A permission to fall in love with someone

Highly evolved spirits tend to wait for a permission to fall for someone who they quite genuinely already love. They know from personal experience, that having someone they don’t love pour their love on them is very uncomfortable, annoying, and destroys all respect and friendship between the two people. They wish to be given the permission to fall in love before they want to do the same, because they know their own equals are most likely suffering from unwanted love already, and they don’t want to make matters worse for them.

It maybe difficult to understand how anyone could say ‘no’ to any form of love, but if you imagine someone who you haven’t got the slightest interest for, follow you around like a lost puppy, demanding you to love them, lovingly showering you with gifts you have no intention returning and so forth, how excited do you feel about this love? Not very, I know. It feels idiotic and annoying, rather than uplifting and makes you feel all sorts of emotions and gratitude and amazement of how lucky you are to have someone love you like that are not two of those feelings even though that is what the person in love thinks you should be feeling.

Highly evolved people don’t simply assume their love is welcome as a result of them being so god damned awesome and the object of their love being so very strapped for love, right? They know this person is loved by a lot of people – evolved beings don’t fall for anything but – and they know rejection isn’t a testament on how much they’re worth or how good people they are, how good looking they may be or may not be, but simply that this person loves someone else more than them, or isn’t interested in monogamy at all or whatever, there maybe a lot of reasons why the rejection be very valid, and it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with either one of the two even if one has to say “thanks but no thanks”.

It is easy for an evolved person to accept rejection. They reject perfectly amazing people all the time themselves and understand it is just the way things are. However, often they assume insecurity shown by their loved one is a sign of rejection, or that their loved one is equally silently asking for “the green light” to fall for them, too. Evolved people are cautious in love, but not incapable of loving, not at all. They also try to keep their love to themselves out of respect for their loved one, or they try to use some method to get through the walls, but they are much quicker to back off than less evolved beings if their advances are not met well… Even too easily, because they know that sometimes rejections are real even though they seem nonsensical to the person in love, so they take it into account that they maybe blinded by the emotion and going full speed towards someone who simply wishes them to stop. The last thing they want to do to a loved one is to make them feel uncomfortable, or even more so; lose that person’s respect for them for not being able to take a rejection.

It takes extraordinary circumstances for “pushing” to have positive effects on people. (I mean extraordinary comparable to being locked into the same cell for 5 years during a war with no foreseeable end and no other allies to rely on than the person in the cell with you. That’s the time to push when the other one has no escape, but if there’s a way out, they will use it, and sometimes people who feel they might be pushing too hard may use the exit just to save the other one from their obstinance and inability to respectfully hold their tongue.) The more people push and fight to get in, the more the walls come up anyway, so evolved people know backing off is usually the quickest way to get back in. They take their time and are patient, but they might be well advised to be told that sometimes people get so cautious about their advances that they appear to give you a rejection, and sometimes people who attack you as if they were trying to chase you away is a tactic they’ve learned to work on less evolved people, who simply want to prove to you that they are worthy of your love and that they could “have you if they wanted”. Highly evolved people rarely get provoked like that, though, but take it as a request to back off rather than a provocation to try harder.

The permission is given by the show of mutual interest. It is an encouragement to please say more, do more, ask for more. It should be given gradually between equals or asked for directly if one of them two is feeling particularly confident but a somewhat “beneath” the other, like a man who has spent many lifetimes raised as a gentleman might feel for a woman he considers a true lady. (But because many lifetimes mix and we live in whatever culture we live in, we may draw from several incompatible lifetime experiences and not necessarily the same ones as our True Emotion Mirror* has wound up drawing from, the pair may get their wires crossed.) In my case, my True Emotion Mirror* simultaneously treated me like a lady (I was supposed to give him the permission to fall in love) and tried to provoke me for an attack and to claim him for my own because in this lifetime, he had found that approach efficient, which I don’t respond well BECAUSE I am a lady! I also think more like a man than most men do, so I was also asking for a permission to fall for him, which I never received as he was trying to provoke me. I also felt I was no longer worthy of him, because there is nothing more than makes a woman ‘tainted’ than having been with a man’s best friend, which I had, because I was in a relationship with his best friend and that is how we met… The setting was there to provoke his natural instincts as a polyandrist to go after his best friend’s girl, but there was several things wrong with that plan, one of them that I didn’t feel equally towards both  of the men, and I thought my boyfriend would notice it instantly if I was with his best friend whom I loved more than I could possibly convey in words. At the same time, I felt I was already ruined for my True Emotion Mirror*, so I thought I’d better salvage what I could and not rock the monogamy boat. This was only a fraction of a difference, if I hadn’t met the other man, I would have never known to want anything more than what I had with my boyfriend, who was magical to me up to the instant my eyes met with his best friend.

That is to say, the perfect plans from the “universe”, or your spirit guides, lacking a better term, are not always perfect. They may be unknowingly catering to another goal entirely, and the surface plan maybe just a decoy for the person to be pushed towards another fate, something they would not go for primarily, but that has a HUGE secondary goal value that MUST be met, and the only way to get there is to deny the first, biggest wish for a duration of time. These plans may also be just a test… What would happen if, would this work… Which one of the men does she love more, what would make her settle on just one man etc… Sometimes the human mind has such an incredibly hard time letting go of a cultural belief like the goal of monogamy, that spirit guides forget to feel the emotions of their guided people, and go head-on towards a false goal like monogamy instead.

Speaking of monogamy and polygamyORpolygynandry¹, the permission to love is still not given automatically to anyone who wants that even if the object was polygamousORpolygynandrous or polyamorous. No matter what, people still have only 24 hours in a day, and those hours must be divided by those who matter the most. More on that another time.

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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