Can a relationship between a good looking person and a modest looking person last and be real?

Yes, but it’s unlikely. The relationship is based on false ambition and false modesty, most likely, and as such, both motivations are somewhat toxic. It may also be over-confidence and lack of self-confidence.

I wouldn’t trust it, even though the relationship may continue for a long time. There’s a type of a person who likes to keep a public wife or husband while having real lovers on the side for the excitement factor, and that is certainly not a sign of true love, even if there are people who would find this exciting, either way. Some men and women like to irritate their spouse’s true lover(s) by having the status of the official partner, even if EVERYONE knew their spouse was in love with another.

However, the thing that bothers me the most about this is having different values. When one person puts in the effort and the other one doesn’t, things aren’t equal. Most people are not ugly – they’re lazy. They may think they deserve more for less, have entitlement issues, and even feel they’d be reduced in personal worth if they had to put in effort for the other person. One should never be ashamed for wanting to look good for other people; it shows respect – in addition to dominance, to be sure, but it does show respect for those you love and sleep with.

The thing is, beautiful people, especially handsome men, are told over and over that they don’t have the RIGHT to ask for their partner to be as good-looking as them. The value of looks is played down constantly, while still the beautiful people are the wanted and craved partners for everybody – so what gives? If looks don’t matter in a relationship, then modest-looking people should be happy dating modest-looking people.

I repeat: Most people are not ugly or even old -  they’re lazy. (And if you now say you hate the connotation that fat people are lazy, good, you don’t mind getting up and taking a run, then, do you? Excuses?) You are entitled to your priorities and values, but what you are not entitled to is to expect others to live with them.

If the only thing wrong with your lazy spouse is a flabby ass, consider lovingly forcing the issue with them; it may turn out sexy.

Always keep this in mind: If you form a relationship with an unequal partner, it is your DUTY to demand them to live up to your true expectations and wishes; evolve and grow from the stronger partner’s virtues, NOT the other way around. You don’t need to teach each other EVERYTHING you know, but be HONEST about what is important to you both, even if it has the potential to hurt them a little. Demand them to take you and themselves seriously enough to put in the effort needed – not only in physical appearance but in anything that matters to you, and if that’s enough to break you up, you weren’t a match made in Heaven, perhaps by the pearly gates, but not in Heaven.

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