Alternative to a flat-out breakup

There are situations when you cannot truly break up with someone. This person may be a family member or a highly dependent the Normal Person*partner. In that case, what the Savants* should consider as an alternative to an outright breakup is the redefinition of the role of the Normal Person*in their life – rather than trying to redefine the relationship -which tends to be a difficult concept for the Normal Person*to understand. They see relationships as one lump of a thing, and the role in a relationship to you is somewhat a secondary issue – like remaining employed at a company they love, without caring too much about which role they hold in the company.

the Normal Person* have very little ability to care for themselves or tolerate solitude. Therefore, you should consider keeping them as a permanent fixture but in a new role. And I understand even this may be a difficult thing to figure out, and sometimes, we just never want to see a certain face again, but think of it this way: If you keep them “on the roster” you can control them somewhat, cut them lose and you’ll potentially deal with a much better issue of revenge… Amber Heard style.

the Normal Person* understand that things change, but what they don’t want to change is the people they can rely on. And by reliance, their primary concern isn’t how to get sexual or romantic attention, they give sexual and romantic attention in order to gain safety and security from someone. The Normal Person* men will gladly pay a woman’s livelihood, as long as she stays around giving emotional comfort while sleeping with other men freely. A Normal Person* Thinking man will give up on sex for a good home-cooked meal – a Cat Thinking man won’t. The Normal Person* women will gladly become a man’s sexual partner if that gains her the home and security she needs, but a Cat Thinking woman won’t give up on her sexuality for any amount of safety and security.

the Normal Person* can feel terribly embarrassed for not having found anyone they can rely on to take care of them – not even after agreeing to sleep with them. To them, having to sleep with someone for the care they receive from it is embarrassing too. In contrast, the HEIGHT of the Normal Person*pride is to be taken financially care of by someone with NO sexual demands on them, with a promise that this will continue for the rest of their lives. The Normal Person* person may try to “buy you” by ending sexual expectations on you, which, to a Savants* is the end of romance. However, if you agree to take care of their physical and financial needs and mow their lawn once a week, that, to them, would be amazing. Then, their embarrassment relates only to not having found someone richer than you to take care of them, but they can’t really hold that against you. (the Normal Person* mind is a difficult concept…)

Also, the Normal Person*woman will always try to fix things (her relationship with her security system in the form of a husband) with sex, because to them, that’s the only thing that drives a Savants* man – which is largely true, but not the end of the story. So he needs to find her another secure role to play and get another woman (or a man) to do the sex/spouse part. The Normal Person*man will try to fix things with money and gifts, which never works with the Savants* woman at all.

While this plan would be great, it will more than likely make a tighter bond between you two, reincarnationally speaking, so there’s that part to consider. Another low-impact option is to “rehome” your the Normal Person* partner, as long as you are willing to find them someone to look after them like they were a parent or a sibling, rather than a romantic partner.

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