A True Emotion Mirror relationship dragged into the public too soon will suffer

We live in a culture where we are all expected to be sexually confident adults at 16 with no hesitation to trust ourselves and to move a relationship to the next level and make a commitment and whatnot. At the same time, we are being babied by our parents for much longer than before. A modern 40-year-old is the equivalent of a previous 20-year-old. Gone are the days when lovers snuck into the garden to be away from prying eyes and whisper sweet, loving words into each other’s ears or secretly met in distant locations to hide the fact they were lovers.

THIS is how True Emotion Mirrors should be. They should be a sweet, pleasurable secret until their relationship is fully developed and mature. Still, we rush this process entirely too much. This is why fate so often arranges some kind of an obstacle in your way so you cannot ruin things by making things official (formal and not very sexy that is) before the flame has taken a good hold and before it has become a roaring pit of fire that no amount of “oh but you should love your wife more” could smother.

The telepathic state with celebrities may be common because the connection needs protection from everybody and their favorite gossip magazine.

True Emotion Mirrors need time to adjust, but society is so open-minded that people don’t have the time for it.

See that is what kills a True Emotion Mirror that is taken into the public eye too soon. You’re expected to handle this relationship as if it were any other normal relationship. One of those that don’t truly have any ability to move you, hurt you, or make you particularly happy.

You know you are not always good with one another. Lover’s quarrels, which were, in previous generations, regarded amusing young love, are now met as “oh my God, he’s abusing you, isn’t he?!” What previous generations laughed at is now taken as a sign of bad behavior and disrespect of one’s spouse. Especially the man is being lectured about how he SHOULD love more, better, and nicer.

If you marry before you’re secure in your mutual love, you will easily start keeping a tally over whether you’re the one who loves more… When love is put on a roster, you’ll start calculating who loves enough and well enough. It will weaken it, no matter how big it is, because we start focusing on having to feel a certain emotion now when we are still trying to work through another.

That is not to say you shouldn’t marry your True Emotion Mirror; I’m saying you shouldn’t marry them too soon.

Sometimes the adjustment takes arguments.

You know, when pet owners get a new pet, they at least used to say: “Let them work out their pecking order in peace.” This is what True Emotion Mirrors need to do. They need to work their pecking order and dynamic out, because it is unique. It cannot be handled by some male-female template that society wants to push on them.

True Emotion Mirrors take time to adjust to one another. This takes fights sometimes. It takes anger and love and hate and self-loathing sometimes. (Self-loathing, yes. There are things that your True Emotion Mirror brings up that you wind up disliking about yourself before you understand why you’re still cool and perfectly lovable. Sometimes, it takes attitude adjustment, a change of perspective, and a change of what is considered a virtue and what is not, tho.)

Your True Emotion Mirror is your authentic other half – you can’t have that if you think you’d be better off being different to what you are.

You need to go through all of these emotions and become fine with who you truly are before you can give yourself to your True Emotion Mirror wholly. You must realize that your authentic way of doing something is the ideal.

In order to be mature enough for a True Emotion Mirror, you will have to be completely fine with who you are, your sexuality, your sexual organs, even, you cannot put parts of you aside and think that he or she will never need to know that part of you exists. They will need all of you, not only the parts that you like about yourself and accept, but also the parts you find disgusting, shameful or loathsome.

Don’t let your other half rush you into public.

It is  possible your True Emotion Mirror fears you’re not serious about them if you keep them hidden. You need to explain to them the reason you’re keeping them a secret is that you do take it very seriously. Explain this dilemma.

Also, once you get engaged, people often freeze the development of the True Emotion Mirror bond by “locking it in now.” After an engagement, it can be too risky to try anything new, to bring up issues that are still there, unresolved.

Some people want to “safe guard” the relationship with a commitment before it’s ready. Maybe, MAYBE that can work if you both know that’s what the marriage or engagement is supposed to be doing.

You need to face your family eventually, and be proud of your partner who makes you cum like nothing else… The way they do it.

Eventually, you will have to face the world with your True Emotion Mirror. Don’t expect that you can hide who and what you are to each other from the view. You will have to be able to stand in front of your family members fully aware of your own sexual being, without feeling ashamed or awkward. That said, you cannot be blamed if your family or other people cannot handle it – but for that very reason you will have to be able to. Their feelings cannot become the reason why you and your True Emotion Mirror will split up.

When True Emotion Mirrors allow themselves enough time to explore each other. They must explore themselves and their emotions, feelings and sexuality. All of this will happen as a result; you grow up with each other and you intertwine into each other, but if this process is interrupted, you will remain adolescents pretending to be grown up. The one thing that can be done if you have managed to kill your True Emotion Mirror connection by marrying them is to divorce them and keep seeing them in secret. :p

If you come out of the closet “raw,” you won’t last as a couple

Society imposes rules on how a relationship should look like. If you come out as a budding couple and put yourselves in the position of being observed by others, you will get comments. They will see that you don’t know what you are doing, and will start advising you on how to live your lives. They will start to give you a description of what a marriage should look like. Your idea of how your marriage will look like must be stronger and clearer than theirs.

Only after you have waited until your love is more mature than their juvenile ideas of what marriage should look like, will they allow you to break the rules of normalcy and become the couple that you would naturally be; even a traditional couple. If you hurry the development of your love, society will hurry it too. That will break your authentic love connection, and it will not be feeling good anymore, not the way it would if you would enjoy it in private.

Love is not a spectator sport, especially not kindling, young love. It is a sweet, intimate secret that you do have the right and obligation to keep away from prying eyes, especially from your families, for the time being. You will know when to expose it to the public. As much as you can, keep it away from people… Your sweet, even guilty pleasure as it may be.

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