“I have not seen him laugh like that since we were in our 20’s!”

Said a True Emotion Mirror of mine about his lifelong best friend, and my other True Emotion Mirror, J.

J. has been married to the same woman for 30 years. During this time, she has made some “improvements”. She has trained a wild boy to be a good father and a loving husband.

She has given him a stutter.

“As soon as I met him, I thought he was the coolest guy I had ever met.” Said his friend. “He had the swagger, he had the style. He had everything it took.”

Now, he shakes as he speaks and has a stutter. He looks as though it would hurt him to smile.

He is a man who is afraid of being a disappointment or an embarrassment to his wife.

A few weeks ago, I spotted HER True Emotion Mirror in the most unexpected of places – in my dream. He came to speak to me about his broken dreams and his broken heart. I couldn’t, at first, understand why he felt so familiar or… Something. I couldn’t spot it. Then… it came to me. He was wearing her face.

This was a man, so broken for the loss of this woman, that he had started to physically alter his own face to look like hers. He was broken without her. He had lost his mind.

I asked her to join us – in our dream, and they fell into each other’s arms, howling! Finally, finally, finally, my love!

Since then, My Love has been able to laugh.

He is free from who he is expected to be and free to be who he was, who he is. No longer a husband, but a man of his own right. And he is deliriously happy for his wife.

But had she not found her True Emotion Mirror…

What it is, simply… We do not know what True Emotion Mirror love is until we find it. Before that, we think true love is what you see in romantic comedies, more or less. Realistic, from True Emotion Mirror perspective, completely unrealistic from another perspective. Even in the movies, you have to TRAIN your man into being a proper husband. Humiliate him a little. Make him crawl a little and jump through hoops until he is ready to accept that he was wrong and you were right. That is our idea of love these days.

Do you have any idea how much I HATE romantic comedies, especially the ones starring one of my many True Emotion Mirrors ? 😀 Knowing exactly how many women were just waiting to make him a real life version of his movie role. “Pretend to be perfect. I know you are not but please pretend. For me. We have to look the part.”

He already was perfect. Any alteration would be a scratch or a stain on a perfect piece. But a lot of wives are more than capable of insisting that their alterations were improvements, rather than sheer vandalism.

The same is true for every individual in this world.

The thing is: very few of us know exactly what is underneath all of that junk. It’s like having dyed your hair so many times you don’t have a clue what color it was to begin with. Whatever the shade was, it was perfect.

We keep altering ourselves based on other people’s outright demands on it, our own idea of what people WOULD demand if they were impolite enough to ask us to do it, we stop ourselves from making an improvement here or there, because we fear becoming what we wish to become would seem pretentious or… I don’t know, cocky.

And your job, as someone’s True Emotion Mirror is to remind them on who they were before everyone else told them what they should be… And to remove the programming left on them by their previous partners.

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