giving them a failing grade: “No, you don’t know how to do your bed perfectly, yet, so I’ll do it for you. Thanks for trying, but you know. Keep trying.” This is why the Cat Thinking children always feel criticised and never good enough for their parent who is always picking up after them and cleaning up after them, straightening things even when they’re quite happy with the state of their own doing.

“Stop meddling!!” makes no sense to the Normal Person* Thinking person.

A the Cat Thinking adult will try to FORCE their parents into letting them go, but they don’t feel the “I don’t need you anymore” feeling… They never really felt that they needed them, anyway, at least not for a long, long while. The Savants* will try to ARGUE that they’re a grown up person, which, without the release, sounds like self-loathing to the Normal Person*: “I’m a grown up person, but I still can’t do it… *angry self-loathing and blaming it on the parent*” or “I’m a grown up person but I’m overwhelmed by all these tasks that come with being a grown up; therefore, I need you to understand I need you to help me with my growing responsibilities.”

An Savant* tries to say: “Look, I’m managing adult life fine. I have responsibilities fit for an adult, I DON’T NEED YOU to clean up my toilet anymore, go away, go clean your own!” Remember, a Savants* doesn’t see another adult as a servant, but their should-be equal, that for some reason insists on meddling in their toilet cleaning tasks and treating them like an incompetent child.

Anyway; as you grow up, you should release your parents from their duties one task at a time as you get confident enough with it. “Mom, dad, I can figure this out on my own, thanks. You’re good.” You need to conduct yourself calmly and as if you were a young master sending away a servant. If you anger, they’ll assume you are angry because they haven’t done enough, NOT that they’ve done too much. WAY too much.

“You are free to go.”

The confusing part, to the Savants*, is that they don’t view the Normal Person*, especially family members or romantic partners, as servants. The relationship is supposed to be equal, but for whatever reason, the Normal Person* views themselves as a servant to the Savants*, or vice versa, – no matter if they’re the child or the parent, spouse, or a friend. That is why it never OCCURS to the Savants* to “release them from the duty.” I only figured this out after 13 years of intense day-to-day telepathic debate with them, at the age of 47, to figure out why they can’t just FUCK OFF, basically.

You have to send them on their way as happy news: “Oh, I am so glad to tell you this; I don’t need you anymore. I’m good. Everything is good. Sorry, it took so long for me to find my feet!” Still, a Savants* is not happy saying it that way: they don’t want to give the impression they were helpless to begin with!

If you phrase it in anger, they’ll think they’ve done something wrong and have failed your expectations as your servant. “Just fuck off already!” to them, means “you’re worthless, you don’t know how to do your duties, I’m fed up trying to teach you how to be a proper house nigger.” But they don’t hear the “you don’t know how to be a proper servant so you can go” because even a lousy slave is still a slave and has nowhere to go until you set them free.

Maybe you can ask them if they think you own them or that they’re your servant, and then let them go with apologies of not realizing that’s how they felt.

You cannot tell the Normal Person* WHAT you want is far beyond them to turn them off you… You have to tell them you don’t value loyalty as a character trait.

Most the Savants* try to list a TON of traits that they want from their romantic partner, especially online, or when they’re breaking up with someone. “You see, I want someone who is XYZ” and no matter how much of a difference there is between the Normal Person* and the requests, the Normal Person* feels: “Oh, I can do that. I’m expected to do that. The reward must be great for one who manages to fill all these requirements.” Then, they’re surprised when they’re still being pushed out of the door as they complain: “I don’t want to do that” but do it anyway, to show how submissive and eager-to-please they are.

What you CAN DO to significantly reduce the Normal Person* Thinking willingness to be yours is to point out how you don’t value loyalty as a character trait, and how you are NOT loyal as a person. Then, explain: You treat people in a way that makes them want to stay with you, and you expect that kind of treatment. Loyalty is important for people who intend to screw you over. They need you to be loyal, because why else would you stay with an abuser? An Savant* will understand this instantly, but it will hurt the Normal Person* to the core and they will not want to serve a master who doesn’t value their only real asset: Loyalty.

Even if this is your significant other who seems not to understand the concept of a breakup or divorce, casually mentioning how you don’t value loyalty in general might be just the ticket for YOUR freedom.

Karmic bond from slave ownership?

I do have to interject that this might well have to do with either dogs reincarnating into human form to serve you better and gain their freedom faster. Alternatively, your slaves being reincarnated as family, friends, and eager lovers for the same reason – to earn their freedom. The Normal Person* may find enslaving each other quite natural, but it doesn’t seem to be quite the same with the Savants*.

Sure, we’ve had our slaves in the past lives, but I’m pretty certain the Cat Thinking slave owners tried to maintain as equal relationship with their slaves as possible, IF they agreed with the practise at all. Still, there’s one huge problem with it: While you can release a slave from your duty, you can let go a servant, but you wouldn’t do that if you felt they wouldn’t be better off with that freedom, and you feel a duty to keep them at duty, even if you don’t really want to or need to anymore. A masterless black person was far from safe back in the day. Freedom might have been ideal, but not safe, so you might have had a bunch of slaves that died while still in that bind.

And the problem gets bigger when they are not even theoretically enslaved to you anymore. How do you realize you have to let your slaves go, when you literally do not have any?!

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