I know a few people who consider themselves asexual, but who, to me, seem more like absolute closet perverts, which means that they have so many taboo fetishes that they do not even want to look at themselves in the sexual light. They might have also noticed that normal sex scenarios simply do not get them off, so they NEED something extra to ignite the fire, but as fetishes and weird stuff is so abnormal these days, they find normal sex completely uninteresting and the fetish stuff a bit too scary to get into without ANY real sexual experience prior. Currently, men are completely hamstrung and hung out to dry as far as THEIR fetishes go, they CANNOT approach women in an assertive “rapey” manner, and that leaves a lot of female fetishists thinking they are asexual, when in fact, men are forbidden from approaching them in the way that they would actually want them to.

A lot of women will find it completely unfair that I am trying to liberate men again into doing what they do best – chase skirts and sexualize women (that’s what they’re meant for!) but it simply has to be done; women need to learn to say no in a way that a man can hear them, or say yes at equal volume without shame or guilt, but what we cannot do is to teach men to treat all women the same way – when not all women want the same treatment. The same, of course, applies to men; not all men are the same nor do they all want the same thing from women… A sexist attitude is to think “all men are the same” when that is not even remotely true, any more than the notion that all women are the same.

So… A false asexual person may be feeling forced to non-sexuality because all their natural fetishes are deemed an absolute taboo in the society. If a person recognises even a hint of a sexual interest towards children or is punished (shamed) for sexual behavior as a young child, this may traumatise a person for life in sexual terms, making them think of themselves as asexual rather than sexually traumatised or sexually oppressed. Highly sexually aware people also easily suppress themselves even as young children out of a past life instinct that this behavior or these thoughts are not acceptable and need to be put out of one’s mind before trouble comes. Very old souls are aware of their sexuality even as young as 3 years old, and a 6-year old may be perfectly capable of avoiding sexual situations with adults based on past life experience – or to seek those situations out, as it may be in non-oppressed children. (It may be very complicated for an adult to keep a sexually charged child at bay without causing a major trauma later, one way or another way.)

Our sexual morals are directly causing sexual traumas in other people. The sexually suppressed or oppressed, by the way, are NOT asexual, they are, quite the opposite, the people whose sexuality is so strong or so diverse that they feel they won’t be accepted the way they are and will, as a result, suppress their own sexuality just to fit in.

An asexual is not sex-negative, they are simply not interested!

An asexual isn’t afraid of sex, exactly, nor are they negative towards sexuality, but they are simply not interested in anything sexual. They would rather do ANYTHING but sex, and it is not because they are afraid of thinking about sex, it’s just that nothing about it is interesting to them. They may be thinking about sex A LOT, wondering why they do not find it interesting, given all the fuss surrounding it, so they are more interested in the non-existence of sexual desires or imagination than what they are interested in sex.

An asexual also isn’t synonymous with a person who is not sexually active at the moment, if that person is curious about sex and wants to experiment with it if they feel inexperienced. An asexual simply doesn’t care for sex, at all.

Fear of sexuality is a problem. Asexuality is not a problem, it’s a personality trait.

In time, an asexual may awaken, but for the time being, it’s best for them to just not get involved in sexual relationships at all.

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