Accessory friends (and what they potentially cost you.)

I believe we’ve all been born pretty damned narcissistic, back in some early early early incarnation of ours. From lifetime to lifetime, we become less so when we start to understand other people and their position better. We stop abusing others, even if in the way is the super narcissistic phase where you take pride in using and abusing others as if it was your birth right and close to a duty to do. (This is an oversimplification as far as reincarnations go, but to illustrate the point.)

Now, one of the last narcissistic streaks to eliminate in a person is the habit of having humble accessory friends and acquaintances. When younger souls have impressive accessory friends, those who make you look successful, older souls have humble accessory friends, people who make you seem charitable, inclusive, and open-minded. This type of narcissistic source has never been more obvious than in the woke culture when people are being educated in schools to have them, to accept them, and to work for them.. ANYTHING to make you look like you have

the right friends.

And the right friends are the ones that were the wrong friends in the super narcissistic phase.

Authentic friends and lovers.

True friendship always begins with genuine interest toward a person. A love affair is the same. Interestingly, a narcissist don’t make false friends in this way; they would never waste time on someone whom they didn’t see as a status uplift. However, the almost there -mild narcissist, which is, to be fair, most of us in 2024 make friends with minorities and GLBTQ+ people just to seem woke enough.

True friends should be ones who make you happy just being them, who understand you and can relate to you on a high level. Can a trans woman truly understand a CIS woman? Maybe. Still, their experiences are vastly different… Does a black guy truly enjoy the same music as a white guy, or vice versa? Maybe. Sometimes.

Take the value system and make it authentic.

To fix this narcissistic streak, you have to actually consciously decide not to use other people as fashion accessories anymore. This doesn’t mean DON’T EVER make friends from an “accessory group.” It means to make friends only when you truly feel a connection to them. The “trouble” with them is that once you make them into real friends, nobody can even tell you did the right thing by befriending them, and you cannot use your REAL FRIENDS as accessories. ;p They just look right with you, and have no ego boost functionality available… from outsider’s perspective; just that you feel like you’ve just won the lotto.

Make friends only when you truly believe you will love that person or those individuals. Remind yourself that there is a possibility to find your equals in different social classes, and THAT is authentic. Trying to pretend you’re interested in the friendship of someone whose IQ is 30 points lower than yours is foolishness. It’s basically abuse. You know…

IQ

It is possible for a smart person to be 100 points above the IQ of a normal person. Compare that to the IQ difference of a normal person and someone with a down syndrome. At the very worst, a normal person’s IQ is 80% higher than the down persons, and normally 50% lower. And you would NEVER UNDERSTAND why a normal person would befriend, let alone marry, a person with a down syndrome. You would KNOW there’s something seriously fucked up going on in there.

Still, we expect geniuses to be genuinely interested in normal people. It may not be quite as fucked up, but it is still not right. YOU KNOW the reason this friendship exist is NOT that these people can relate to each other or that they understand each other so effortlessly… If they think they do, they’re so far off understanding each other they haven’t even figured it out yet.

Social economic status

What you might want to remind yourself on, it was a great idea, in theory, to abolish the class system. THAT SAID, it was NOT a good idea to ignore the differences between individuals, their looks, talent, skills, IQ, and orientations of all kinds. We must understand that our intellectual and talent equals can be born in any social class and in any race, and THAT we can still take pride in noticing. But it is NOT COOL to try and fill up your friendship slots with people who would never be there if you didn’t think they were YOUR INFERIORS and therefore good for your woke image.

Don’t be told IQ or good looks or whatever doesn’t matter.

People who are looking to artificially elevate their social status through friendships and love affairs, will want to remind you all the time that such things as IQ, money, looks or body weight shouldn’t count in love. And yet, they do. It is simply not a sentence that is true, nor a sentence that should be true. Your lovers should give you a rush, and your friends should be able to make you feel lucky rather than “a good person for hanging out with lesser people like this.”

Your True Emotion Mirror relationship

There’s a good argument to be made about being a good person to reunite with your True Emotion Mirror. The problem may be that you have come to disagree with what “a good person” is and what is good enough, or perhaps narcissistic. For one thing, maybe you feel like your TrEmoR should be more charitable, as you’re ashamed of a person who isn’t charitable. You’d be mortified if people knew you’d date someone who doesn’t care for the elders or whatever.

What if your TrEmoR has realized something about accessory friends and allowing oneself be abused by people under the guise of a social handicap or lower social status? What if your TrEmoR no longer trusts your mutual project souls to be good people or even interested in becoming a good person in any other sense but good in external financial/fame status? What if your TrEmoR senses danger, and wants to protect you from those people, but you still insist they should be included?

Your accessory friends are bad karma.

You made friends under false pretences because you wanted people to admire your charitability and generosity. THAT gives you bad karma, you know? I know you did it hoping it will bring you good karma, but no. LYING about who you wish to befriend or love doesn’t make you a good friend or a good person, nor a happy one.

So. I would like to point out that in order to reunite with your True Emotion Mirror, you have to be an AUTHENTIC person; warts and all. You’ll have to accept and be proud of your exact match, after all – and deep down, you’re both equally exclusive people, WISHING they could keep the great unwashed at least at an arm’s length.

You used to agree on this, maybe, you were equally good enough, but if your values have sifted into misalignment, you may not be able to reunite.

Different life values will bring about unwanted life outcomes.

When you make false friends, your ability to manifest good things will get messed up. You will start attracting MORE of their type of people, and simultaneously repelling the right types. This habit of keeping unwanted people close can truly be a cause for a True Emotion Mirror separation.

Maybe you or your TrEmoR is ashamed of loving someone like you/them

Tell you what… I was embarrassed about the fact I only ever truly fell for celebrities and men who wouldn’t look out of place on a red carpet. It took me some time to come to terms to the fact that normal men just aren’t enough for me.

I know a lot of men feel shamed into loving physically unattractive, difficult, or troubled women, so they don’t appear weak, superficial, or elitist… Or something. So, they choose someone much beneath them, just to prove to “women” they’re not “like that.” It’s another accessory lover.

To fix this, be honest with yourself. Who do you actually love? Who is the easy street for you? Are they the same person? Who and what do you ACTUALLY LOVE and WANT? Let everyone else go to fuckery and think of you whatever they want. Who cares what some **** **** *** bitch or dick thinks of it? And if you’re honest with yourself, who your altered choice supposed to impress… And does it? I know it won’t impress your True Emotion Mirror… Not truly.

I think me and my True Emotion Mirror used the same accessory friend to try and impress the other. I don’t think either one of us succeeded. LOL

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