Why can’t the Normal Person* keep out of your dating business?

the Normal Person* date for their friends and family, not for themselves. This is important for the Savants* to understand, that the Normal Person* take it for granted, that their opinion on your love life matters more to you than your feelings toward that person. If they don’t like this person, to the Normal Person*is as good as you’ve broken up with them.

the Normal Person* think much the same way as polyamorists might – without their friends or family ever AGREEING to this at all: Who you love and fuck is very much their business, and if they don’t like your partner, you’ll break up with them.

If you refuse to listen to your the Normal Person*friend about your dating life, they feel completely disrespected, like you were dating that person just to smite them – they really believe that literally; that you chose this person just to piss them off. The Normal Person* believe that if you have a friend or a family member, you LOVE THEM, and if you love someone, you’ll make all decisions TOGETHER, and what is more important decision than who everybody is going to marry, because, the way the Normal Person* see it, you’ll all need to share your homes and lives with each other? To them, such decisions like “Well if you don’t like them, we can’t be friends anymore” make no sense, and are extremely dismissive and like you were ripping their self-worth out of their chest.

I am not saying accept that bullying, I’m saying that if your friends or family members seem to be like this, they are feeling your dating life deeply personally. They believe you are not looking for a spouse for yourself, or a new lifestyle for yourself only, but for the whole family and group of friends, too. They cannot see how you could turn polygamous, for instance, just by yourself, they assume if you’re turning polygamous, you’re also demanding that they will, automatically, too.

If you like your personal freedoms, I would suggest taking a bit of a distance from your the Normal Person*friends and family and making them forget you exist…

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