A well-adjusted the Survivalist* has no enemies except their Cat Type Thinking* immediate family.

I must point out, very clearly, and I should do more of it, I’m sure, that a well-adjusted the Survivalist* has no enemies except their Cat Type Thinking* immediate family and loved ones. Mostly, they get on with everyone with no difficulty at all. They are active in their communities, helpful, sunny, and lovely, and everybody loves them. Typically, even Cat Type Thinking* people love them as long as they’re not too close.

The problem is when it comes to their Cat Type Thinking* immediate family members, particularly their children. It is a nearly impossible relationship to navigate because the way the Survivalist* shows love to their closest ones is what a Idealists* calls “abuse” quite seriously – even a Gen X the Idealists* and their elders. Therefore, when the Survivalist* loses their relationship with a close relative, typically their child, think nothing of it. They’re simply chalk and cheese, oil and water. They don’t mix, but it’s a bitter pill for the Survivalist* to swallow and a sore spot to talk about.

the Survivalist* are pillars of a community (the Idealists* are for the stage).

the Survivalist*, as difficult as they may be in their closest relationships with the Idealists*, in their communities they are indispensable. They keep the wheels turning, they make things happen. Nothing would ever get done without them. They offer a family on a larger scale; they build villages out of individual houses and they bring people together.

In communities, the Idealists* are the performers that the Survivalist* ask to entertain audiences (from a stage) at community events – and typically, they happily accept. They are in a leadership position of some description, a “stand-alone” of some kind. They love helping out as long as their interaction is “free form,” their thing. The Idealists* don’t fit in as one of the crowd. Normally, that is clear to everyone; there’s no reason to change that.

What the Survivalist* don’t need to do is to feel sorry for putting the Idealists* up to tasks that the Survivalist* hate the most: public speaking, solo singing, performing… Even fighting the community’s battles for them. All of those things are a pleasure for a Idealists*. They love a pedestal and added responsibility, and they love to be asked to go on stage for any reason… As much as the Survivalist* hate it, the Idealists* love it… As long as they know what they’re doing. (Don’t ask a painter to sing a song. ;p)

the Survivalist* love being one of the many.

Whenever you think of the Survivalist* and the Idealists*, the former are the choir, the latter are the soloist. The Idealists* hate to vanish into the mass, and the Survivalist* hate to be pointed out. No matter how good singer the Survivalist* is, they hate the idea of singing the solo. No matter how talentless a Idealists* is, they always want to stand out. Typically, the Idealists* are quite aware of their short comings, but not always, but they’ll always thrive to be better and to be good enough to be pointed out as “one to look at.”

the Survivalist* family maybe immensely proud of their Cat Type Thinking* member of the family, but they would hate to be paraded around like a trophy. A Cat Type Thinking* family member feels this is shame. If and when their Lover-thinking* family tries to keep them hidden, they feel their family is ashamed of them and their difference. In truth, the Survivalist* want to hide their difference, yes, but only because they don’t want to force their loved one into the lime light that they, themselves would loathe.

(This is one of the reasons why “do onto others as you’d do to yourself” is a horrible piece of advice.)

One more thing communities will have to know and accept.

While the Survivalist* make excellent partners, they only make excellent partners to another the Survivalist*. These two thinker types do not mix as best friends or romantic partners. This HAS TO BE taken into account when pairing people. An Idealist* won’t easily obviously reject people. They feel it’s rude. They try excuses at first. A Survivalist* will say a stinking hell no to begin with but come around eventually. An Idealist* shows reluctance, that to the Survivalist* almost looks like hidden pleasure. It is very, very important to know whether someone is a Idealists* or the Survivalist* before you try to force them together.

And, what sometimes looks like a lover’s quarrel, can be a Idealists* who is absolutely genuinely opposed to a union with someone, to the maximum level – they may absolutely despise someone. For a Idealists* to strongly, and brutally and loudly – even to their own families – reject someone, it MUST BE respected. They are basically fighting for their romantic life to not be slaughtered, and ignoring it, thinking it’s “cute” or just a lover’s quarrel, is just about as cute as ripping someone’s skin of insisting it’s just his jacket. Do not take this lightly, even if the one to object is a man, and “there is absolutely nothing wrong with the girl we have chosen for him.”

the Idealists* should be community cupids, really.

Sadly, the Idealists* are typically not involved in these conversations because they like to keep out of other people’s love lives out of the deep respect for them. But truth be told, they would make excellent community cupids. MUCH better than even the most involved Lover-thinking* match maker… And on top of that, the Idealists* would LOVE playing cupid in a small town, but they would need the community’s permission to do it, generally speaking. They know what it feels like when relationships are forced upon people against their will, so they don’t do such things without being trusted with the task. This permission could be informally requested from a few people, however.

the Idealists* would typically even pair the Survivalist* absolutely masterfully with just a little remote training from yours truly. ;p (I will have to make that into an online course. :D) They know when one person is sexual and when the other one is less so, and they would NEVER pair a non-sexual person with a sexual one, like the Survivalist* do without a second thought. Another thing that the Survivalist* are typically bat-blind to is people’s IQ, where a Idealists* will know instinctively if two people are intellectually or philosophically compatible or not.

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