Bad behavior in the Normal Person* vs. The Savants*

Both the Savants* and the Normal Person* are prone to exhibiting bad… VERY bad behavior at times, but for different motivations once more:

An Savant* wants everyone who doesn’t love him or her to get the hell out of the way and leave them to who they are.

A Normal Person* wants to see who will stick around DESPITE their awful behavior, and test their love and commitment by exhibiting awful behavior near them.

The Savants* may take their behavior to the public, as in they stop protecting their friends and family from who they really are and the stain on reputation by association, while the Normal Person* tend to act horribly only around the people whose love for them they want to test.

The trouble is, again, that when faced with bad behavior, the Normal Person* think they are being tested for their commitment (and fall deeper in love), but the Savants* think they are being chased away (and lose their respect for the person and fall out of love with them if possible).

As the Savants* under pressure would behave badly in public with the intent of chasing away all fake friends and fake fans, and fake lovers, with the need to know who loves them BECAUSE of the way they are bad, bad in the right, exciting and sexy way, but the Normal Person*, when behaving badly, want to know they are loved DESPITE their bad behavior that they consider to be atypical to them. “If you love me at my worst, I’ll give you myself at my best.” The Savants*, however, don’t think that way. They think: “I will never change, and if you love me the way I am now, I know I will never need to pretend to be anything I am not near you ever again.”

The Savants*’s behavior may mellow down a bit when they feel loved, but they also need to know that when they DO get awful, crawling home blind drunk at times, or whatever is their pet vice, they will still be loved for their dark side as much as for their light side. The Normal Person* feel that if someone can see through their bad behavior, and love them regardless, they will never have to behave that way again for as long as they live. A Normal Person* in a relationship with a Savants* will expect to see their behavior change once they feel loved and cared for, but a Savants* will expect the behavior to be an indicator of the true person they never realized they were before, and seek to end the relationship.

The Savants* tend to hide their worse qualities from people who they admire and love at first, and reveal them gradually as they feel more and more accepted. They only show their worst to people when they are completely fed up with them or they want to erase fake friends out of their lives completely by shaming themselves in the public eye (or in the eyes of their community). The Normal Person* see this as a cry for help or a desperate need for attention and love, and flock to their rescue, unfortunately, so the Savants* need to know that when they see someone trying to rescue them, pretend everything is alright (sober up as fast as you can, start acting deliberately pretentiously on-the-ball, while repeating “I am doing great” even if you weren’t) and you have no issues in front of them and they’ll quickly realize you didn’t mean them to save you from your misery at all. Again, when a Savants* is putting on a brave face and tries to be self-sufficient at all times, what they are trying to tell their loved ones is that “I am of no trouble or a threat to you, please, may I relax and be near you as I would normally be?” They also treat their parents this way, and expect to be encouraged to open up more, but in a humorous and non-threatening way, and that’s how they treat others, too. A Normal Person* thinking arguing and fight-picking way will make them turn inwards and withraw from others.

Unfortunately for the Savants*, the society rarely approves of the kinds of friendships they like to maintain. Whether they are alcoholics or into heavy BDSM or some form of spirituality, the Normal Person* always see their behavior as disturbed and want to break them away from their chosen people. The Normal Person* always think the norm is the best, while the Savants* tend to have other options to choose from, although normal works for them, too, out of their personal choice rather than peer pressure, and when the Savants* don’t follow a normal behavioral pattern, the Normal Person* consider the relationship invalid and unhealthy and tend to interviene. From their perspective, all mutual interests the Savants* share are only avoidance issues and therefore a symptom of an unhealthy relationship supported by other unhealthy, unbalanced individuals they call lovers.

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