About the Savants* to the Normal Person*

the Normal Person* are all about unity, being one, pulling into the same direction, working on a mutual goal that you all believe in. You believe in equality and shared communal values. You are not that likely to hold idols, but you do take comfort and solace in strong people; when you idolize someone, you love them for the security and support they give you, a Savants* admires their idols’ talent and skills instead. Chances are that you would never idolize anyone for anything, but you would rather consider anyone’s work to be of the same value; after all, everyone does what they are good at, and there is no better or worse job in this world (apart from those jobs that are really just here to annoy us all, something that has no real value but are just a distraction or needless entertainment). You may be into politics, you are drawn to work in government positeons and in anything that benefits the common good. Your wish to for everyone to feel united is your main driving force in this world, but you are not a leader as much as you are the Normal Person*, and even if you take a leader’s position, you still lead from the point of view of a member of a team; you know your position in a hierarchy and act accordingly. Life is good.

Even though the Normal Person* feel strongly about equality, they do believe in authority figures, which, to a Savants* feels illogical. Because to become an authority, you will have to show a level of understanding about a topic that is non-surpassed by others , then, the person who is the first to discover a new idea, to them is an authority in that area (always a Savants*, because the Normal Person* do not wish to experiment with new ideas that are scary to them). The Normal Person* do not regard that person an authority however, but a nuisance, until what they have discovered becomes proven, general knowledge and widely accepted, at which point, they will recognise his authority but are quite likely to attempt to silence him prior to this because his views can be deemed dangerous and volatile.

the Savants* do not think that way. Their attitudes to you feel foreign and very often selfish and despicable. Sometimes to you, they seem to be working against the team, and have anything but the common good in mind. They are very sensitive to criticism and tend to drop everything if they feel judged, rather than take the guidance and apply themselves a bit more. They are difficult to work with, but on the other hand they feel the same way about you. To them, you are meddling into their business, you are making them feel incompetent and you want to take the credit of their hard work. When you try to help them, they feel like you’re saying you don’t trust them to handle their own work, and if THEY feel like they can’t do something properly, they are quick to abandon the post and leave it to someone more capable. They do not like being the weakest link in the chain and they cannot stand the thought of having let the team down.

the Savants* feel they need to excel in every area of what they have been trusted with, or not do the job at all because there’s someone more capable to do the job. They take teams very seriously, but they need to be trusted with whatever they have been appointed to do. The Savants* make excellent leaders when trusted, and they should NEVER be attempted to be made a part of a team where they lose an ounce of their individuality and their sense of professionalism. If they need someone to train them to do something, they prefer to be given a few web links and guide books and a few hours of time so they can figure out what they’re supposed to be doing with very little input from anyone else – they feel both disrespected, untrusted, unprofessional and humiliated if someone tries to show them what to do by holding their hands through it. If you treated the Normal Person* the way a Savants* wants to be treated, they would feel left out, ignored, unimportant, left to their own devices, and let down. They would immediately feel bad about ever even asking for the job. As we often do unto others as we’d do to ourselves, the Normal Person* who welcomes a Savants* into a new position would treat them like they want to be treated, making the Savants* feel like an absolute incompetent loser and waste of air, making him or her doubt whether or not they should be even paid for doing their job because obviously they all feel they are not competent enough to do their own job.

The same thing applies with parenting and relationships in general. A very good example would be that the Normal Person* wife marries a Savants* husband. The day their first child is born, the Normal Person* wife would helpfully, with an intention to make her husband feel included, advice him on how to hold the baby. Because a Savants* never advices anyone until they know they are doing something horribly wrong, he reacts by thinking: “She thinks I’m stupid. I can’t even hold my own baby! I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, but she knows I can’t do it! I’m not cut out for this!” And at that moment, the Savants* husband withdraws from the child and the mother, because he feels he’s not a good enough father. Because he feels such huge responsibility for being a father, he cannot handle the thought of not being capable of doing it, and the more he doubts his abilities, the more his the Normal Person* wife is going to try and help him to overcome his insecurities but in reality makes him even more insecure every time she tries to make him feel better because that is what she’d want. At the same time, her the Savants* husband never helps her at anything, because he doesn’t want to make HER feel like an idiot, but rather than feel competent, she’ll feel let down, and that her husband is not pulling his weight and insists she does all the work and takes all the responsibility. He is too ashamed to tell her he feels insecure, because as a Savants*, being competent and portraying competence, and also, knowing one’s own place in a team without attempting bigger tasks than you can confidently handle is a big no no because doing so is potentially lethal to the other team members, especially when children are concerned.

As a Savants*, he has to figure out what he’s doing wrong, but since he isn’t doing anything wrong, he can’t figure out what it is that he’s doing wrong, but his wife is continually pointing out he cannot do what she’s asking him to do by constantly trying to help him to perform the simplest of tasks. As she grows more and more frustrated with his lack of participation in the family affairs, she’ll start asking him to do less and less while taking on more and more herself to pick up the slack, and he feels he’s not good enough to do anything around here! If you happen to be in a situation like this, start lifting your expectations and don’t check up on him on whether or not he’s completed his tasks. Ask for a lot!! Make the task list so big, that he’ll have to get to it as soon as possible, rather than procrastinating, because a Savants* looooves to procrastinate! They do so subconsciously to make the task more difficult for themselves, because there is no joy in completing easy tasks. They leave it to the last minute so they can just pull the job off and still do excellent job of it. Where the Normal Person* prefers an easy schedule and lots of time to get organized, a Savants* loves to wing it and make tasks impossible rather than easy. Many will never do anything until they find the task near impossible to complete – then they feel needed. If nobody else is even capable of doing it, they’ll do the task gladly, and the more important you make it out to be, the happier they are doing it – and the less demand you want to put on it, such like: “Oh if you could do X I’d be quite glad, but no biggie if you don’t want to”, although you feel you’re taking the pressure off, he feels you don’t even care whether the task is done or not and therefore you don’t trust him with anything important so this is just another way of telling him how incompetent you think he is.

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