A new way to think about marriage

Normally, when people marry their hidden motivation is to protect a shaky relationship by marrying the other person. This is to create an invisible fencing around the other person: “Keep away, have pity, do not take my spouse away from me, I own them.” VERY OFTEN (not always) marriage is a sign of insecurity rather than a sign of complete trust in the relationship as it should be.

Now, what if the society would start viewing marriage in the opposite light, when respecting a marriage would mean: “I know you love one another, and I know even if I tempted you I wouldn’t be able to break you up, but wouldn’t it be fun to flirt a bit?” or to think “if I can take your spouse away from you, you weren’t loved enough by him or her.” So what if we viewed marriage as an invitation to test our love for one another? What if, for as long as you were dating, people would keep a respectful distance, and give you time to figure out whether or not you were going to take the relationship to the next level. (Maybe you would be wearing rings while dating rather than once married.) Once the pair (or group, if polygamousORpolygynandrous) is confident in their relationship, they should put it to test; “We marry, so NOW you can test our love for one another.” People who are not secure in their relationship shouldn’t marry at all, and those who are, certainly could use the entertainment, because once you are fully secure in your relationship, things can get a tiny bit boring even if the relationship was absolutely brilliant to begin with, when nobody tries their luck with either one of you.

How about it? Would you be brave enough to marry?

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