All these warnings… Can you trust ANYONE?!

In my posts, there are quite a few warnings about all kinds of stuff, but in addition to that, people warn each other about everything until nothing is fun anymore. Especially women are brainwashed to fear men, to not trust men, and to avoid men… To even hate men, but no matter what it is, there seems to be a warning label attached to it.

Personally, I am quite cautious. I don’t like being afraid, so I take everything possible into account, and I basically start worrying only if I can’t see a danger anywhere; People warn me about something that all I can see is good stuff, and I worry because their warnings sound either like a reaction to overtly obvious issue, or a non-issue; and I don’t know why they’d worry about something like that. Like… OnlyFans. Did she expect men would get on OnlyFans to pay nice poetic compliments all day long… and pay for that privilege? What is so unpredictably horrible about it, that we all must be on edge about it? Obviously, if she didn’t think men would think of sex or fucking her, she’s not going to be repeating the most shockingly horrible things some poop-lover suggested to her, giving the rest of us the “Oh is that all? You didn’t know some guys like to play with poop?” sigh of relief… But we stay in a state of: “So what am I missing? What am I unable to predict to tell whether this is for me or not?” The fact is, not everybody is the same, and one person’s dream job is another person’s life in Hell.

Warnings should come with the what surprised you -element.

Therefore, warnings should always come with the why -attached. WHAT surprised you? What did you not see coming? What do you suspect might happen if… Maybe others are not at all surprised about the fact that people lie. To me, that was an actual surprise at some stage of my life. Not that people lie, obviously they do, but I was surprised that people lie in order to sound cooler than what they are. To me, that made NO SENSE, as when people find out you lied, people think you’re an absolute idiot, right? When you lie about how cool you are, and get caught once, no matter how tiny the lie, everything else you do from there on is going to be… Worthless. Especially when it’s a smart, good-looking person, who is obviously fun and entertaining, and she or he LIES about something completely optional. Something they didn’t need to be, do, or own in order to be cool, and they still thought “Lying about this will work to my advantage,” and did it. That level of dumb took me by a complete surprise in my 20s.

Speaking of dumb… I’ve learned never to underestimate the level of stupidity people are capable of. Like… “Look, you’re hearing a telepathic voice in your head. You think it’s your celebrity crush talking. Maybe not take it to mean as much as hearing it being said by that person to your face.” That doesn’t mean that the voice is completely wrong or that it cannot be true; it’s just that you don’t know yet. Wait for further evidence, or at least prepare for the possibility that HE doesn’t know who the fuck you are when you break into his home expecting him to be happy to see you… Because his voice in your head said he would be!

But then, stupid is as stupid does.

Then again, it seems to be impossible to warn dumb people who cannot see the danger of not going there. Some people think that warnings are like saying, “There’s a gold treasure in that cave there, but don’t go in; a dragon is guarding it.” They think if you warn them from going somewhere or doing something, there must be a huge reward in it, and the danger attach is just strategy of keeping people from getting to it first.

It may also be, that being found out to be dumb as shit isn’t as much of a threat to a person who isn’t worried about people knowing they’re stupid as it is to someone who wants to be seen as wise, rational and smart enough to pull up their own pants. If you’re a dumb-dumb, you may actually find it FUNNY and ENTERTAINING, maybe even endearing, that you do stupid shit and get your ass thrown back onto the street because you pushed your way into someone else’s life and found yourself utterly unwelcome. Maybe that’s simply not an embarrassing thought to everybody… But a fun risk to take. (If so, go crash a party. Or a life, all I care. Tie a pillow on your ass so it doesn’t hurt when your ass hits the pavement. 😉 )

You have to start trusting yourself.

There’s so many reasons why people warn you about stuff, and a lot of it is worth hearing. However, just be aware that you’re not them, and they’re not you. What you’re capable of is different from what they are capable of. A lot of people decide “it cannot be done” and want others to believe it so that they don’t have to live with the embarrassment of their friend or next door neighbour achieving the same thing they failed trying to do. “Bitcoin is impossible to predict, don’t do it,” is not great advice. Just because this guy cannot predict it, doesn’t mean it’s a bad investment for someone smarter than them, and that someone smarter than them cannot see the patterns in it’s price movement.

Keep your own eyes and ears open, and start thinking “am I capable of doing this? Do I know what I’m getting into?” Just because one person is, doesn’t mean you are and vice versa.

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