Brain chemistry is a reaction to unhappiness, drugs treat the symptom alone

This is going to be an unpopular post. I apologize but it has to be said. Depression, I believe, is not caused by “bad brain chemistry” or “malfunctioning brain”, but unsuitable social circles. Related, I’ll also claim that psychopathy (inability to feel love or sympathy) is another reaction to a worse social situation still – not a symptom of a faulty brain. Both conditions, I believe, are originated by the belief that love should ignite under certain conditions and if it doesn’t, the person is faulty. Let’s back up.

I believe that the feeling of love felt toward something and especially toward another person is the most potent happiness-inducing feeling there is, only shadowed by being in love with someone who loves you back. Now, this is where a lot of people get stuck. Because THEY fall in love with the feeling of someone loving them, they believe love given = love returned, automatically. Now, a person who is lovable and possesses many love-inspiring traits is often RECEIVING LOVE by a wide variety of people but may not feel love all that often. The reason being; the more lovable you are, the less impressed you are by other people.

I also believe that a person like this sometimes attracts souls who want to reserve them for themselves and force the situation where that person has no other choice but to love THEM, rather than chase other people. They energetically block competitors out of this person’s reach, to be the first one to the scene, so to speak. Now, this is NOT A PROBLEM when the person blocking the road is their True Emotion Mirror, but it IS a problem when the person blocking the way is a Trail Companion* or, even worse, their half of the Main Trap relationship.

IF that person has NO True Emotion Mirrors fighting for a chance to be with them, they are completely locked into a situation where they see no way out apart from FIGHTING THEIR WAY OUT, meaning they have to KILL someone… Either themselves to free their soul for another lifetime, or the people they feel are holding them emotionally hostage. Sometimes, it may be, that a person feels too much temptation from their True Emotion Mirrors and starts killing THEM off rather than the Trail Companions* or a monogamous True Emotion Mirror demanding the loyalty of a natural polygynist. (Ted Bundy.)

So yes, I’m talking about two very different conditions here. Still, I believe ALL unhappiness and mental illness stems from bad soulmate connections, and LARGELY from the idealism of having to treat everyone as you equal, having to be friends with everybody, and having to show love toward a family that simply doesn’t inspire it.

the Savants* and the Normal Person* feel differently

the Savants* and the Normal Person* also fall into depression for different reasons. The Savants* feel depressed over the lack of opportunity to find and stabilize a happiness-inducing situation or situations for themselves, where as the Normal Person* feels depressed because of instability and insecurity. The Savants* are often bored to depression, the Normal Person* may feel insecure and uncared for, which makes them depressed and seek to self-destruct. (Nobody cares about me, I may just as well end it here.)

Therefore, the two thinker types will react differently to the depression of a loved one: a Savants* tries to cheer a loved one up; you’ll find it. You can get there. There’s a chance… To the Normal Person* this sounds like: “I don’t care about you, I am not going to take care of you, I want to get rid of  you.” In some sense, that may also be true… “I am not going to be taking care of you because I don’t love you and it would be unfair to lull you into the belief that I do, and it would be unfair of you to demand me to pretend to love you – or it’ll be me who gets depressed.”

A Normal Person* will attempt to STABILIZE the situation of a depressed person, which means they LITERALLY make matters worse for them. They eliminate distractions, minimize demands of their attention, try to keep new people out of their lives, so they would feel as accustomed to their surroundings as possible. To minimize fear-inducing elements in their lives. This makes it so that a Savants* feels utterly trapped to a situation or people who cannot make them happy.

If a Savants* isn’t given a chance to change and take charge of his or her situation, the depression will never go away. If the Normal Person* is left to their own vices, they will never get better.

Whatever the condition, here’s the first aid kit

When the Normal Person* are angry, they mean “you didn’t take care of me”. An the Savants* means “You didn’t let go of me. You didn’t let me go. You tried to force your will on me.” In this context, there must be a note to say that the Savants* will turn into the Normal Person* when with their True Emotion Mirrors, and the Normal Person* will turn into the Savants* when surrounded by their lesser Trail Companions*.

the Savants* = liberate, give them as much freedom, options, and opportunities to move ahead as possible. Make their lives as BIG as you can. (Please note that the Normal Person* will easily run away or escape, to alert you to the fact they need to be held – cuddled, even.)

the Normal Person* = lockdown, hold, reassure, arrange a SAFE, PERMANENT situation that they don’t have to control. Make their lives small and controllable.

Financial insecurity to force “the pig” back home

Neither likes financial insecurity, but the Normal Person* -family and friends can try and FORCE a runaway to return back to them by spiritually blocking all money-making opportunities from them. This leads to the Savants*’ prolonged poverty because the last thing they want is to exchange the last freedom they have to the parental control of their family for financial security. A Normal Person* will return to their financial source (parents, former spouse, friends) much easier.

It is notable, that a Savants* will TRY to maintain themselves as long as possible and make do with whatever they got. They will be downplaying their need of help in their bid to hold onto whatever freedom they have, biding time for new opportunities to arrive. An the Savants* is likely to turn to desperate measures to avoid going back home or returning to “their loved ones”.

In the contrast, the Normal Person* will over-emphasize their problems, and make sure their family knows they are not returning home or to a former spouse out of entitlement, but for a DIRE NEED. They wouldn’t make themselves a burden if they absolutely didn’t have to…

Brain chemistry = depression?

I believe that the brain chemistry that is linked to depression (I’m not even going to pretend I know how it works) are a SYMPTOM of depression, not the cause of it. By treating the body for the symptom, you don’t cure the condition, but the condition is not PERMANENT. It’s supposed to be solved while on drug therapy by changing the person’s circumstances and helping them to change the way they live NOT by the order of their families “he’s got everything he could possibly want…” but by an honest conversation with a therapist and then action to support it. Money issue? Well fuck, have them read my blog for free.

I believe the drugs will temporarily erase and ease the problem by tricking the brain into thinking it hasn’t been that bad for THAT LONG. I believe that unhappiness lowers the serotonin and dopamine levels in the brain (and what else?) and is supposed to trigger the brain into problem solving: “I’m unhappy, I must change my situation.” IF the NORM, morals, expectations, responsibilities, and politeness stops a person from moving toward what would make them happy (like divorce, poly relationship, sexual relationships – because you’re not SUPPOSED TO be happy about such things) they feel stuck and the depression continues. What makes one person happy is not what works for another. What makes depression worse for others makes it better for others, but forcing yourself to sleep with the wrong gender people will certainly make anyone unhappy as far as sex goes. (Here, check if you’re actually as gay or straight as you thought.)

Being blocked from experiencing true sexual love (whether mono or poly) will turn any normally sexual person into depression – guaranteed.

One-sided (let alone completely unwanted) love is not an answer to the Savants* problems

the Normal Person* are often satisfied with one-sided love. Either they love someone (they feel needed and thus safe) or they are loved (they feel important and thus safe) but the Savants* are not afraid for mere survival. They are PAINED to be in relationships where the love is one-sided, but LESS SO if they get to be the one who loves. Usually, tho, they are the person who IS LOVED while they are stuck with the bill, so to speak. Especially the male the Savants* is the one who is stuck in a marriage where they (initially) love their wife more but finds themselves being loved for their usability, their ability to provide a good living for their wife. This is not the way any the Savants*, male or female, wishes to be seen; a provider. They ALSO don’t want to be the kept man or the kept wife, while the Normal Person* woman’s ultimate dream is to be the kept wife; the most important person anyone can be!

An the Savants* doesn’t feel being loved and cared for is enough achieved in life. They don’t feel they’ve done enough just securing their own existence. And that leads me to the next post about the Normal Person*’s stress levels.

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