Bad friends / partners; God complex

You might have some of these in your circle of friends. As I am blogging on my spiritual blog, I will dare to mention that these people MAY BE responsible for some unexplained bad luck that is coming your way through The Law of The Truest Wish; “I want nothing more than that person to suffer for as long as they are not with me.” The good news is, that while this is happening, there’s a lot of room for the victim to grow as a person and as, for instance, as an entrepreneur, and I feel that IF this is happening, the benefit is, that once you break free from this kind of a hold, you will be unstoppable. It sucks, too, that people who are afraid of real confrontation may use this approach to make your life a living hell, so the spiteful ex who never said a word against you maybe the one to think about… HOWEVER, let’s keep things in the real life arena for a while:

This person would want to train you to be their friend or partner again by talking behind your back, turning other people against you in order to tell you that your life will take a significantly more positive turn once you come back to them and accept that you belong to them. Once you do, suddenly people like you again, your business is booming and things are running smoothly, because you have, again, humbled yourself to this person. You think things are looking up, so you leave again, because this is the last person on earth you’d really want to be with, and lo and behold, bad stuff starts to happen again out of the blue. The idea is that you will learn to associate all the good stuff that happens in your life with this person: “You are never happy without me. With me, you will get everything you want. You always had tons of fun with this person,” while, at the same time, this person is really nobody you’d want to hang out with.

Other symptoms include that they are friends with everyone you’re friends with, but they may have separate friends from you. This ensures a power sift to their corner; if you leave them, you’ll also have to convince your friends to leave them, and that, to a lot of people, feels like an unfair thing to do, even if they easily could do that, so they choose to leave alone. To the Young Soul*, leaving everyone behind would be next to dying, but a Old Souls* may do that without much of a difficulty, even if this was not exactly their idea of a fun plan.

Their rationale is that “if I give you the best fun, does it matter you have to share your life with me to have it?” And yes, it matters. A person like that controls your life to the extent that they do not allow anyone in it that you would love more than you love them, or anyone who they see they might lose you to. This means you will seem to have the chances of having everything you want – but the one thing will always elude you; true love. This is why, in terms of True Emotion Mirrors, karmic relationships need to be cleared, because chances are there is someone like this making sure your Destination Soulmates will never find you. And the karmic mirror is not there by the design of God, they are there because you made a poor choice of a friend, possibly many incarnations ago.

How do you get rid of a karmic the Young Soul* thinking soulmate? Every approach I have tried have failed to seem promising except for the most unlikely: You don’t do anything. You decide this: If this person wants to spend their life being obsessed about you, let them. They are the ones running into a fist, not you. Simply live your life and let them fall off like a dried up umbilical chord when there is no longer a blood supply to sustain it. It’ll take some time, granted, but the better at doing nothing about it you become, the faster it happens, and by doing nothing, I mean… Don’t stop yourself from thinking about them, don’t stop yourself from calling them if you like, just treat them by the whim as if they were not special to you at all… Just like they are not. The likelihood that you’d want to call them or spend time with them… It may be there, and if it happens, do that, but don’t decide to do that again unless you want to. Just allow them to jump into conclusions about continued friendship or a relationship if they like, it is not your problem if they think you promised them something when you didn’t. Being friendly to someone, even an old friend or a fling, is not a proposal nor a promise or a full life together, and only a lunatic would take it as such. Also, be bold enough to remind them when they have made a promise to themselves on your behalf… I had a friend like this who wanted me to be her maiden of honor, and then, she assumed the same applied to me. When I got engaged, she didn’t even wait for my formal request of her to become my maid of honor when she already assumed those duties, without asking me anything like what I actually wanted her to do. And no, I didn’t have the heart to tell her that she wasn’t my first choice. So I had two maids of honor. Curiously, when she married, she had a clear roster for me: “Make my dress. Don’t get involved.” A control freak, you see, a control freak who I haven’t really spoken to after her wedding that seems like another lifetime to me.

I don’t even want to bother trying to coach these people into letting go of their victims. They don’t see themselves as abusers but great, fun, intimate friends and significant others, so it will be much in the hands of the victim to do the work of separation. The crazy thing is, that all attention to them is positive, no matter what you say or do won’t really make a difference, so trying to reach out to them and to level with them is just giving them a new hold – particularly my own karmic soulmates, who, obviously, on the soul level hear everything that is said about them, even if they were completely oblivious to it in real life, and, thus, the bond is being fed. So. Focus on other people, never feed the problem, feed the dream with your attention… Even if you had to feed it for your next lifetime.

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