When a person who has met their True Emotion Mirror rejects you, is it real?

A True Emotion Mirror rejecting their True Emotion Mirror isn’t real, right? So the question remains: when a person you’ve been involved with in one way or another meets their True Emotion Mirror, will they permanently reject everyone else around them?

The answer to this question very much depends on whether you want the #1 spot or are you happy to simply remain in their lives as a friend. You will never be the #1 to them, and it’s possible you never were. True Emotion Mirrors may have instinctively reserved the #1 spot for their True Emotion Mirror even when they haven’t met them and assumed everyone treats their friends as secondary anyway. So they may have not felt guilty doing that, assuming it’s obvious that’s how they think.

True Emotion Mirrors are complicated, and you’d do wisely to not meddle with someone else’s TrEmoR relationships.

True Emotion Mirror relationships are hardly easy and straightforward, but that doesn’t mean you have a snowball’s chance in Hell getting in the middle of it. They may not be on speaking terms with each other, but if you start messing with it, your life may be literally in danger. That’s usually not as far as they’d go, but if they’re a little on the criminal end of the spectrum, I’d steer the fuck away. That said, even in the calmer end of things, they won’t be thanking you for getting involved.

Further more, there’s a good chance they’ll TRY to talk themselves into giving up on that relationship, even though they’re still hung up on that person. They may start a relationship with someone else just to be sensible. That does not in ANY WAY diminish their feelings toward their True Emotion Mirror, and the ONLY THING that can sort of snap them out of it for a while is having a child. Once the child(ren) grow up tho… They’re back thinking about their True Emotion Mirror.

I would personally NEVER get in a relationship with a man I know who has a True Emotion Mirror.

Men like me. They appreciate me, they love me, even, generally speaking. Most of them find me sexually and romantically attractive and definite wife material. I’m just about as close to a fucking catch there is. Especially for a rich man who wants to rescue some deserving Cinderella-type a girl. 😀 (You know, I’m always broke, but it seems to bother them none; bothers the crap out of me tho.) Anyway, I could have any guy I want, basically… and I wouldn’t try my luck with another woman’s True Emotion Mirror (and I can ALWAYS tell when he’s not truly emotionally available,) unless they turn in an instant.

The irony here is, that I’m still waiting on my TrEmoRs, them being the only men I can’t have – and no, I don’t want them because I can’t have them; as I just said, I would never waste time on a man I can’t have, lest it is a True Emotion Mirror of mine.

In fact, I’ll tell you a story.

I had this online fling with a guy I was mildly interested in. He seemed… Wildly interested in me. Kept bugging me for some kind of a relationship for months on end. Shamelessly. I kept telling him I wasn’t interested because he’s in love with his wife. Eventually, I figured, fuck it, I’m going to play. I told him that although this is “a game” (Second Life) I would eventually want his wife out of the picture. I could nearly hear his dick get hard on the other side of the world. (Sorry for the expression, but f***.)

It’s been some time now, and he hasn’t spoken to me since. You know? A classic rejection junkie. (I have NEVER done that. Chased a guy to moon and back because he said no, only to dump him as soon as he gives in, just FYI. I am quite OK with a “No, sorry not interested,” which happens sometimes when idiot blokes play hard to get to ignite a rejection junkie, but I’m just not interested in chasing after men who will never surrender because if they do, they lose her interest, right?)

The moral of the story.

You will never get a real relationship with someone you have to chase. Either they come to you willingly, or they won’t.

That said, what you consider “chasing” in a True Emotion Mirror relationship, is an entirely different matter. Many of us don’t even dare to speak to that person enough to let them know you’re even interested, let alone do what would normally constitute as “chasing.”

The #2 spot.

True Emotion Mirrors are not automatically hermits. They still need other people around them. Therefore, if you’re happy to be just a friend to them, of course they won’t reject you, UNLESS you make it into a competition or start working against their relationship.

The reason why perfectly good friends might sometimes get in the way of a True Emotion Mirror relationship, is that it sometimes resembles madness and narcissistic abuse on the outside. Therefore, if you don’t know the difference, and you don’t think they’re physically in danger, just be mindful of the potential harm you’re causing. You do not want to get in the way of true love, and True Emotion Mirrors are just that, even though at times they act bizarrely compared to regular relationships.

(To be fair, a narcissist falls one-sidedly in love with someone similarly to a True Emotion Mirror, but cannot cope with the idea that the romance is entirely one-sided. Therefore, ONLY interfere if you feel like one of these parties isn’t in love with each other, and the other is hurting the other by imagining that their love gives them rights to abuse them but the other is clearly not interested in such games with that person.)

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