Beware of the dog – Before you help/befriend the Normal Person*, make sure you’re safe.

Us the Savants* are romantics. We believe that all living things should live harmoniously and help all other sentient beings when they get into trouble. We risk our own lives to pull out dogs from sewers and share heart-warming reels to share the joy of those successes. Our hearts ache for the homeless and the poor and the hungry and the sick, and we do whatever it takes to make them better again. And NONE OF THAT has anything to do with what we call ‘true love.’ All that is simply being a decent human being.

In a Dog-Type Thinking world, however, nothing ever comes for free—not love, not jobs, not favors. Nothing. While the Savants* agree that unconditional love is very much conditional (you need to be pretty in my eyes, be witty to talk to, be a kind person), the way we think about it is very different. To Dog-Type Thinkers, true love means marriage and unconditional love means help and care. If you give the Normal Person* a gift without conditions, you’ll set their brain on fire trying to figure out why you’d do such a thing. Is it a trap? Is it a bribe? Are you paying for sex? What am I supposed to do for this?

If you’re going to help the Normal Person* on the street, ask them to deliver an empty package somewhere for you for money; don’t tell them what it contains (they’ll think it’s drugs but won’t care) and that way, he’ll think you’re square. If enough people do that, they won’t feel safe on the streets anymore and will oddly find the strength to pull themselves together, too. NEVER give more money to the Normal Person* than what they can reasonably use in a day.

the Normal Person* are deathly afraid of owing you something.

The reason is this: When they don’t understand what it’s for, they’ll try to repay you somehow to get out of the looming debt. The problem is that if you don’t tell them why you bought their loyalty, they’ll believe you’re basically looking to harvest their organs for whatever you gave them. They want to settle the debt somehow, to save their organs, basically. This is why rich people garner a bad reputation because the “clever” the Normal Person* of Thinker is trying to figure out why the Cat Thinking millionaire is being kind to them. They don’t see how you become a millionaire in the first place unless it’s for crimes committed against the whole of humanity.

The concept of “a gift” is not a sensible one with the Normal Person*. Sometimes not even promotional gifts are safe, especially if you give them to someone personally. You should always say why you give out gifts. “I hope you wear this and tell everyone I made it so they’ll come shopping at my store.” (And no, the Normal Person* cannot understand that; they don’t do random favors. You’ll have to ask.)

To be fair, the Savants* will quickly learn that there is no such thing as a free lunch if you get it from the Normal Person*. Many of us refuse all help – even from our parents – because of that.

the Normal Person* pay you in loyalty.

the Normal Person* are terrified of being alone, too. Therefore, they believe that any kindness is paid with loyalty. You give them something because you’re afraid, right? If you’re not alone and you give them something, they believe everyone you know and love are secretly mean and abusive and you need someone to protect you from them.

Loyalty to the Normal Person* means everything. If they love (like) you enough, they’ll die for you. They’ll also let you hurt them, and they may hurt you if they believe you actually love them, but if they believe they have received kindness out of personal love for them (true love, they’d think) they believe their job is to be loyal to you. Unquestionably. Not only will they die for you, they’d kill for you, too – and, I kid you not, if they love you enough, they’ll let you kill them for your pleasures, too. They have absolutely no idea how to protect themselves from a person who has shown them kindness… The more real the more dangerous it is. (Jeff Dahmer was probably the Normal Person* Thinking serial killer. “I bought you a drink, showed you love, now I get to kill you for my pleasure.”)

See, the Normal Person* Thinking loyalty is absolute.

“I’ll marry you for your kindness.”

the Normal Person*’s idea of what is a repayment for charity has a logic to it, yes. They believe friendship is always the payment, but you have to be very careful with them when you seem to be looking for friendship from them. If you seem to be in a good position but you’re “looking for friends,” they will always ask “what is wrong with their current friends?” They don’t understand, at all, that there are friends, and then there are people you’re friendly with, and people who are just charity cases for you to throw the crumbs off your table to.

Therefore, if you help the Normal Person* in any way – make a stand for a bullied co-worker, show kindness to the one who is always left to the side, you run the risk of catching the fleas, so to speak, because THEY WILL NOT UNDERSTAND why you want them to be your friend INSTEAD THE ONES YOU’VE GOT. Not in addition even, but instead. Your kindness makes NO SENSE to them, and they will draw conclusions. Even if you try to explain it in the Cat Thinking manner, it’ll make NO SENSE. You’ll have to use the Normal Person* Thinking expression: “I’m sorry but I made a bad investment. I thought I’d have a use for you but it turns out the situation has changed.”

True Emotion Mirrors and the Normal Person* Thinking parents.

That said, the Savants* who fall in love with their True Emotion Mirror often find themselves so full of love that they start a charity organisation to spread that happiness around. If it’s only her or him doing it, it’s like a cry of help. The Normal Person* are very nervous about the Cat Thinking sexuality. Between True Emotion Mirrors, it’s palpable. That makes them believe the sex was too much or that there’s a sexual abuse thing going on that she can’t speak about. They may think she’s a victim of sexual abuse, or that she’s using her sexuality to control him.

If it’s them both, the Normal Person* will think they can’t have children of their own or whatever. If you suddenly start showing attention to your parents after you fall madly in love, because you want them to see how happy you are, your the Normal Person* Thinking parents will think you’re in trouble somehow. You can’t tell them you’re not, either. Their imagination will run wild sometimes. The more you insist that you’re happy, the more suspicious your the Normal Person* parents get: “Oh, he/she’s controlling her/him…”

the Normal Person* Thinking True Emotion Mirror

It is possible your True Emotion Mirror is the Normal Person*. The fact they don’t expect kindness and don’t trust true love at all doesn’t mean they can’t have everything it takes to be absolutely amazing human being. If you’ve fallen for the Normal Person*, heaven help you, but you can, with patience, make them understand they’re loved for who they are, not for what they can do for you.

To make it easier for them to handle this, you’ll have to explain what they’re there for. You’ll have to let them know your terms in a way they understand. “Stay pretty. Just stay pretty. You can get old, but don’t get unfit,” for instance. If you think they can do you favors, ask for them. The thing is tho, the Normal Person* love to please you and to do you favors, but they may grow into thinking they’re there solely for what they can do for you, when truly, you just love them being them. So you could, if you’re in the position to, command them to be pampered. You might also want to clear conflicts between “good guy/girl” and sex. Are they supposed to be sexual or not? Do you want romance or not?

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