An Enigma (“A Fake True Emotion Mirror”)

An Enigma crush, that masquerades as a True Emotion Mirror -relationship, is often kicked off by the Enigma giving the chaser attention. The Enigma is being friendly towards someone who often feels ignored or left out. They fall in love with the feeling of being visible to someone, and the ‘higher’ social status the Enigma holds, the sweeter it feels. Many celebrities wind up being the Enigma crush to someone by simply having been friendly towards a fan at a fan meeting. Many people think ‘high status people’ are or should be unfriendly, and get swept off they feet when they realize the celebrity was, after all, REALLY NICE. What they don’t always notice is how many other people they were nice to.

An Enigma is not really a soulmate but can cause so much confusion by simply existing that they deserve a mention in the soulmate typology. Despite the title, they’re also not REALLY fake anything, but they may feel like they’ve deceived you to think you’re in love and you’ve been loved, when in fact they’ve only dazzled you by being who they are and been friendly to you, with no other intention than to… well, be friendly, polite. Kind. To be a nice person.

What is it?

An Enigma is, to begin with, a very old soul. They have a lot of history, and they’re very far evolved spirit. They have a lot of connection area as who they are as people, meaning that they find it easy to understand… Well, pretty much everyone. This means that you feel UNDERSTOOD by this person, but you also find it very difficult to understand them – they are an enigma.

Enigmas are usually kind to other people (until they completely lose it)

To a person who is prone to getting fixated to an Enigma, such things as kindness matter a lot, but they find it difficult to receive in other people, and they are also stingy showing kindness to other people without wanting to actually make friends with this person. Therefore, they interpret all kindness from an Enigma as an invitation for (a lifelong deep) friendship or a love affair.

As the Enigmas are often both rich and famous (although not always, they tend to hate the middle-class life, so they’re either dirt poor or filthy rich.) I must mention, that the bigger the star, the more seriously the Enigma chaser may take simple kindness. By their logic, a huge star has NO REASON to be friendly, so they interpret their friendliness as extreme loneliness in the limelight (the poor thing) and regard this connection “divine” or “unusual”, and thus nothing short of “divine love”.

All people who think they have a celebrity True Emotion Mirror, should read this post CAREFULLY and see if it fits them.

A Nice, Good Looking, Talented, if not a Genius

These people are a 10 out of 10 people. The only thing they may be lacking is fame and fortune. They are smart, kind, talented, creative, energetic, well-mannered, good-humored, friendly people. On top of that, they often also have stunning good looks. (This is because everyone is born relatively beautiful. The difference is how you treat what god gave you, and Enigmas know how to treat their bodies right and bring the best out of themselves. They are rarely obese, although, when they are, you’ll STILL think they’re stunning, like Dawn French.)

They attract people to themselves in the droves, whether they’re famous or not. They have tons and tons of admirers, whether in secret or public, and they’re the man who every woman wants to do and every man wants to be.

Intimidating and approachable

On the other hand, they may also be too intimidating for people of their own calibre to approach. This is because they know what it’s like to be pursued by everyone, so they’re much more aware of the risk of rejection than the average person who thinks everyone just wants love… Anywhere they can grab it.

So ironically, the Enigmas get approached by a lot of people who are noticeably less attractive and talented than they are… In a sense, social pariahs. (I don’t know how else to make it clear… Enigmas are magnets for weird people who don’t really get understood by normal people. Enigmas understand everyone, so the weird people, the lacking upstairs -folk, think there’s their soulmate. The Enigmas may be “weird” themselves, and loners, so in many ways they are kindred spirits to the Infant Souls. They are the youngest souls in the world, who are still naive enough to think everyone loves everyone and love is truly ALL you need… Love not having anything to do with admiration, but everything to do with ‘inclusion’ and ‘acceptance for all’. The Enigmas consider them harmless (they’re not) and let them too close at times. The Infants are suckers for power and they get corrupted in a split second, whereas Enigmas tend to give them too much power.)

The Enigmas are nice to everyone, so the Hidden Positive modality will interpret this as “being lonely”, and “trying to make friends with everyone”. They don’t see “being friendly” as something powerful people do, but something that weak, sad, and lonely people do. This makes the Enigma a magnet for hopefuls who think they are saving them from a desperately lonely life.

Being nice is what nice people do

While an Enigma sees being friendly simply something that one does, a part of a decorum of a decent person, a Hidden Positive people see friendliness that isn’t intending to ignite true friendship as “being fake” and “misleading”. As far as celebrities go, they HAVE TO be friendly to all their fans, or the next thing they do is read the gossip magazines full of descriptions of how badly behaved, egotistical, and full of themselves they are, and how undeserving they are to be regarded as a role model.

The only other way they might want to play this is to “play it cool” but fans pay a lot of money to talk to the celebrity at a fan meetup, and they have to TALK to those fans, take pictures with them, and even fake interest in their personal lives. This is part of their job. Whatever they say during a fan meet, short for: “Can I take you to dinner later” is what they’re paid to do. The Hidden Positive people don’t always understand that, as a celebrity, in their mind, has NO REASON to be nice to anyone. They’re on the top of the pack. (When they make fame themselves, they’ll quickly find out a reason why being nice is a requirement up the top.)

The everyday Enigmas find themselves similarly guilted and shamed into being nice if they ever step out of line even the slightest. Because everyone wants to be their friend, and everyone thinks they know that, they get a reputation of ‘a snob’, or ‘better than others’, pretty quickly. The Enigmas don’t necessarily know that people feel that way, because nobody ever speaks to them so they live in a bubble of being ignored even when everyone is paying special attention to them. This makes them easily think they’re at the lowest rung in the pecking order as despite them being everything everyone loves, they’re also modest. This makes them think the others don’t WANT TO speak to them, and they accept it as a matter of course.

(Interestingly, the True Emotion Mirrors of a celebrity Enigma often say the celebrity avoids them during fan meets. There’s a reason for that. If you haven’t met before, they would sense a bizarre energy around you and they don’t know how to react to it in front of crowds of people. They appear somewhat panicked around you. They may also ignore a known stalker by pretending to “forget” to greet them to discourage further attempts, but you’d have to have met them a few times before this is the reason.)

Enigmas belong with other Enigmas

Their true alliance is with other Enigmas. The difficulty is, that they are shy, and as they think normal people think they’re weird, they are very cautious approaching a person who they think is perfect – another Enigma. However, it’s good to know that the True Emotion Mirror of an Enigma is also an Enigma. Otherwise, they always feel short-changed in a relationship.

It is also to be pointed out that they wind up marrying from the NOD-category a lot. This is normal human stuff, but the Enigmas should become conscious of their habit of Next One Downing, and stop doing it.

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