A perfect example of how psychology interprets the Idealists* and the Survivalist* thinking -patterns

The Survivalist* and the Idealists* thinking -differentiations are my own theory and not yet understood by general psychology. A recent study shows, apparently, that people who prefer to stay friends with their exes are psychopaths and narcissists. Now, there are so many things wrong in that sentence I cannot even begin to unravel it all, but let’s try.

The Survivalist* (commitment seekers) have an on-off switch when it comes to their relationships. They are either full-on in them or they’re completely out of them. This creates a black and white setting for all of their relationships, and they do not comprehend a situation where you can be friends with someone with who you have previously had a deeper relationship with.

When a person like this remains friends with a person who has got shades of gray in there, they are continually trying to either end the relationship constantly or to bring it back to what it used to be – there are no gray areas for them. When this happens, the “narcissist” continually gets signals to either “come over” or “go away” as in, their ex is either picking a fight or trying to become a girlfriend or boyfriend again, leaving the assumed narcissists into an awkward position of trying to manage this situation the best they can. There is nothing as confusing to the Survivalist* as boundaries.

It may take a long time before a Idealists* finally puts an end to the relationship because they feel it is completely immature of a person to not be able to maintain a friendship after a love-relationship, especially if this relationship was a meaningful one, which means that even though it didn’t work as a love relationship, it would be a shame to waste the friendship as well. They feel that grown-ups should be mature enough to maintain a friendship afterward, and thrive to it, but they find it impossible to do this with the Survivalist*, in the study “the normal person” who finds it impossible to regard an ex-lover as just a friend.

Psychology is a tricky thing, where depending on which thinker type the psychologist is, they will interpret the actions of the opposite type as pathology. Whenever I read a psychological description of any issue, I can tell whether a Idealists* or the Survivalist* wrote it of the opposite thinker type. Even the definition of a Narcissist varies based on which thinker type wrote the description of the same condition.

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