A Rejection Junkie

A rejection junkie is a person who believes a rejection from someone they are genuinely interested in could not be real, but that it is only flirtation. A rejection junkie has narcissistic self-confidence in that not one person they’d want to get to know in one sense or another could reject them for reals. A narcissist is also never interested in what they can easily have, as they don’t see it as an elevation to their status, therefore, they only ever want what they cannot (truly) have, and once they get it, they no longer want it.

If you want to avoid getting into a rejection junkie’s trap, never ever play hard-to-get. It is a strategy specifically developed to attract a narcissist, and that’s the last thing you want in your life. If you are interested in someone, be interested, and never play games; otherwise, you’ll get into the eye of a narcissist, and it can be heart-breaking once they feel they’ve got you and no longer want you. You will function only as a narcissistic source for someone who needs validation of their excellence or charm.

Of course, from time to time, you’ll have to reject people, especially if you are… Well, desired by many. There’s no avoiding it, and I’m not suggesting sleeping with everyone who wants you, befriending everyone, whatever, no. Quite the opposite. I’m saying don’t play hard-to-get when you’re not hard-to-get (for that person). Only non-narcissists are interested in people they find easy to have, and that’s the good news.

There are relationship dynamics that play on jealousy (which is a different thing) and on feelings of competition and rivalry, but those are different things. At any rate, whatever makes you happy is of importance, and whatever makes your relationship dynamic work for both/all of you is what matters, even if it sometimes looked bad in general terms.

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