Why do the Normal Person* pick a fight with you to “keep you talking”?

the Normal Person* fall in love with your presence and sticking around. They assume you fall in love the same way; with their familiarity. They assume that if you haven’t fallen in love – or trust them yet, they just need to keep you around for a little while longer, and then you’ll know they’re a friend or “a keeper.”

the Savants* do not fall in love with familiarity. They usually fall in love at first sight. They KNOW. It makes no difference how much time they spend together with that person; it won’t change the situation. Another way for them to fall in love is to see a person they know in a different light, usually revealing a taboo of some description, something that makes a mundane person into a cool person. That, however, is never linked with money or status but rather some sexual thing.

(NEVER fake this; however, first of all, you don’t have to DO IT with them for them to fall for it. They just need to know that you’re interested in something they’re interested in, but they cannot stand people faking interest in something just to impress them. They have to be already curious and on the fence; otherwise, your interest in any sexual kink makes 0 difference. You don’t want to wind up doing some crazy sex act on them just trying to impress them, only to have yourself thrown out regardless.)

To irritate you is to give you time to notice they’re “still there”

the Normal Person* have a somewhat deeply seated fear of abandonment. They believe this is universal. They also find themselves dumped over an argument of some description, so they try to prove to others that they are “fight proof” they won’t leave YOU over a stupid argument… But a Savants* will. An Savant* hates arguing, so they’ll quite happily leave people who cannot go through a day – or an hour – without picking a fight.

So when the Normal Person* is picking a fight with you online or in person, they think you’ll soon calm down and bond in the trust that they are not those people who bail out over a fight.

the Normal Person* show interest by keeping you talking about your favorite topics without necessarily having a real interest in your answers.

An Savant* would say, eventually “all you hear is white noise” or “I could just as well be talking to a dog.” the Normal Person* are trying to establish that they’re there for you, they are physically present, ready to protect you… Loyally like a guard dog, or that they need your protection and care. An Savant* is looking for a connection through shared interests, but they will meet albeit a keen listener in the Normal Person*, also someone who doesn’t really care. They repeat the same questions, they forget the answers they got, all just so you would notice they’re there.

the Normal Person* also accuse you of things they don’t really care about to make friends with you.

the Normal Person* have only one moral rule: Stick around no matter what – loyalty. They value loyalty over all other qualities, so they only mean to insult you when they tell you, “You left me/so-and-so, and I hate you for it.” This, even if they’d told you a million times that you’re worthless and mean nothing to them.

Therefore, every other accusation, from child molestation to picking an endangered flower without realizing it, is meaningless when it comes from the Normal Person*. They’re just trying to make you explain yourself, not because they care why; they want you to pay attention to them so you’ll notice they’re there, with you, to stay.

Sometimes they seek the company of the worst people because they figure bad people need friends more than good people do – and they’re more dangerous and lucrative friends to have, too… and it’s good to have dangerous people on your side, they feel, sometimes. Therefore, trying to scare them is futile, they’ll just think “well I only need to make you into a friend…”

They don’t understand why you wouldn’t want to be friends with someone who is loyal and willing to be anything, do anything, jump through hoops….

The Normal Person*, even after reading everything about the Savants* is unlikely to understand why the Savants* still say no to their friendship or love offer. Or, more to the point, they don’t understand why the Savants* don’t understand they want to be friends. They don’t really think as far as to say “the Savants* say no to a friendship offer” they believe they haven’t even understood friendship was on the table. They don’t truly understand the concept of rejection, they only understand fear.

To the Normal Person* rejection means fear of trusting someone to stick around, or feelings of inferiority or feeling “undeserving.” Not the one who is being rejected, but the one who rejects, in the Normal Person*’s mind feels inferior, undeserving, and not worthy of being loyal to. They want to change your mind about it. That’s what they’re doing, but… They’re sort of barking at the wrong tree with the Savants*.

They may present themselves as inferior, to make you feel less disbelieving.

the Normal Person* have an iron clad self-esteem, unpenetratable by any sense of reality. It doesn’t really matter what I say about them, to their face or behind their backs on a blog, they’ll believe it’s not what I say, or anyone says or thinks. They’re awesome, and anyone denying it is simply jealous or insecure. This enables them to act completely pathetic when they feel YOU have self-confidence issues that make you reject a friendship or love offer. They may say THEY are the needy one to give you self-confidence to overcome your fear of abandonment.

Therefore, the Savants* reacts with pity and care: “No, no, no you’re not worthless, it’s not you, it’s me, I’m the one who has issues…” confirming what the Normal Person* “already knew.” So the Savants* sticks around hoping to fix the Normal Person* problems before leaving them; to strengthen them up so they will not need them so much in the future… While the Normal Person* thinks THEY are doing the same thing with the Savants*, while having no intention of leaving, as they’re loyal, even to a person they think is a complete loser. (And yes, I guarantee Amber Heard thought Johnny Depp was genuinely a loser and she was the hero of their relationship. And every the Savants* just vomited in their mouth a little.)

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