Breaking an unwanted bond – the Normal Person* leaving a Savants*

It is relatively easy to get rid of a Savants*, because all you need to do is to say you want it. In fact, it is so easy that many the Normal Person* break up with a Savants* BY ACCIDENT. Basically, you just have to TELL or SUGGEST to a Savants* that you want out of the relationship, or that you don’t want it in the first place. They will instantly disengage their feelings from you. There is one exception to this: A True Emotion Mirror bond, in which case the Savants* may not believe you want out. But that’s another thing.

WORDS. You need words to get anywhere with a Savants*.

Every word with a Savants* is a magic word. They also chit-chat a lot less because they value words a lot more than the Normal Person* does. Not one word that comes out of the mouth of a Savants* is a carelessly placed or meaningless one.

Using words is the best course of action with a Savants*. They may want to talk about their feelings about the breakup you want but don’t take it to mean they want to talk you into staying. By simply STATING you want out, you’ve already broken up. If you want to offend them and cut them deep, or if you want them out by the end of the week, tell them that they are not financially well-off enough for you.

the Savants* tell you what they want, and mean it.

Typically, unless they’re adjusting to the Normal Person* Thinking for the benefit of easier communication, mean what they say when they say it. Never ignore stuff a Savants* says or dismiss it as “unlikely.” If they say they want a BDSM relationship, they want a BDSM relationship. If they say they don’t want to have children, they don’t want to have children. (Of course, people sometimes change their minds, but please don’t count on that with a Savants*.)

Now, if you get into a relationship with them when they state this is what they want and you try to veer it toward something else, they will want to get out. They will also not understand you leaving them if the premise of your relationship from the start is what you agreed on. And if you didn’t state your price in the beginning, they won’t understand you trying to alter your price now. Also notice this difference: the Savants*’s price is NON-MONETARY. The Normal Person*’s price has a dollar value.

the Savants* want sex, romance, and an emotional connection. That’s their price tag. If you remove that, they’ll want out. That’s also what they will try to give you if they sense you’re unhappy. The last thing they think you want is for them to give you more money. That would be an insult to both them and yourself if they’d think that.

the Savants* don’t want to be with anyone who doesn’t want to be with them for the right reasons.

the Savants* will never want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with them, and they definitely don’t want to be with a person who is with them for the money or financial security. They want to be with people out of love only. Love, to a Savants*, means the joy one feels for the way another person thinks. They are sapioamorists, which means they fall in love with a person’s way of thinking, joking, and communicating rather than the security and care they might provide for the physical body.

Therefore, ANY SUGGESTION that you don’t want them will break you up from them, INCLUDING playing hard to get. They won’t care about a person who doesn’t want them, and they TRULY don’t care about a person who wants them for the sake of financial security.

An Savant* wants closure – they want to make sure you’re not breaking up over a silly misunderstanding.

Therefore, if and when they want to talk about the break up, it doesn’t mean they want to continue the relationship. They want to know what went wrong about it so they can get what they call “closure.” To them, understanding the world and the relationships they have and have been in are very important. Closure means they understand your reasons for leaving them. Understanding people’s reasoning feels good to them. Getting closure means you’re both parting ways in sound mind rather than due to some stupid misunderstanding that could have prevented the breakup.

To the Normal Person*, relationships are a lot more practical: “You’re not rich enough,” “you’re not high-status enough”, or “I can find another higher status partner”, “You don’t work hard enough,” or “you don’t take care of my physical needs well enough.” To them, all that is self-explanatory, and doesn’t need a conversation. An Savant*’s reasons for breaking up is neglecting, suppressing, or dismissing their sexual or emotional needs, and have very little, if anything, to do with physical well-fare or status.

the Savants* thinkers rarely want to end the relationship COMPLETELY; they want to redefine it from romantic to friendship, for instance.

It is rare that a Savants* wants to completely remove their ex-partners or former friends from their lives. That kind of action to them is the last resort. Therefore they try to preserve the relationship and make it LESS INTENSE rather than more so. They assume you’d try to do the same or at least understand that. To be fair, sometimes they’d find a complete separation to be a relief, but usually, they don’t go that far. Instead, they want to redefine what type of relationship you have.

If you were romantic partners, they might want to stay friends with you, at least nominally, but they will accept it if you say you don’t want that with them. You simply need to SAY what you want or don’t want, a Savants* will always go along with the closest relationship BOTH OF YOU are willing to maintain, but respecting the distance between you both. They also expect you to respect the distance they ask of you.

If you want your the Cat Thinking child out of the house or your life, all you have to do is to ask.

In fact, all you need to do to chase your the Cat Thinking adult child out of your life is to suggest to them they’re a disappointment to you. They won’t try and fix that, they are what they are and they don’t change. That’s the definition of a Savants*. They most definitely don’t change in order to be loved, because they know that’s never going to work. Either you love them for what they are, or you don’t love them at all.

Therefore, a Savants* with the means to leave you will leave you if you express any suggestion of it, and they will rather live in a squatting house than stay where they are not welcome. DO NOT EVER suggest to a Cat Thinking child that you don’t love them or approve of them or want them around if you don’t want them to take off into the night never to be seen again.

Nothing torments a growing up the Cat Thinking child more than being financially dependent on parents who don’t seem to want them around. They will leave as soon as they can, however.

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