Bad sex is had to impress/please a third party

People have bad sex all the time. The purpose of it is to “be right” by someone else’s standards. To impress somebody, like the genuine target of their sexual attraction, that may not be gender compatible. For example, a closet lesbian woman may try to impress a straight woman she has a crush on by having sex with men – the same way as her crush does. Most commonly, however, bad sex is had to appease one’s parents. To form relationships with “acceptable” or “the right kind” people, per the person’s parents’ expectations.

Currently, the target of “image sex” may be non-binary people and other GLBTQ+ crowds. To impress others by “being woke enough” to date a GLBTQ+ person. Maybe a disabled person, a morbidly obese person, or other “woke-level up” narcissistic image booster. “No, I don’t discriminate but force myself to sleep with people I’m not sexually attracted to.”

Many people feel like they have to become “sexually active” by a certain age, regardless of how they feel about actual sex or the person they might sleep with.

While you cannot control what other people do, you should do two things:

1. Do not involve yourself in other people’s sexual decisions. (Don’t stop, don’t urge them to choose by YOUR standards. Help them figure out what THEY authentically want if they’re under a lot of pressure from outsiders to choose what others want them to choose, but don’t dictate to them what they SHOULD be wanting or “be aware of wanting” or “will want in the future.” Their AUTHENTIC desires are unlikely to change; only how much they’re willing to go along with outside expectations like their parents’ wishes, is likely to change with age.)
2. Do not allow outsiders, as in people you are not sexually attracted to, such as your parents, to involve themselves in your sexual decisions.

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