A narcissist is a rejection junkie. They’ll reject you to make you want them more.

A narcissist is really only interested in relationships for the purpose of boosting one’s own self-image or for improving one’s societal stance. When someone rejects them, they feel that person is their superior, and they NEED TO get to that person’s good books. They’ll reject you only if they sense you’re about to reject them, so as their final play, they will reject you before you reject them. That way, they believe that if they beat you to the punch, they still have the possibility to make you feel tempted by the closed door, and force you to keep banging at the closed door like you were obsessed to do it.

Therefore, a narcissist may reject you even if they didn’t want to, regardless of the fact you didn’t intend to reject them. They may want you to go after them, and it’s up to you to decide whether you will or will not. (Many men are also fully under the impression that narcissistic traits are equal to feminine traits, and they will assume the best way to create interest in a beautiful woman is to reject her. They may do this strategically even if they’re not narcissistic any more than she is.)

Remember that people may have some narcissistic traits, too, without making them full-blown narcissists. That means that even if someone has a narcissistic reaction to rejection, it doesn’t mean you should write them off as a potential partner solely on the basis of one trait.

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