Bonding styles and methods, the Young Soul* thinking and the Old Souls* thinking

The way the two different thinker types bond is typical to the thinker type, but partially a learned strategy. Some the Old Souls*, particularly men, have learned the way the Young Soul* form new bonds and relationships, and can be quite good at it, even though that type of bonding wouldn’t be entirely natural to them.

For instance; An Old Soul* would naturally always bond through a calm, deep conversation, even wordless moments that simply leave you to sense each other’s energy fully. If this is a romantic bond, the Old Souls* would, by their nature, take the relationship to the bedroom on the first night without any hesitation at all, and they could, easily, start a permanent relationship without ever going on an actual date.

A Young Soul* bonding always starts with breaking the other one’s will first. They attack verbally, sometimes even physically, in order to show interest and that they are serious. They would, when completely in love, break the barriers by force, to create intimacy. They attack, annoy and pick a fight, in order to get the other one confess to them what it is that they are thinking.

A natural the Old Souls* is likely to first be calm and intimate, but if something delays the bond from developing that very night, they may, particularly if they are male, decide to attack their True Emotion Mirror to see what it is that she wants. If she doesn’t attack him back, because she is also a Old Souls*, the likely result is that he backs off before he does too much damage. A Young Soul* would keep attacking their object of love repeatedly, until they break or leave them permanently.

A Young Soul* who is forced into a Old Souls* thinking mode would never even know if they are loved if the people around them won’t engage in a fight with them or behave obnoxiously otherwise. They always need to fight or see the ugliness of a person in order to feel loved. This, to the Young Soul*, means that the other person trusts them to see them at their worst, and that they trust the bond to be strong enough for bad behavior. The Old Souls* never feel this way, but consider attacks as a desperate measure that will have to seice fast IF there is no positive response from the other – and the Old Souls* should become concious of this, at least stay for a full fight if you start picking a fight, because attack and run method is both ineffective and very irritating to both the Old Souls* AND the Young Soul* alike.

The trouble is this: Typically, when the Old Souls* start strongly raising their voice let alone get physically violent, they are COMPLETELY and UTTERLY fed up with the person and want to chase them away permanently. However, the Young Soul* feel that a person who is constantly arguing with them holds a trust towards them, they feel this is an absolute sign of love, trust, respect, and devotion to them, when it is nothing of the kind. This can lead to abusive relationships, where one partner is trying to get out by “beating sense into their partner” and the other is foolishly holding onto the belief that this person is expressing trust but has some issues with the level of violence they are exhibiting but that they should be able to teach them how to keep things in check even when they lose their temper… That, in case they’ve partnered up with a Old Souls* will never happen because the Old Souls* reacts to his freedom having been stolen, rather than some frustration that they are taking out on their loved ones like the Young Soul* do. (The Young Soul* have a bad habit of believing that They Never anger anyone, and if someone is attacking them, it means they are the trusted punching bag, the mom that a guy feels safe to attack when the world is treating him ill.)

The Old Souls* feel like they might be the Young Soul* when it comes to their True Emotion Mirrors. Now, another quirky abusive sounding difference between these two thinker types is, that while the Young Soul* believe a relationship must withstand all levels of emotional and physical abuse, a Old Souls* usually wants to exclude all other people from their relationship, short for their own children and parents. Their friendships are secondary in value, and they want to completely surround themselves with their romantic lovers or be together with their one love only. They will always try to relieve their relationships from all external distractions, which, to the Young Soul* is absolute form abuse or neediness. An Old Soul* will go out to show off their lover(s), and the Young Soul* will go out to bond with their other loved ones, as in friends and family, who, also, are often stronger loves than their romantic partner.

So. The MAIN DIFFERENCE about the Old Souls* thinking and the Young Soul* thinking is the ideal of protecting each other’s personality and opinions, versus attempting to change them through any means necessary, violence included. The Old Souls* respect everyone’s right to be the way they are, and disrespect NOTHING as much as people who try to control others and change them into their own liking. The Young Soul* feel the exact opposite way, and will always try to change others into themselves as a favor to them; “I will tell  you how to be my friend/lover!” The Old Souls* thinking men are rather the Young Soul* in this regard; They do expect a female to tell them how they are expected to behave in a relationship, although they strongly prefer to be left alone and loved for who they are, but both types love to be shown that they are welcome to stay, and wanted where they are, with the difference that the Old Souls* always need an exit, no matter how small or unlikely it would be that they’d ever need to use the exit, but they ALWAYS need to know that they have some way of leaving the relationship if it gets too much. (They also may instinctively think in terms of eternity rather than one life, therefore they always need that option to leave, because forever is a long time but should they mean ‘forever’ they do mean millions of years, potentially!)

The Young Soul* want all exits closed, no matter how badly they would fit together with the people inside. They want the deal done, sealed and unrevokable. They will show their love by sealing all exits and making sure you know they’ve left you no way out – and that’s how they want to be loved, too.

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