Does money really make you happy or unhappy?

Depending on the perspective, it may seem to you that money is what makes you happy – or unhappy. Neither is true. Someone, and I wish I could properly credit them, some life coach said that “money is a magnifying glass; whatever you are is revealed and bigger.” Your issues are magnified; your virtues are magnified. You’ll get to be what you are MORE and BIGGER. If you have issues now, money will make them bigger; if you are happy now, money will make you happier.

You are the seed, money is the fertilizer.

Your relationships count much more than money.

What defines your happiness and unhappiness is not money but who you share it with. Your RELATIONSHIPS are the key. If you don’t like the people in your life, you dislike them a thousandfold when you’re rich. Well, or whatever percentage you’ve increased your wealth by. Whatever crap you need to put up with, the people who are with you now will still be there when you’re rich, only more and bigger.

The ONLY THING you can possibly gain in terms of happiness is that you get to pick and choose the people better because you’re not financially dependent on anybody… And you can afford house staff if you want – or order Uber every night if you wish. You no longer need to foster relationships because you depend on these people for financial reasons. This is why some men divorce the wife they had cook and clean for them while they were building their business – now, they can afford the (kind of) woman they wanted… And a housekeeper.

You’ll have to break off/replace relationships – and not create bad ones.

However, for you to become happier with money, you’ll have to learn to break off relationships you don’t want and to avoid creating new ones without thinking. This includes your house staff, your employees, and your maintenance crew. EVERYONE around you must know whether they are paid to be there or whether they are there to LOVE YOU. You must be able to choose staff that doesn’t confuse working for you with loving you—unless you want it that way. For your happiness, it is imperative that you don’t foster relationships out of guilt or obligation and that you have a suave, classy way to get out of awkward relationship situations.

Replace relationships.

When we’re poor, we tend to rely on people we don’t want around when we’re rich. However, once we can actually CHOOSE our company, we don’t choose the same people we choose out of necessity. When we used to create NECESSARY relationships, even for the sake of some company, we choose differently than when our friends and lovers can be picked from luxury people.

“Staff friends,” husbands and wives know when they have been replaced. Let your staff-spouse see your mistress or lover, and let her or him work it out for themselves and… Give you their painless notice.

Suicide in the rich is due to “remember who was there when you were on your way up…”

Suicide in self-made rich people is more than likely the cause of the INABILITY to get away from people who love them and have loved them from the start but who they cannot love back due to their friends being staff & management at heart, not friends and lovers like they should be. You MUST ignore the guilt trip of “remember where you came from” and “remember who was there for you when you were a nobody.”

That said: “Remember who stepped on you on your way up” and “Remember who (genuinely) helped you on your way up” are still good, as long as “help” doesn’t count as cooking your meals. (You should not allow anybody to cook your meals for you unless there’s a clear transaction for it. You cook for me and can live in my apartment rent-free or for a quarter of the fair rent,” for example.)

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