A Narcissist Feels Powerful and Safe Standing Between True Lovers.

A narcissist is somewhat always on the warpath with nature. Their true, authentic nature and the nature of others. They want to conquer the flesh, “the animal,” as they sometimes referred to it as, while normal people want to give into it and live with the beast, the authentic self; authentic feelings, and truthful desires. Narcissists feel powerful and in control, and sexually aroused when they can stand in the way of true feelings and true desires, whatever means they use to get there. They feel powerful when they can break up true friends and true lovers when they can turn their children away from their true dream and serve another purpose instead.

Narcissists use all this energy to avoid facing themselves for what they truly are. They feel like they have to be in the way of nature and the course of nature to feel like they impact their surroundings. Like they matter without actually having to matter.

Therefore, telling a Narcissist what you want out of life is pointless. They feel like it is their authentic need is to stop you from having what you want and need – even if they were your parent. To the point that they may pretend like they’re helping you get there when, in truth, their help only appears when you’re walking away from them, and their power over you is diminishing.

Narcissists want what they can’t have.

Narcissists “want” NAMELY what isn’t theirs. They want you if you’re in love with someone else. They want you if you seem unattainable for whatever reason. No matter how often you tell them you don’t love or want them, they’re just more excited about it. They feel they’re safe with you BECAUSE you don’t want them.

Therefore, the way out is to come up with an excuse to do a 180 and start chasing them like your life is dependent on it.

Therefore, one way to get rid of a Narcissist is to make sure they believe you’re theirs. Emphasize to them how you are THEIR HUSBAND, you belong to her, you’re his wife, her daughter or their most loyal employee, and how you will GLADLY do everything in your power to make them happy. Seek intimacy; coerce them to share their true feelings with you; bring home “couple’s bonding games” and drag them to couple’s counseling “to bond.”

Do a 180, and rather than fight against them because you don’t love them, make them see how icky it is when they have something… That they don’t want… As the only way for a person to not have what they can’t have is to go after something that isn’t theirs on the root level.

Intimacy issues and a commitment phobia.

Narcissists have intimacy issues. They don’t truly want to be with anyone on an intimate level. Therefore, the only way they can APPEAR to be “healthy” is to go after people who don’t love them, and then blame THEM for having intimacy issues and a commitment phobia. In truth, they are knowingly chasing what they can’t have, so they’ll never have to admit to you or others that they are scared to death of relationships and intimacy… They’re just in love with someone who has intimacy issues, right?

Look them deep in the eye a lot, if you don’t do anything else. Look them in the eye when you speak. You may have avoided this so they don’t see how you don’t love them, but now, look at them to see how their soul is doing. Aim to get to know them as a person, deep down, and you’ll find them to be crawling out of their own skin.

Trust them and be open with them.

Speak about your feelings to them, but never reveal you don’t love them or want them. Just to make them super uncomfortable. Ask them to share their feelings, to open up to you. Then, accuse them of not loving you, not caring about you, for slipping away.

Watch them how their “respect” for you vanishes.

This will most likely work even if they knew you were pretending. You just need to avoid using an overly sarcastic tone of voice, and force them to admit they hate talking about their feelings and all this icky bonding stuff. You can even say: “Honey, you know I don’t love you, but maybe if we tried real hard… If I could get to know you, very intimately…”

Obviously, if you just want to get rid of a normal people and you’re just too afraid to bring the topic up, this is not what you want to do to avoid that problem. This works only on people who you’ve already tried to dump a thousand times with subtle hints and even open discussions, but they just don’t want to hear it. It’ll have the expected results and you’ll be stuck deeper than you care to think.

The road to your True Emotion Mirror is the same as the road away from a narcissist.

I mentioned before, that whether you are talking with a True Emotion Mirror or a false one, the road to take is the same. That same method of being open and honest with them, talking about things is the way to your True Emotion Mirror and away from a narcissistic bond. MAYBE you’ll heal their issues along the way, maybe you will simply send them running scared. Either way, you’ll win.

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