Broken people get fixed differently depending on their thinker type.

We also fix people and allow ourselves to be fixed, expecting different results.

You know how an old-fashioned army would “haze” the soldiers until they “break” and then get built back up again? This is the Modern strategy in love and rebonding: you break people with violence, you treat them like shit until they break, and then show them acceptance, approval, and kindness and make them bond with you. Works great on the Modern. Then, you can tell them exactly what you want them to be to avoid your wrath and to be worthy of your love and approval.

When you impose this to a Timeless, however, the results won’t be the same. If they have an option to quit, they probably will. If they don’t quit, they’ll treat it as “just a tradition” and allow it to continue, but there will be a minimal psychological effect on it, or they will make sure hazing practices are banned, or they will get their abuser fired, or they’ll simply kill their abuser if need be. Male or female, you cannot break a Timeless the same way. You can make them depressed, but they will start drinking and doing drugs if they’re broken, but they’re nowhere closer to rebonding with some pathetic individual looking to build them back up to their liking.

You will sooner kill a Timeless than break them the same way as you break the Modern. They also won’t feel the euphoric feeling of acceptance when you stop abusing them. All they feel is rage, and they will turn to revenge, not bonding with someone they deem abusive. Try harder; indeed, they will sooner die than accept you as their equal. In fact, you could be stronger, better looking, richer, and whatever metric you wish to use, but if you abuse another person, a Timeless will think of you as equal to a bag of maggots, not themselves.

Building them back up.

If you want to find true love, the chances are that “life” wants to break you up. What that is about is your the Modern soulmates ganging up on you, thinking the only way people feel true love is after being broken down to nothing, and then they’ll love the person who builds them back up again. A the Timeless will interpret someone’s wish to “feel true love” as someone who will be there when they need someone during their toughest times. Only after you cry enough, so to speak.

Both the Timeless and the Modern feel sympathy and compassion toward someone who seems broken. However, we react to it differently. A the Timeless will build that person back up so they can keep walking on their own again. They’ll undo the effects of the brokenness and heal the broken, but they don’t expect to spend the rest of their life with this person. A the Timeless also doesn’t show loyalty to a person who fixes them up when they’re down; they’ll simply reignite their hope and dreams, thank the helper, and move on. This is the way the Timeless feel: they don’t want to abuse your low state, so if you happen to fall in love with each other, it’ll be AFTER you’re fixed because they want to see people at their best to love them, not at their worse. The worse is simply charity to them, just first aid. Has nothing to do with love to them.

the Modern will react to being fixed differently, too. They expect it to lead to true love and marriage, or at least lifelong friendship. They bond through tough times and expect that kind of bond to last. Old Soul* won’t stay. Hover, when a Timeless fixes up the Modern, they don’t typically give them ANY guidance as to what they expect them to do. At most they try to model a behavior, without actually giving instructions let alone demands on what is expected of them. Therefore, the Modern fixed up by a Timeless will turn into an abuser. They will likely try to take over the reigns from the Timeless, they’ll turn on the person that showed them kindness during tough times, because they didn’t ensure they stay under heel.

The takeaways.

Only the Modern will ever appear to you looking pathetic and needy. Old Soul* will not allow you to see them in a state of need, EVEN IF they need your help desperately, they’ll still try to express competence and self-respect and try not to blame outsiders for their sorry state. A the Modern is always a victim, unless they believe their abuser is doing this out of love. A the Timeless will do well for themselves to not fall for these sob stories. A the Timeless should look for the ones who have problems but also show competence and will to find their feet again, and to pay it forward. (A the Timeless will never pay it forward without abuse linked to their help.)

A the Modern cannot be helped to do things better. They will believe they are within their rights, and it’s unlikely they will stop trying to abuse a Timeless to their breaking point. The only group that can learn from this post are the Timeless. So. Be smarter next time. All you can do. And how to break your abusers wish that you’ll ever love them is another matter entirely. That hope is tough to break, I’ll tell you when I figure it out myself.

I know this much: The next time you see a fucking blabbering pathetic maggot the Modern, leave them be. And with the Timeless, make their life as easy as possible, so that the Modern cannot touch them when they’re down.

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